I spoke to my therapist two weeks ago and I decided I was ready to come out to my mom. I sent her a letter in the mail a few days ago and she read it yesterday. I was really worried about how she would react due to her extreme religious beliefs. She called me yesterday after she read the letter. She actually reacted a lot better than i thought she would, I thought she would flip out on me but she didnt. She asked me a lot of questions, asked who all knew, how they took it, when i was starting, health risks, and things like that. She cried a little bit, and im sure she cried a lot when we got off the phone, but she said that it is my life and she wants me to be happy. I had mentioned in the letter her coming to one of my appointments with my therapist and she said maybe sometime but she isn't ready yet. I think by our convorsation she is still planning to be in my life through this and stay by myside. I'm hoping after is all really sinks in she will still be willing to try, but so far so good.
Good for you, Jet. And she did not close the door, but left it opened.
After she has a chance to think it over, and maybe even pray for guidance, she will want to see your therapist for some answers as to how she can be of help.
Blessed Be, Sweety.
Janet
Thats great. I am so glad it worked out for you.
Cheers,
Myles
Congrats! It's good to start with that reaction, with time and support she'll finally see you for the man you truly are.
Sounds like things will work themselves out over time. Your mom is willing to accept it so this is all really good news.
Congratulations, Jet. I'm glad the first conversation went well.
Don't be surprised if there is a certain amount of yo-yoing in your mom's feelings about your transition. That was certainly the case with mine, and she's not particularly religious. First reaction: Pretty calm and collected. Second reaction: A lot of crying and trying to talk me out of it. Third reaction: Outward acceptance, but still a lot of awkwardness. Now, after about 6 months, she's realizing that I'm not suddenly disappearing or becoming a totally different person, and she seems to be becoming more comfortable with the idea. Still working on the pronouns and trans-vocab, though. ::) :D
Good luck in your continued dialog.
Thanks for all the congrats and positive words. Jamie-o thanks for the heads up, I could see that happening with my mom. She actually called me lastnight. I was a little worried she wouldnt talk to me for a while or act really weird when she did, but our convorsation went really well. So hopefully things will continue to progress with her.
Also I might make a video going more into detail about this. Also I will be starting T soon, probably within the next month. So if any of you guys are interested in watching my transition, my youtube link is http://www.youtube.com/user/itsmeparker (http://www.youtube.com/user/itsmeparker)
Congrats Jet, its nice to have someone supporting you like that.
Jay
thanks Jay ;D
Late to the thread, but congrats Jet! :D
Quote from: NES_junkie_James on September 17, 2009, 05:17:12 PM
Late to the thread, but congrats Jet! :D
Better late than never! lol thanks man