hi my name is gary and i,ve been wanting to be a woman for the best part of 25-30 years but i,ve never told anyone till now. I am 40 years old and i,ve only just told the doctor and he was understanding about it but my mind is all over the place can anyone help. Just need a friend who feels the same (and this is not a joke) i live in leeds England. thx :(
Welcome Gemma. I'm Nero.
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Hi Gemma, :icon_wave:
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Janet
hi nero thx for replying. I keep saying to myself do i or dont i this is the mess im in i want to be female but faceing other people that will be very hard and not in the care pathway yet. just waiting for the psychiatrist.
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well as you can see i have already thorght of a name for myself (Gemma) a lot better than Gary and yes i would like a full sex change and not a crossdresser. thx janet i will be on this site for a long long time to talk to people and tell people how i get on with the biggest thing i have ever done in my life. How i feel at the mo is confusion , scared , feeling down :'(
Hi Gemma,
Welcome to Susan's
I wrestled with my femininity for years. Cross dressing in my teens, etc. I had allot of fear also and still do to some degree. Now in my late forties I'm accepting who I am and am noticing that others are becoming more and more accepting of me. Self acceptance is the key ;)
Hi, nothing like opening pandora's box. Always starts with telling one person. Then another...then another....
Gemma, You might try living as a female 24/7 for a time. That is usually recommended before surgury anyway. As far as coming out to others that is a sure way to break the ice. Let them see you enfemme. Then say Oh, I thought you knew. Sounds too simple doesn't it. We all have to start some way.
Hi Gemma and welcome.
Gennee
Gemma , you can e-mail me direct as I belong to a european based trans forum . meanwhile What can I do here in America to help you transisition ? I'm nearly 60 and I have been out since 1994. Ellen Shaver
Hi Gemma. Confusion, scared, feeling down go with the territory. :P
Talking to your doctor was a big step. Talking to someone else - a friend, a therapist, a support group - is perhaps the next step.
I'm sorry, but I respectfully disagree with Genevieve Swann. Going from where you are now to full time woman is a HUGE step. Better to nibble away at it. Do a little at a time, to give yourself time to adjust as you go. If I had to go 24/7 straight from the closet I would never have made it. Now I'm 24/7 and loving it, but I did a lot of work to get here. Don't jump in the deep end until you learn to swim.
Take your time puzzling it all out. There's no rush.
*hugs*
Kate