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Title: please help
Post by: penguin1332694 on April 02, 2009, 07:00:11 PM
I am a male who is trying to become female because thats what i feel is right in my heart. I've only told four people and two of them dont believe that i want to change.   :(   Any ideas on how to make them believe me?

Also my mom is all about god and how you were created as you are for a reason.

so i havnt told her or my dad yet because i know they will reject me.
Any ideas on how to break the news to them?
Title: Re: please help
Post by: Janet_Girl on April 02, 2009, 10:39:13 PM
Many use a letter or the e-mail.  But to make them believe takes action.  Seeing is believing, as they say.

As for Mom, tell her "Yes.  God made me this way and it is for Him to show me what he wants me to do now.".

Janet

Title: Re: please help
Post by: Cindy on April 03, 2009, 02:55:31 AM
Hi,

I'm not too good on religons but I agree with JAnet. If Mum believes that God made in a perfect form then the perfect form is a TG and you should express it.

Again a letter can be a very useful thing, possibly if it is to a religous leader and you accidentally leave it somewhere?

Life easy, living it is the hard bit.

Lots of Love and support
Cindy James
Title: Re: please help
Post by: imaz on April 03, 2009, 03:59:13 AM
Quote from: penguin1332694 on April 02, 2009, 07:00:11 PM
I am a male who is trying to become female because thats what i feel is right in my heart. I've only told four people and two of them dont believe that i want to change.   :(   Any ideas on how to make them believe me?

Also my mom is all about god and how you were created as you are for a reason.

so i havnt told her or my dad yet because i know they will reject me.
Any ideas on how to break the news to them?

Maybe she should look at that phrase more carefully!

I'm a believer (Muslim) and I believe that to be true. God made us this way for a reason and that includes being TS/TG. It's in some ways a great blessing even though a hard one and we say that God never gives us more than we can handle.

Their argument doesn't stand up and anyway it's up to God to judge you, not them.

Hope this may help.
Title: Re: please help
Post by: mina.magpie on April 03, 2009, 05:04:18 AM
Quote from: penguin1332694 on April 02, 2009, 07:00:11 PMAlso my mom is all about god and how you were created as you are for a reason.

In the same way that God or Nature or whatever causes people to be born autistic or to have downs or be born with ambiguous genitalia or a cleft lip or a club foot or having eidetic memory or a vestigial tail or a sixth toe or any of hundreds of other neurological and biological variations out there, (s)he caused your hypothalamus not to develop in parralel with your body. Some variations are beneficial, some of them are horrible, and some of them simply make you different. Nature, God, whatever is all ABOUT variation, and ultimately it boils down to YOUR quality of life. If you're autistic but a genius and happy to be such, don't change it. If you've got a cleft lip that causes you social and personal harm, it would be cruel of anybody to deny you that change, should you want it.

God, if (s)he does exist, made us the way we are to grow and to teach and to live and love and be healthy and happy. If your mom is willing to deny you this, then she should never use a doctor, reject medication or blood transplants or surgery, reject developmental psychology and science and technology and every other instance where we "interfere" with God's "will".

You are who and what you are for a reason, but your mom is not the person to determine what that reason is. She has no idea what God's opinion is on you simply because she is in no position to ask, and if she's going to put thoughts in God's head, or words in his/her mouth, then she's committing a sin, to my mind.

Mina.