Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Here goes my second try at learning about others experiences. I think I must have the most socially "constipated" family in the world. As mentioned in the previous poll, I've been out for now 3 years. I've been living f/t for over a year now, and have had my bouts of fun under the knife in Montreal and LA.

I was pretty close to my brothers and sisters. I am a middle child and have two younger brothers, and one older sister and one older brother. 3 are Catholic and 1 is a born again protestant.

As of this date, I have lost contact with them all. I haven't been invited to birthday parties or holiday events now in 2 years. At first, they sadly used the  excuse of "protecting" their children. I guess they thought I might rub off on them? That said, they regretfully won't exchange email or phone calls or whatever. They must think I've got cooties or something.

To me it's about their fear, shame and ignorance. It's not me, as far as I am concerned. What's been your experience with you siblings?

I have not spoken to my brothers since coming out to them last November. They are 100 % non accepting. Over the past few days I have been getting messages from distant family members and old friends telling me how sick and " in need of Jesus" I am.

It hurts but in spite of it all I am still so much happier then I ever was before.

Same problem here as in the other thread... I've got 6 siblings and each is a different person. I don't expect them all to react the same.
Those that know already are are split into "100% acceptant" and "25%" or so..

I have been particularly blessed in that I have had complete acceptance from my brothers and sister.  Both my parents passed before I came out.

-Sandy

Older sister accepting.

Next sister (younger) totally not.

Brother (younger) totally not.

Youngest two sisters okay but not extending any invitations to get together.

Two brothers, middle and youngest (I'm the oldest)

Middle one is living nearby, I saw him this past week and helped him paint his house.  We're not that close (he's socially conservative, VERY red-neck-ish, a "man's man") and we're on different wavelengths (I'm a socialist, very liberal, etc.).  He doesn't accept it at all (still uses old name and male pronouns), and we hardly talk, but when we're with family or together, he's respectful.

Youngest brother is in second year of college and lives with mom, he doesn't talk much with anyone, except maybe his friends.  I don't know if he accepts it or not, last I knew he was still trying to process the whole "trans" thing.  He doesn't use the right name or pronouns, ever, but we get along ok.

sister one is in suspended beleif, kind of accepts won't use any name to refer to me, but her hubby and kids use male name and try for male pronouns. Invites are same as always.
sister two is in denial, refuses to use male name or pronouns  and has hubby who hates me from long before, her kids follow their parents, she still talks to me as much as ever but my daughter and grand daughter live with her and they are fine with it. Daughter tries but can't get past mom, tells her daughter i'm grandma in one sentence and grandpa next. She is trying.

I am ok with this, they don't have to like me. They haven't turned their backs on me and will talk to me about it. Sister 2 has seen me in sideburns, still having troubles tho. The pronoun thing is discomfort for them to use the right ones and discomfort to me for the wrong ones. I don't see them often enough to let it get under my skin.