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Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: JakeGrimm on April 01, 2009, 02:52:03 PM

Title: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: JakeGrimm on April 01, 2009, 02:52:03 PM
I just told my online bf that I'm really a girl irl. and..... guess what? so did he.

So... my gay relationship just turned lesbian. o.o

It's so scarey. Our stories are practically identical. We just started out for curiousity, and then it just got out of control and became more comfortable than reality and all that.

this is just.... insane. Lol. but funny. but crazy. but hilarious. Lol.
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: Alyx. on April 01, 2009, 02:54:10 PM
o.o

Funny how these things happen.
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: JakeGrimm on April 01, 2009, 02:54:58 PM
I know, right?
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: TamTam on April 01, 2009, 03:02:56 PM
Lol that's so cute! ;D Guess it turns out you had more in common than you thought, huh? ^_^ Funny how that happens..
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: findingreason on April 01, 2009, 03:05:05 PM
Oh wow, gotta love these things :D

Life can be amazing sometimes huh? ;)
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: Osiris on April 01, 2009, 03:15:13 PM
That's awesome. :D
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: myles on April 01, 2009, 03:25:33 PM
That is hysterical. I am glad it is going to work out for you! Best of Luck.
Myles
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: JakeGrimm on April 01, 2009, 03:32:35 PM
Lol, ja. It's crazy funny. I'm sorta going through moodswings over it, though. One second I'm giggling up a storm, then the next I'm chewing on my nail over it, before laughing again. lol.
Though, I'm taking it much better than she is. She ish much more dysphoric about coming out. She was worried I was gonna hunt her down or something.

We have two characters (she's an amazing artist and I write. lol) that we're going to keep together, but, as far as her and I go, she's not sure what she wants to do. I don't think either of us are comfortable with dating while we're pre-op. lol, so, I think I'm single. She's gonna sleep on it. and, I'm probably going to just go along with what she wants. LOL.


My head is spinning. LOL.
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: sd on April 01, 2009, 03:41:15 PM
That is a riot, what are the odds on that?

Go buy a lottery ticket, quick!
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: JakeGrimm on April 01, 2009, 03:43:37 PM
Quote from: Leslie Ann on April 01, 2009, 03:41:15 PM
That is a riot, what are the odds on that?

Go buy a lottery ticket, quick!

I know, right? I mean, that's just my luck. XP
*scampers out the door for the ticket, then trudges back in* I dun even have a dollar. XP
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: Arch on April 01, 2009, 04:34:27 PM
Quote from: Jake Grimm on April 01, 2009, 03:32:35 PM
Though, I'm taking it much better than she is. She ish much more dysphoric about coming out. She was worried I was gonna hunt her down or something.
Jake, I'm confused. First you called this person your boyfriend and "him." Now it's "she." So your friend is physically female but identifies as male? Or the other way around?

Just want to get things straight. It's a crazy world we live in--what a trip!
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: JakeGrimm on April 01, 2009, 04:51:17 PM
lol, yeah. See, we're both female, biologically. And online, we're both posing ourselves as gay males. Up until I posted this thread, we didn't know about the other being female. So we both came out about being transsexual.

o.O
does that make better sense?
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: hayden. on April 01, 2009, 05:46:44 PM
i don't understand.
if you're a FTM like you've said, you wouldn't see yourself as female, regardless of the body you have.
just my opinion, though.
lesbian would mean you're female. and you identify as male, correct?
all FTM's are born with female bodies (which is why they're FTM's) but they don't refer to themselves as females.
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: Osiris on April 01, 2009, 05:50:07 PM
So is he just acting male or actually identifies as male? Cause if he identifies as male then it's only polite to address him as such... I mean, several of us here are biologically female yet we don't appreciate being refered to as "she."
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: JakeGrimm on April 01, 2009, 05:52:15 PM
Quote from: hayden. on April 01, 2009, 05:46:44 PM
i don't understand.
if you're a FTM like you've said, you wouldn't see yourself as female, regardless of the body you have.
just my opinion, though.
lesbian would mean you're female. and you identify as male, correct?
all FTM's are born with female bodies (which is why they're FTM's) but they don't refer to themselves as females.

I'm still pretty much getting used to calling myself a guy. I mean, i'm just mentally a guy right now. I'm finding it hard to refer myself irl as a male when I'm not physically male yet.... *Blinks* it just confuses people I talk to which ends up confusing me. lol. I've really been confused as to what to call myself lately...



Quote from: Osiris on April 01, 2009, 05:50:07 PM
So is he just acting male or actually identifies as male? Cause if he identifies as male then it's only polite to address him as such... I mean, several of us here are biologically female yet we don't appreciate being refered to as "she."

Identifies as male. He's wanting to have the change, but is afraid to because of his father.
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: Luc on April 01, 2009, 06:11:13 PM
Yeah, that's hot... lol. Sorry, made me think of Eurotrip. Anyway, awesome for you.

SD
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: sneakersjay on April 01, 2009, 06:36:06 PM
Quote from: Jake Grimm on April 01, 2009, 04:51:17 PM
lol, yeah. See, we're both female, biologically. And online, we're both posing ourselves as gay males. Up until I posted this thread, we didn't know about the other being female. So we both came out about being transsexual.

o.O
does that make better sense?

So why the switch to female pronouns when referring to your bf?  And if you both ID as male, then you're gay transguys, in a gay relationship, so male pronouns...?  and not lesbians?

Am I missing something?
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: placeholdername on April 01, 2009, 06:52:02 PM
I think you're missing that the OP is still in the stage of the game where things aren't 100% clear (and may not be for a while).
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: JakeGrimm on April 01, 2009, 07:48:03 PM
Quote from: Sebastien on April 01, 2009, 06:11:13 PM
Yeah, that's hot... lol. Sorry, made me think of Eurotrip. Anyway, awesome for you.

SD

LOL!

Quote from: sneakersjay on April 01, 2009, 06:36:06 PM
So why the switch to female pronouns when referring to your bf?  And if you both ID as male, then you're gay transguys, in a gay relationship, so male pronouns...?  and not lesbians?

Am I missing something?

I'm still trying to wrap my head around everything. It sort of shocked me and got 'she' stuck in my head. I was sort of joking about the whole lesbian thing. lol. My brother was the one who started the whole calling us 'lesbians'... lol. I think I just needed to get 'she' out of my system...

Quote from: Vesper on April 01, 2009, 06:52:02 PM
I think you're missing that the OP is still in the stage of the game where things aren't 100% clear (and may not be for a while).

OP?
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: TamTam on April 01, 2009, 08:27:24 PM
"Original Poster," or sometimes "Original Post." :)
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: JakeGrimm on April 01, 2009, 08:40:16 PM
oooooh. okay. lol. ty.
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: Arch on April 01, 2009, 11:45:05 PM
Okay, I get it now. Thanks for clearing it up.
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: JakeGrimm on April 02, 2009, 12:24:32 AM
<3
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: Jay on April 02, 2009, 03:59:51 PM
WOW that is really strange.. but funny as you say! :)

Jay
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: JakeGrimm on April 02, 2009, 04:02:00 PM
Quote from: Jay on April 02, 2009, 03:59:51 PM
WOW that is really strange.. but funny as you say! :)

Jay

lol, ja. Funny yet sad. I really really liked him. But, when I asked if we were going to try and make it work, he said probably not.  :-\
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: Jay on April 02, 2009, 04:11:25 PM
Why couldn't he??

He lied to you aswell!


Jay
Title: Re: I came out to my BF, my bf came out to me... o.o
Post by: JakeGrimm on April 02, 2009, 04:15:23 PM
*Shrugs* it's the fact we're both physically female still. I think. I'm just guessing. But, it wasn't really working out before hand. We had sorta run outta things to talk about.