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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: Lutin on August 16, 2009, 06:19:43 AM

Title: Mum's acknowledgement
Post by: Lutin on August 16, 2009, 06:19:43 AM
I've been purging my bedroom of all female clothes recently (minus the pants - they're fairly androgynous, they fit, and I hate shopping for jeans :eusa_wall: :icon_anger:), and had a whole swag of knit tops that are really nice, but that I haven't worn in over a year and never intend to wear again (the thought of having my boobs on display, or even unbound under a tight-fitted top, makes me feel sick). So I asked Mum if she wanted them, as she wears that sort of thing all the time. So she took them, and came into my room today holding up an ex-favourite, and said "Dad and I were just talking, and were saying it would be such a shame if you don't want this one anymore, you looked drop-dead gorgeous when you used to wear it", to which I told her that I can't help it, and that I wouldn't wear it again. "Oh. You can be a masculine woman, you know, 'cause that's what you are, a masculine woman".

It was the first time that "masculine" and I were in the same sentence and not negating each other (as well and me and "drop-dead gorgeous", can't remember the last time that happened! ;D), and so while "woman" was also in there, at least the connection of "eldest child" and "masculine" has been properly made. :icon_joy:

Sorry, I know there's no question in there, just wanted wanted to share. :laugh:

xox Will
Title: Re: Mum's acknowledgement
Post by: Miniar on August 16, 2009, 07:00:11 AM
These little things are worth a lot aren't they?

Gratz.. your mum obviously cares deeply for you.
Title: Re: Mum's acknowledgement
Post by: CodyJess on August 16, 2009, 11:58:16 AM
I can only hope for such a good reaction with my own mother someday.  :laugh:

It's great to hear about the small triumphs like this. Thanks for sharing.  :)
Title: Re: Mum's acknowledgement
Post by: LivingInGrey on August 16, 2009, 02:42:41 PM
I've been thinking about this all day and I wish the few chances I had to talk about this with my parents had worked out this well. Instead of 'it's ok to be like this' I got  'don't be silly you can't be like that'.

Enjoy and hopefully you can keep the good luck going with your parents.
Title: Re: Mum's acknowledgement
Post by: Nicky on August 16, 2009, 03:41:04 PM
Have you come out to your parents?  If you have then it sounded like she is in denial.