Ever since I decided to transition my family barred me from entering home, my job fired me, my friends have rejected me and I have no love ones by the way. I am now 100% living ALONE struggling to survive physically to get money here and there for my basics and food, emotionally without lovers cos am not a genetic female and mentally striving to cope with all these problems. My only refuge is this forum though it's virtual, I manage to find a little support here, thanks to all.
How many here live alone and are completely alone?
Shelina,
is there any LGTB center where you live? it is always possible to make new friends.
Shelina,
I have read a number of your other threads and it seems that the country you live in is very harsh regarding those who are trans. I feel very sorry for you and the pains that you have had to endure. I have been 'alone' most of my life, but never in the way that you describe. I have always had people around me who were 'friends' and my family has always been close to me, if not close (loving). I cannot imagine how much pain you must be in to be in this situation.
As Yabby suggested, if there is any kind of place that is LGBT friendly near you, they may be able/willing to offer some support or resources. I wish you well and please stay as safe as it is possible, Shelina. :icon_hug:
Deanna
Quote from: Deanna_Renee on October 03, 2009, 08:41:13 AM
Shelina,
I have read a number of your other threads and it seems that the country you live in is very harsh regarding those who are trans. I feel very sorry for you and the pains that you have had to endure. I have been 'alone' most of my life, but never in the way that you describe. I have always had people around me who were 'friends' and my family has always been close to me, if not close (loving). I cannot imagine how much pain you must be in to be in this situation.
As Yabby suggested, if there is any kind of place that is LGBT friendly near you, they may be able/willing to offer some support or resources. I wish you well and please stay as safe as it is possible, Shelina. :icon_hug:
Deanna
Thanks you both but I don't wanna go there as I won't be able to have internet there and me I can't live without internet. So far I am surviving but... I am prostituting myself.
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Many have went that way just to survive. You not facing anything new for us. But you need to do what you must to survive.
I can only echo what the others have said. Seek out the local GLBT group, of find another TS as a roommate.
I am unemployed now myself and dealing with the unemployment people, which I should hear from midweek next. And I keep looking.
Best of luck to you, Hon. And just be careful.
Janet
Quote from: Janet Lynn on October 03, 2009, 10:39:29 AM
Many have went that way just to survive. You not facing anything new for us. But you need to do what you must to survive.
I can only echo what the others have said. Seek out the local GLBT group, of find another TS as a roommate.
I am unemployed now myself and dealing with the unemployment people, which I should hear from midweek next. And I keep looking.
Best of luck to you, Hon. And just be careful.
Janet
Thanks dear but I am not american and didn't understand the term 'GLBT' and thought it was a place for homeless people but after googling I now understand it is Gay, Les, Bi, Trans. I know a group but before I tried to go with them but they didn't accept me as they're very jealous of me, I'm stabbed by my 'owns' and even now when they see me on the streets some of them insult me cos they think I came to take their place when streets is NOT my place and doing all this by force. I don't really know other groups but if ever find I'll definitely go.
I was very alone for years and years and YEARS. My family hates me although that has to do with lacking money more than anything else. Being trans would be seen by them as simply a way to avoid making decent money, where decent money = decent person.
The lesbian "community" hated me, by and large. Not all, but almost all. They had a hard time with Butch, much less someone who's actually a guy.
My true friends have always been other guys, and I mean bio-males. Not many, but a few and a few's enough when those few can be counted on and have helped me even when I was down. Right now I live on a large piece of land owned by a bio-guy who not only endorses my transition but heck, I used his credit card to buy my T - and pay him the cash right then and there, I'm not in the banking system at all right now, I bank by Mason jar.
Shelina, my experience makes me think that you may find your best friends among bio-females.
I also think you need to get to a better place geographically if you can. Are you in an EU country? If so you can go work in any EU country. You can try sneaking into the US, it's easy especially if you don't look too "foreign" and you don't appear to look so, we have scads of illegals here and one more won't hurt. Through official channels, probably forget it, but there are places along our Northern and Southern borders you can walk right across, etc.
Informal jobs here are stuff like dishwashing, home care, bunch of stuff, I'm in the undocumented economy myself, I make "awareness" ribbons and peddle those, it's a living.
LGBT means Lesbian, Gay, Bi, and Transgender, one of those centers should help you. And, at least as an outsider looking in, it seems the Transwomen have their "stuff" together, you may find help there.
Just throwing out some ideas....
Quote from: Shelina on October 03, 2009, 10:30:31 AM
Thanks you both but I don't wanna go there as I won't be able to have internet there and me I can't live without internet.
Shelina,
please who care about Internet, you need to make friend and be with people that can understand you and help you and offer you some support.
you might get totally crazy if you don't have people you can talk with face to face. from my experience you feel much better when you can talk face 2 face with people that accept you.
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Quote from: Alex_C on October 03, 2009, 02:05:45 PM
Shelina, my experience makes me think that you may find your best friends among bio-females.
I second that, this is 100% exactly my experience.
Quote from: Alex_C on October 03, 2009, 02:05:45 PM
I was very alone for years and years and YEARS. My family hates me although that has to do with lacking money more than anything else. Being trans would be seen by them as simply a way to avoid making decent money, where decent money = decent person.
The lesbian "community" hated me, by and large. Not all, but almost all. They had a hard time with Butch, much less someone who's actually a guy.
My true friends have always been other guys, and I mean bio-males. Not many, but a few and a few's enough when those few can be counted on and have helped me even when I was down. Right now I live on a large piece of land owned by a bio-guy who not only endorses my transition but heck, I used his credit card to buy my T - and pay him the cash right then and there, I'm not in the banking system at all right now, I bank by Mason jar.
Shelina, my experience makes me think that you may find your best friends among bio-females.
I also think you need to get to a better place geographically if you can. Are you in an EU country? If so you can go work in any EU country. You can try sneaking into the US, it's easy especially if you don't look too "foreign" and you don't appear to look so, we have scads of illegals here and one more won't hurt. Through official channels, probably forget it, but there are places along our Northern and Southern borders you can walk right across, etc.
Informal jobs here are stuff like dishwashing, home care, bunch of stuff, I'm in the undocumented economy myself, I make "awareness" ribbons and peddle those, it's a living.
LGBT means Lesbian, Gay, Bi, and Transgender, one of those centers should help you. And, at least as an outsider looking in, it seems the Transwomen have their "stuff" together, you may find help there.
Just throwing out some ideas....
I'm indeed struggling like hell to ->-bleeped-<- off from here to go to Europe but I lack money, right now I barely can have a proper well balanced meal. USA was always my dreamland but now an impossible dream as it costs 2 times more than to step in Europe. Concerning the bio-females, yeah but it's difficult to find genuine friends but I don't know where to find them cos I am too busy with my basic survival for the moment.
You might want to just start hitch-hiking and go. It's easier to get money from people if you are traveling.