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Community Conversation => Crossdresser talk => Topic started by: barbie on July 29, 2009, 04:46:45 AM

Title: Wanting me to look manly
Post by: barbie on July 29, 2009, 04:46:45 AM
A few men are very interested in me.

One of them is my old friend who once went to the elementary school together. Last weekend I met him as he wanted me to come together to have a dinner with other old boys. I thought it is just friendship, but later I guessed it is more than that. My appearance was like my avatar. He commented on my wearing heels.

After dinner and some drink, he said I would be really hansome if I wear men's formal dress. He said he even can buy men's dress for me. I replied what I need is women's one-piece dress. He continued to insist that I have better wear men's formal dress.

Maybe he is bisexual, and wants some masculine features from me. I said to him that I want to be a woman, not a man, and I do not like my p*nis. He did not seem to understand m2f trangender.
Neither do I understand why he wants maculinity from me.

Anyway, I want to keep platonic friendship with him.

Barbie~~
Title: Re: Wanting me to look manly
Post by: finewine on July 29, 2009, 05:20:34 AM
Good decision, Barbie.  I agree with you, his interest in you sounds homosexual as he seems keen to place you in a male role.  As for understanding why, well - as you said - he's probably bi or gay.

Forgive the indelicate question but I assume your relationship with your wife is monogamous?  If so, then advances from anyone else should be dissuaded to avoid temptation and any violation of that trust with your wife.
Title: Re: Wanting me to look manly
Post by: petiteduality on July 29, 2009, 07:03:00 AM
Quote from: barbie on July 29, 2009, 04:46:45 AM
Anyway, I want to keep platonic friendship with him.

Honey, all friendships are supposed to be platonic.

Are you attracted to him? Would you think/feel differently about him if he wouldn't ask you to have more male features?
Title: Re: Wanting me to look manly
Post by: barbie on July 29, 2009, 07:46:24 PM
I am not sexually atrracted to him. In retrospect, I was attracted to two or three men during my teens.

Sometimes I just want to frolic.

I like to go out in full dress with my female friends who understand and support my ->-bleeped-<-. They are intelligent enough to appraise how the society and people will accept my public crossdressing. They give me nice advice on fashion and beauty, sometimes picking a skirt or others for me in store. One of them asked other people like "Isn't she pretty?" when they wondered my unusual height as a woman here.  Those women are far better in caring and sometimes protecting me. Still, my relationship with them is always platonic. Sometimes they also rely or want to rely on me. I listen to their agony and home affairs.

Barbie~~
Title: Re: Wanting me to look manly
Post by: Osiris on July 29, 2009, 07:57:52 PM
There are some people who try to make you fit the binary. He thinks of you as a guy, you wear dresses, so he suggests you wear mens clothing. For some reason, no matter how girly it looks if you got it from the men's department then it's ok.