Well, i dont exactly know how to start this? I am i transsexual who really wants to become a guy. I don't think anyone really knows other than one of my friends. He became a male only a year ago my parents just think im a tomboy. And i dont know how to tell them that im a trans? Well for everyone out there i have a few questions:
1. How did your family accept you for being a trans?
2. I have heard that the male body is much better what are you oppinions on that?
3.With a prothetic (i think i spelt that right :P) penis can you still ejaculate and have erections?
4.How hard is it to adjust to peeing standing up?
Sorry this must be kinda akward. If you could please wite back asap it would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you ;)
1. My family doesn't like it, but the ones I've told have decided that maintaining a good relationship with me is more important than having their way, so they are trying to be supportive. There are a couple whom I haven't told, and who I expect to lose contact with when I do.
2. Most transguys will say yes. Most transwomen will vehemently disagree. :D And I suppose it depends on who's body you're talking about, and which way you swing. ;)
3. Transmen cannot ejaculate. (Or, at least, not the way men do.) Prosthetics come in 3 basic "flavours". Pack, Play, and Pee. Packers are soft prosthetic penises that are designed to give the look and feel of a flaccid penis filling your pants. Of course, there are plenty of strap-on dildos for having sex. And there are stand-to-pee devices that enable one to, well, stand to pee. There are also prosthetics that offer combinations of pack and pee or pack and play. The latter usually uses a flexible rod to enable you to position it up or down, although I have seen very expensive models that have a hydraulic system that pumps fluid through "veins" into the shaft, similar to how a real penis would work. Unfortunately, I've never seen one that combines all 3 functions. :( There are also a couple different surgical procedures available that each have their own advantages and disadvantages. I recommend you Google "Hudson FTM Guide" for a lot more good info.
4. Personally, I've not had much luck learning to pee standing up. Still working on it off and on. I did finally get the hang of where to put the receptacle of the STP, but I get shy bladder something fierce. There are a lot of guys, though, who do it all the time.
How did your family accept you for being a trans?
Hmm... varied. My mum at first was confused, but said she loved me anyway. Then it later came out that she cried a lot, and was ashamed. I think she's coming to terms with it slowly. The rest of my family I don't see very often, so I'm not sure what they think.
I'm not springing name changes or pronoun changes on her (or anyone) at this time because I think family needs time to assimilate the new information at their own pace without me shoving it down their throats. I've intentionally come out quite a time before going on T to help facilitate this. While I have no intention of backing down or changing back because of their feelings, I think it's my responsibility as a caring family member to make this as easy to deal with and non-threatening for them as possible.
Sometimes it's hard to keep in mind that most people's only exposure to trans issues has been through the narrow and downright freakshowish screen of TV, or though people stuck in a permanant unhappy gender limbo. A lot of the time I think they freak out because they don't want to see someone they care about suffer that fate. Education helps undestanding and acceptance.
I have heard that the male body is much better what are you opinions on that?
Better for what? Living as male in? Yeah. Living as female in? No.
I think it just comes down to what you want out of your body. What do you want to do with it? What do you want it to look like? What do you want to be perceived as?
If you're meaning the direction of transition and end results, there's pros and cons to each. FTM's get far better results out of HRT, but our bottom surgery options are by comparison poor in both looks and functionality.
I'd rather have been born XY, but XX beats being a brain floating in a jar! :laugh:
1. Yeah okay.
2. No, not better, different. The difference for me being one's right one's "wrong".. for me.. not for others.
3. Erection yes, Ejaculation no.
4. Everything takes practice when you're new at it.