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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: Ryan on June 19, 2009, 08:05:33 PM

Title: STP Shy Bladder
Post by: Ryan on June 19, 2009, 08:05:33 PM
Does anyone else get this and is there anything you can do about it?

I want to get a STP from FTM Solutions, but I've found that as soon as my hands get anywhere near that area I can't pee. I keep trying to stand up and pee in the shower, but I just get shy bladder and can't even try it!

I don't want to waste $60 on an STP and harness that I can't use!

Thanks
Title: Re: STP Shy Bladder
Post by: Jamie-o on June 19, 2009, 08:12:49 PM
I had that trouble when it came to using an STP while dressed.  I couldn't get over the thought that I was going to pee my pants.  :-\  The thing that finally worked for me was to put my hand in a sink full of warm water.  'Course, if you can't even in the shower, that might not help.  Another thing to do is try to think about something else.  I used to read comics in the bathroom all the time, and I got over my shy bladder in public restrooms by thinking about the comics I had read while on the pot at home.  Hope that helps.
Title: Re: STP Shy Bladder
Post by: Osiris on June 19, 2009, 08:22:02 PM
until you get use to standing start sitting on the toilet then stop stand up and finish.
Title: Re: STP Shy Bladder
Post by: Ryan on June 19, 2009, 08:32:08 PM
Standing up and peeing normally isn't a problem. Like in the shower, I can pee. It's just if my hands get anywhere near there. I imagine if I was fully clothed and/or using an STP I'd be the same.

I play PSP alot when I go to the toilet. Although that's not something I can manage without 4 hands.
Title: Re: STP Shy Bladder
Post by: Jude_ on June 20, 2009, 12:23:00 AM
I just try and think about different things. Maybe hum a little song. For some reason that helps me. I had the same problem for awhile. Practicing might help. Drink tons and tons of water until you have to pee really bad, and then try it.
Title: Re: STP Shy Bladder
Post by: Mister on June 20, 2009, 02:28:02 AM
STPs are awkward and just plain nasty. It's pretty easy to learn to pee standing up but I mostly sat 'til I had surg..  now it's just easier to unzip and go.
Title: Re: STP Shy Bladder
Post by: sneakersjay on June 20, 2009, 07:17:36 AM
Practice!

If you can pee in the shower, try peeing in the shower while touching yourself there.  Once you can do that, try peeing in the tub without the shower.  And seriously, there is that fear of peeing your pants.  Just do it.  Yes, I said it.  Stand in the tub and pee your pants.  It's not the end of the world.  Once you do it once or twice, you find it's not a horrific thing.  Then move on to an STP.  You can try practicing at  home with a medicine spoon, which is really REALLY cheap, and when you master that, then order the STP.  That way you're not out any money while you get the hang of an STP.


Jay
Title: Re: STP Shy Bladder
Post by: Ryan on June 20, 2009, 08:26:26 AM
Thanks for the advice. Although you can't get those medicine spoons in the UK.
Title: Re: STP Shy Bladder
Post by: sneakersjay on June 20, 2009, 03:50:40 PM
Quote from: Gizzy on June 20, 2009, 08:26:26 AM
Thanks for the advice. Although you can't get those medicine spoons in the UK.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/All-4-junior-medicine-spoon/dp/B0018O4N6Y (http://www.amazon.co.uk/All-4-junior-medicine-spoon/dp/B0018O4N6Y)
Title: Re: STP Shy Bladder
Post by: Ryan on June 20, 2009, 05:23:26 PM
FANTASTIC :D
Title: Re: STP Shy Bladder
Post by: bean turtle on June 22, 2009, 12:52:46 AM
Quote from: Gizzy on June 20, 2009, 05:23:26 PM
FANTASTIC :D

i had the same problem the first time with the medicine spoon =.=
i was so worried that i would piss on myself xD
but nah it works but the best way to get over the shy thing is to drink a heck load of water !
go in there dnt look down there n just let it out !   ;D
(using the spoon that is) xD
Title: Re: STP Shy Bladder
Post by: Nathan. on June 23, 2009, 11:55:03 AM
Quote from: sneakersjay on June 20, 2009, 03:50:40 PM
http://www.amazon.co.uk/All-4-junior-medicine-spoon/dp/B0018O4N6Y (http://www.amazon.co.uk/All-4-junior-medicine-spoon/dp/B0018O4N6Y)

Dude thanks for the link :) I'm gonna have to get one now, then I might move on to a proper STP.
Title: Re: STP Shy Bladder
Post by: Jay on June 29, 2009, 09:30:22 AM
Thanks for the Link Jay.

I find my STP hard to use never really had much pratice with it and to be honest its bulky and I just find it hard to position it right the medicine spoon is a fantastic idea as it isn't big or bulky may have a look on ebay for one!

Cheers

Jay
Title: Re: STP Shy Bladder
Post by: Ryan on June 29, 2009, 11:41:35 AM
I just got the spoon that sneakersjay linked to.

Absolutely fantastic! So far I've only managed to use it twice. Once in the shower and just a second time at the toilet with my trousers down. Haha.

Shy bladder is still a massive issue for me at the moment, but hopefully it should get better as I get used to the new position and all that.
Title: Re: STP Shy Bladder
Post by: Miniar on June 29, 2009, 12:42:06 PM
*grumbles about lack of these things in Iceland and the hassle of ordering 'em over the net, what with customs and all*
Title: Re: STP Shy Bladder
Post by: sneakersjay on June 29, 2009, 03:09:18 PM
Quote from: Miniar on June 29, 2009, 12:42:06 PM
*grumbles about lack of these things in Iceland and the hassle of ordering 'em over the net, what with customs and all*

Your pharmacy (drug store/chemist) doesn't sell something similar to measure liquid medications for children in iceland?  Seems like it would be a common item world wide.


Jay
Title: Re: STP Shy Bladder
Post by: Miniar on June 29, 2009, 03:37:46 PM
been to three different pharmacies, described the item I wanted in as much detail as is possible.. the woman looked puzzled and went  "nneeooo.. we don't have anything like that"

Title: Re: STP Shy Bladder
Post by: Ryan on June 29, 2009, 03:47:33 PM
Pharmacies here (UK) don't have them either.

Post Merge: June 29, 2009, 04:57:11 PM

Someone help me.
I've not been able to pee in over 10hrs now. I've been drinking loads today too! My bladder actually kind of hurts.
I've had the tap running, I've tried reading, holding my breath, hand in warm water, breathing exercises and nothing is working. I wanna use the medicine spoon so bad but I just can't pee. I can't even pee normally now lol. Gah!
Title: Re: STP Shy Bladder
Post by: Ender on June 30, 2009, 12:21:53 AM
Quote from: Gizzy on June 29, 2009, 03:47:33 PM

Post Merge: June 29, 2009, 01:57:11 PM

Someone help me.
I've not been able to pee in over 10hrs now. I've been drinking loads today too! My bladder actually kind of hurts.
I've had the tap running, I've tried reading, holding my breath, hand in warm water, breathing exercises and nothing is working. I wanna use the medicine spoon so bad but I just can't pee. I can't even pee normally now lol. Gah!

Erm...  That can sometimes happen to an over-full bladder.  If you are absolutely unable to induce urination, it may be necessary to go to the ER and be catheterized.  It is possible to damage the kidneys if the bladder becomes over-full to the point of causing urine to back up into the ureters and into the kidneys (there has to be something wrong with the ureter or some other condition before this will happen, though--the ureter is normally a one-way valve).  Also, the body is *supposed* to take over and empty the bladder before actual damage happens, but... sometimes things go wrong.  Extreme pain would be the first hint.  Anyways, I hope you were able to take a leak.
Title: Re: STP Shy Bladder
Post by: Ryan on June 30, 2009, 11:48:58 AM
Yeah, I managed to go in the end.
Also just had my morning piss with the medicine spoon  8)