...who is now not even a friend. It doesn't sound much but it basically started my whole story.
I came out to my best friend a few months ago. Whilst I was really scared how he might react, I was also hopeful it would be good - he's gay, and I assumed he might find it easier to support me, coming from the LGBT community.
Boy was I wrong. Couldn't have been even more wrong if I tried. Initially he was okay. We went to LGBT Pride, he asked me to come out to gay bars with him, and I thought everything was working out great.
Then I found out he'd been talking to his boyfriend about me behind my back. Saying things like 'if she had a good f***, she'd stop all this nonsense', and 'I'll humour her while it lasts, it's hilarious'. My God did he make a mistake - his boyfriend got really upset and tried explaining how he often felt he should have been born female.
After several months of us accepting my coming out, he's stopped calling me Sean, and refuses to use male pronouns. I told him I'd seen my GP about getting referred recently - he says, 'yeah well, everyone needs to talk about their problems. You'll get over it. I've been thinking of seeing a shrink myself'. He's been nothing but nasty and spiteful for months. I've discussed androgyny (I identify as an androgyne) with him, and he's laughed in my face, telling me he doesn't believe I'll ever go through with it.
Sorry if I've just provided one of the most horrible coming out stories ever. But now I have a great friend and a trans ally in his ex ;D After all of this, I'm almost completely prepared for the hostility from my parents. It can't be any worse.
EDIT: By the way, I wasn't sure if this belonged here, or in the androgyne forum, but I thought it would be okay here anyway as a 'coming out' story...
QuoteI've discussed androgyny (I identify as an androgyne) with him, and he's laughed in my face, telling me he doesn't believe I'll ever go through with it.
How can you go through with androgyny? ???
Glad, you found out he'd only "supported" you as a joke when you did though. :)
I identify as an androgyne, but I'm intending to alter my body through hormones and particular surgeries... I know a lot of androgynes and non-binary people don't feel it necessary to do anything like this, but it's something I feel is important to me, to try to become more physically androgynous to match my mental state. :)
But yeah, the whole thing kind of threw me off for a while though =\ It definately made me stronger though.
Ah, the serious physical changes, not the change-hair-change-clothes routine. Thanks for enlightening me.
I'm the latter type, I suppose, not even sure how to get hormones and the like legally?
It is good that you found a real friend in the end though. :)