Hello guys im new here and would just like opinions from women who has gone through alot as a MTF woman. I have written a blog about why i think im transgendered and if you may please read it and tell me your opinions. I know that it is all up to me but I am just wondering if anyone else has gone through what i had or had similar thoughts/experiences/case like mine. Thank you very much.
Hum.. well it sounds like may be you could be trans. You could try cross-dressing more to see how you react/feel in the role of a woman. I would also talk to a therapist and trusted friends to see what they think (remember friends notice things about you that you don't sometimes.)
Briefly reading over your blog, I would say possibly, But only you and a therapist can answer that. Get a good gender therapist and look into your feelings.
Absolutely no one can tell you 'Yes, you are' or 'No, you're not'. Only thru therapy can you find the answer.
Janet
You sound like you definitely do have some TG issues. If you are going off alone crying because you can't be a girl or participate in the activities that the other girls are doing shows a sign of envy. It is common amongst the TG folk. I guess the bigger question you should ask is, do you see yourself as a woman 24/7? You seem to want to be perceived as a female by others. the link to your pictures on photobucket didn't work for me since I don't have an account there so I could no see. Welcome to the forum, I hope you can find some help here. Huigs!!!
Hi!!
Don't fret, actually, your story is nearly identical to mine. It's kind of scary!! Haha.
The whole "man dude" thing with straight guys and how they treat women, it's exactly how I feel, too. I guess the way I judge it is if you are okay with dressing in women's clothes for fun but being a man at all other times, it's not transsexuality. But, that doesn't seem to be the case.
People have recommended to me what I'm going to recommend you should do--see a gender therapist! I have an appointment - my first - in a few weeks and I'm scared, but it's the only way to help sort out all the hooplah going on in your head ya know?
Good luck! You'd make a great girl!
Seeing a therapist when you think you have gender issues is always the best first step. As for passing, hon you have a great face shape already- no doubt that hormones would definitely do wonders for you.
Thank you for all your replies ladies. It helps to talk to someone about this. How do i get about getting a gender therapist? I have insurance but I am covered under my parents, I dont want them to find out just yet. I do go to a university, i will check to see if these services are available in my school.
That would be a start. Also on-line. Ask Nero, he says his is awesome and I trust my little brother.
Janet
Hi Tristian I think like you
if you want lets talk about it
Sandra Ts
sry I meant the athor of the text
tristian V
are you the same?
Sure heres my aim: Tj3stan30 :)
I am actually planning to have a date with a guy ive been talking to online. I know hes not just after sex and hes actually a sweet guy. He even offered to accompany me to a trans support group. But anyways does anyone have any pointers or suggestions. This is my first time doing this and i dont know wat to expect.
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Our stories are similar...
lol, it's sad when i reread your story cuz sum of it i been threw...
I use to be jelous of girls every since kindergarten, especially when they got special privalige and i didn't made me feel so torn.
It's possible that you could be a girl, you have the same issues
You're gorgeous in the last picture. If I didn't know you were a guy, I would totally think you're a beautiful girl.
Then I would notice the breast part, but yeah I would be fooled.
I am still battling with it, but then most of the time I think my life would be better just as the hottest gay guy, or a girl.... I don't want to mess up my life, I am just so confuse right now.
I wish I was just born with a definite frame of mind (preferably a girl). I wish my life was simple and clear rather than muddy as it is. I never been called gay, I act like a real guy in real life.
I want to be reborn. Because even if I transition society would never accept it, no man would ever love me the same as a natural born one.
Sorry to necro a thread but Wow Tristan you do look gorgeous in the latest pic there. =) Just wanted to say that. Hope you have been able to see a therapist and things are going well.
Thank you for your responses and compliments. I am now at the process of choosing a therapist to go but I must pick from a couple that my insurance (Aetna) covers. Im planning to call individually to see what their experiences are with tgs.
Im also planning on recording my journey through youtube so i can track my progress and at the same time offer advice/help for other tgs out there. I will give you all an update soon :)
Tristan, Sweetheart,
I think that not only are you trans, you so do pass!! I am not a professional in gender dysphoria, but from what I do know, you are a transsexual!! I am listing a couple of links that I hope help you in your journey.
With love....
http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TS/TS.html (http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TS/TS.html)
http://wpath.org/Documents2/socv6.pdf (http://wpath.org/Documents2/socv6.pdf)
HUGS
Brenda
Hmmm...
Being transgendered implies before all being a woman, actually.
Be careful not wanting to change your body because of some (male) phantasy about female body... you might regret it thereafter.
Finding out whether you are or are not transgendered might be a very long soul searching exercise. Took extremely long for me, because I knew that once the transition has begun, there is no turning back.
Quote from: aurora17 on September 02, 2009, 08:18:48 PM
Hmmm...
Being transgendered implies before all being a woman, actually.
Actually it does not imply this at all. It is an umbrella term which covers a range of people on this site, not to mention the ftm's. I also think transition is not an A to B path. There are many places to stop along the way and a lot of things you do are reversabile. It is quite ok to take baby steps and see what feels right for you.
To all that is interested in following my journey, heres my youtube page :)
http://www.youtube.com/user/TristinVanta (http://www.youtube.com/user/TristinVanta)
Nice pics in your movie there. Be very sure about putting your transition in the public domain because that is a genie you can't easily put back into the bottle! You'll need to have a thick skin for starters. Good luck, eh?
Oh and you're originally from Cavite? Hehe, my gf is going to Cavite tomorrow to visit her sister.
Thank you :D Yes i am originally from cavite city philippines, and your gf is to? what a small world. And as for putting the video out there, maybe your right i should wait to start posting videos until i speak with my therapist. thank you for the kind suggestion :)
I may have a different mindset than some girls here but to me, I think part of transitioning is being able to pass as a girl and in turn makes me feel like a girl. i dont know i would like some opinions pls...
Quote from: TristanV on September 11, 2009, 11:40:09 AM
Thank you :D Yes i am originally from cavite city philippines, and your gf is to? what a small world. And as for putting the video out there, maybe your right i should wait to start posting videos until i speak with my therapist. thank you for the kind suggestion :)
You're very welcome :) You probably don't want your vid to get stumbled upon by the usual abusive morons either - not saying it'll happen ... and you can always disable comments. I'm sure some of the folks here can give better advice than me on the trials and tribulations of transitioning openly.
Oh and my gf's from Aroroy, Masbate - her sister just lives in Cavite with her family.
Hi guys this is my update, i posted the same thing on a different thread.
I have spoken to my therapist for the very first time today and i think it went well. The talk was just about her trying to get to know me, my past, why I want to transition, my family, fears and stuff. She said that I am more than likely to be a transgender, but it is too soon to say really. for 45 minutes session, the price is $125, does this seem okay? My insurance will cover up to $500 and up to 50% then after. Im not quiet sure how many sessions i need to get to the point where i can stand on my own feet without her? I am wondering how many sessions you girls had to go to and stuff... She told me it usually takes 3 months for her to give me a recommendation for HRT. thats about $500 a month! i don't have that much allowance for that at the moment... I chose my therapist, even though she's out of network with my insurance, since she worked with 500+ TGs since she started her career and had alot of experience and connections.
Wow, there is indeed a great amount of time and money that one must have in order to get through this! Therapist, Hormones, Endocronologist, Electrolysis wow :S very discouraging :(
P.S. I have been wanting to dress up more often now, and the thought of dressing up constantly comes to me at night when everything had slowed down.
You have beautiful features! You'll do very well with transition.
Yes, it's very expensive and time consuming. But it does allow you a lot of time to find out if this is the right path for you. As far as the therapist, it sounds like you're going once a week, yes? For 3 months? That's a bit more than normal, at least that I know of, for getting the HRT letter. I went every other week for 3 months before I got mine, so you'd be doing twice as much as I and most other girls I know of have.
I would talk to your therapist and see if you can come in every other week instead if money is a constraint. As for the price, mine was 50 minutes for $150 so yours sounds like a good price as far as I'm concerned, but it probably varies from location to location and therapist to therapist.
~Sarah
Thank you Maiden :) I am looking forward to growing my hair fully and start taking hormones :)
Thank you for your feedbacks, they are very useful and important to me :)
She wants to meet me next week because she'll be away in 2 weeks, so well probably do 2 sessions a month for 3 months after next week :)
Wow - is that your own hair? You are way passable, girlfriend! I am so jealous. For some reason, it seems to me that those with Asian features have an easier time passing. I've wondered if it's easier for that ethnic group to pass in America than in Asia? Anyway, my only suggestion would be to wear something a little higher on the chest when you go out and put a sock or two in a bra. You'll be ma'am'ed and miss'ed no problem!
Yeah you are really pretty. You pass very well it must be your feminine face.
hi and thank you calliope, no its just a wig unfortunately lol, im still growing my hair out. It prolly will take me 2-3 years to grow it to that length lol. I think asian men do have a more softer features than any other ethnicity, that is why its rare for me to have an attraction towards them. I am 5'7 and petite however, i think 90% of asian girls are smaller than 5'7 and have a more petite body than i do, so i think passing in asia is a little bit harder than passing in the US.
thanks Kyle :) i do feel very lucky to have a softer face than most males, which i previously thought was a curse when i thought i was gay and wished to have had a manly face. i am lucky to pass as is without being on HRT or surgeries, however i'm still looking forward to being in hormones :)