Poll
Question:
Your feelings:
Option 1: My former dysphoria seems unreal
votes: 7
Option 2: My former dysphoria is sometimes in my mind
votes: 2
Option 3: My former dysphoria is a life-long companion
votes: 0
Option 4: I still have dysphoria despite fully transitioning
votes: 0
Option 5: I have not finished transitioning
votes: 14
Option 6: Other
votes: 0
A body at rest, with no force acting upon it.
Dysphoria is the motivating force for many to transition.
After transition, that motivation may seem to vaporize, the dysphoria no longer exists.
I'm not talking about regret, just the surreal situation where the former dysphoria seems disconnected.
Once you are happy with your body, comfortable in all social situations and feeling that this is the natural state of things does your former motivation seem so distant?
I'll update my vote in about 3 years.
I am still a work in progress.
Janet
Not finished yet. Though a good part of my dysphoria has been relieved since surgery. I was surprised though how much my dysphoria also has to do with not passing. I could only focus on confining body parts before.
There are days--many long stretches of wonderful days--where my dysphoria does seem a foreign thing from my past. I will occasionally get brief flares when reminded of certain things... chest, lack of prominent penis, possession of prominent hips... but for the most part I am able to quell the dysphoria. It doesn't consume me like before, and I'm more able to rationally remind myself that chest surgery will come in good time, the hips are slowly shrinking with exercise (plus there do exist biomales with larger hips), and... the lower half is likely to be a permanent source of some dysphoria. Unfortunately. I do feel more able to deal with such feelings now, however. More confident, less prone to long bouts of uncontrolled anger and sadness.
I'm becoming more secure in myself. Also passing more with the general public. The feelings of anger and sadness come back whenever I am around my family for extended periods of time (none of which accept me and all of which go out of their way to use not only feminine pronouns and my former legal name, but other unnecessary terms of feminine endearment as well). I'm fine alone and with accepting friends, though.
It's getting to the point where I have to think, oh, yeah, I transitioned! I'm just living my life as usual. And the guy at the tire place who called me ma'am didn't even bother me (I got sir by two others at the tire place and everywhere else I went yesterday, so...).
Jay
Quote from: michellesofl on June 02, 2009, 07:06:54 AM
I'll update my vote in about 3 years.
Me too, although I'm hoping it'll be sooner. :D
Full-time Katherine, name changed, hormones, GRS scheduled, out to the world, still working on whisker-clearing, I don't think about my GID much. But it's still early.
- Kate
Conrats K8... I too hope the time frame I mentioned goes down. I try to balance optimisim with realism. Keeps me more or less sane.
Quote from: Matilda on June 03, 2009, 06:55:08 PM
Transition didn't cure my dysphoria, but SRS sure did.
That's really good news.. I was a bit worried even surgery wouldn't fix it because it gets so horribly intense sometimes, but the consensus seems to be that it does. :icon_joy: