Despite I identify myself 100% as female in my head, I felt a nostalgia while discarding my male clothes. My shirts, ties, male shoes, costume etc... I have put everything in plastic bags and kept in somewhere and will discard it completely only if ever I succeed transition and it's not wise to discard these in case I must de-transition by force due to circumstancial reasons, we never know but I'll struggle maximum I can to be woman.
I did not discard my indoor clothes though. Funnily I still wear male underwear inside with female clothes outside unless I need to meet a guy. I wear male clothes inside house or when I am going to the nearby shop cos I am too lazy to wear make-up just to go and buy bread early morning.
How about you and discarding your past gender clothes? Did you feel nostalgic or something?
No I wasn't really. I was always a tom boy anyhow, so I didn't have much girly clothes except for bra's maybe but thats about it.
Jay
I can't wait to get rid of my other clothes. I haven't wore guy jeans or underwear in months, except for once when I was way behind on laundry :P. Also, I'm becoming handy at sewing so I'll probably restitch some of my shirts into feminine fit clothes, shouldn't be too hard and it will save me money!
I live with my parents, and have so much old girly stuff in the closet that I did not ask for. I'm tempted to just throw it all out for the garbage truck. and I surely will eventually. cause my patience is wearing thin.
Quote from: northy on October 12, 2009, 03:40:07 AMI'm tempted to just throw it all out for the garbage truck.
My address is.....
Nope!
I don't have much feminine clothes. I've worn mens clothes since I was a kid. I have a couple business-like dresses in my closet that my mom says I'll be forced to wear in the job world. Meh...might as well keep them if that's coming my way then
Nope... felt cold for about a moment, then i got dressed again :)
No, I did not. It felt great, as no matter what I will never revert back to the former gender, However, I felt it better than just throw out some of the expensive stuff I had bought or had been bought for me, I donated it to a local thrift store. :angel:
No.
Smiled happily the entire way to the Goodwill store and even happier to rid myself of everything, including socks and underwear (that stuff hit the dumpster!)
Jay
No. I still have a little of it but when I gave most of it away it was fantastic. :)
Two words. HELL NO. It was the final burial of that life. I did keep a couple of tees that I really like. Kind of male in size, but they are just for knocking around the house.
Janet
When I threw out mine I took a picture, and the neighbors thought I had lost my mind. I didn't end up saving it because it was just a picture of a trash bag sitting atop some cat litter and spaghetti leavings, but it seemed like something significant at the time.
I still need many things because of work & my current situation, but I have been clearing out a lot of old clothes & other items over the past few weeks so that moving will be easier in a month or two. I haven't been sad to see any of it go, but it did make me stop and reflect a bit. It's kind of like if you've ever lost a lot of weight and you hold up the pair of jeans that would now look like clown pants on you - which happens to be the secondary reason I'm getting rid of lots of things ;D
It's like a visual affirmation that things are going in the right direction, it's not a sadness at all.
Nope. I didn't have much girl clothes to begin with, but I donated it and felt good. I love my comfy boys clothes.
the only thing i was sad about was the amount of money i had to spend at target and kohl's to replace everything that either didn't fit, or was too male for me xD
and yeah, i donated to the local salvation army, too many otherwise good jeans to simply toss
No, but I didn't really have girly clothes anyway.
For me, at least right now, I'm rather androgyne in things regarding clothing. I may identify female, but it doesn't bother me much if I'm wearing boy's or girl's clothing. *shrugs* that's just me I guess :laugh:
I got nostalgic about some special (to me) items, but I was happy to get rid of the rest.
I thought of keeping some male clothes for gardening or painting, but the very idea of putting on jeans cut for men turned my stomach. So when I took my old clothes to the thrift store, I picked up some female stuff for doing messy stuff in.
Ugh. :icon_blah: The very idea of wearing male underwear is repugnant to me. But each to one's own. ::)
- Kate
A more serious response than before... but it had to be done...
Not paticularly, I sortof slid full time... no real 'now she isnt, now she is' moment. I slowly replaced things till i had a more androgynous wardrobe, which lasted me till about 6 months on hrt, by that time, I wasnt able to pass as a boy, even in adnrogynous clothes... i dumped some, and bought other female stuff and just went on with things... I still do wear some male cut clothes, though I have to buy trousers and tops(male ones are the only ones you can GET) for a sport i play, a size larger in the trousres to accomodate for hips.. they sure arent cut for that. And usually a size bigger top for my bust. Unflattering, yet flattering at the same time... somehow.
I dont really pertain much emotional attachment to clothes.... the only things i kept was two ties, but I wear those to the 'school disco' club night in town.... its no entry without a tie... school boy or school girl!
Actually i was very Happy to disgard all the old clothes. The day I went full time was the last day I owned guy stuff. Never looked back.
Beni
Quote from: K8 on October 12, 2009, 07:43:39 PM
The very idea of wearing male underwear is repugnant to me.
- Kate
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Heh. My mom dressed me. I had almost no clothes and I was fashion retarded until I started wearing womens' clothing. It's funny, crossdressing made me stop looking like a weird creep and turned me into a 'rockstar.'
I could never find clothes I liked. I hated everything that anyone would suggest. Go figure, right?
I tried several times to throw out my incredibly old clothes but my mom always went on and on about donating them to good will and always kept me from tossing them. Having actually gone thrift shopping now, I realize this ->-bleeped-<- belongs in the trash, not in one of those places. When I clean this week, that's where it's going.
When I first started womens' clothing I was almost 20 pounds lighter than I am now, so combined with my scoliosis, all the "thin bitch" clothes I can't wear are going to a more petite MTF I know. :laugh:
I was sad to think about the money that was spent on those clothes, and just how much I could do to my car, or all the computer hardware I could have bought instead.
Not to mention all the wasted effort shopping. I used to hate shopping, it was only very rarely I'd find something I liked in the female section - and usually it was "yet another t-shirt" (that I'd prefer in a man's cut anyway). And shop girls were always rude and / or patronizing because I obviously didn't belong.
My ex threw money at me to dress from the female section, so I tried to find anything I could live with - price be damned. It barely got worn though, most of it only once or twice (and some of the dresses, not at all).
I donated it all to charity. I really hope some young girl stuck out in bumpkinville here (where spandex on well-fed women with ugg boots is high fashion) who doesn't have a lot of cash can buy them cheap and make good use of them.
Heh, I spent so much time looking over at the men's section, seeing many things I liked, and wishing I could wear it without my ex chucking a hissy fit. Nowerdays, I secretly enjoy "refilling the wardrobe" (I know... not a manly thing to admit) but I can't afford to do it beyond the bare minimum to not be cold.... or arrested :laugh:.
Was a tomboy as a kid, couldn't wear any girls clothes without kicking up a storm. Never had to get rid of anything... well, maybe the dresses when the time comes. I'll just give 'em away.
all mine burned up with my house last year. Total loss. It was a good opportunity to get a whole new wardrobe of more gender appropriate clothing, but I don't really miss the man clothes anyway and the insurance reimbursed me good money for them. There was other stuff that burned up that I miss much more.
For me, it's more that I'm raised in a household where there's limited money available and as a result, I've got a hard time throwing out "a perfectly good sweater" that I have never worn, will never wear, and doesn't fit any of my siblings/parents.
... I have three large paper bags under my bed, filled to the brim, of "girl clothes", most of which have never been worn.
I "know" I could give 'em to charity, but that means taking a 40 minute walk with heavy bags full of "stuff" and I'm just not physically up to it.
Mind you, I'll be donating my boots to whomever can wear 'em!
I suppose,.. when I get around to it...
I struggled to find male clothes that I liked and could be happy wearing for... ever. I always avoided it then the last year of 'living male' I only wore black pants and black polo's and the odd black T-shirt/band shirt. Boring but it let me not worry so much about how I looked. As soon as I started HRT I bagged up all my male clothes that I didn't wear and gave them to charity. Up to now I've been going out androgynous just fem jeans and the least baggy of my band shirts for day wear and nicer outfits for going out. When I have a big enough collection to have old fem clothes then I'll get rid of all my remaining male clothes (pants), they're still good for gardening etc.
Now I'm buying more jeans and female shirts which are fitting really well and make me look so much better. It's amazing how much clothing can brighten your mood. As soon as I get home it's straight into my PJ's :P they're just too comfy :D :D
Was I ever sad, quite the opposite. Just like the feeling of putting on a new piece of clothing and realising how good they look! 8-D
I have to say it was a relief to get rid of my male clothes. Knowing I would never wear them again was a great relief.
I'm the weird one here (LOL), I gave away some of mine to T-guys, and the crappy ones I threw out, and I kept a few that I really liked. I have girl clothes, for sure, but I also have boy clothes and I've walked out side of the house wearing boy clothes and all I usually get is "dyke." LOL
I wore some once for a drag king show I did. I should do that again. I keep meaning too, but I keep having a chaotic life. LOL
I'd have to say, however, that my "boy" clothes that I kept were gothy looking or band T-shirts. *shrugs* I like them. :)
I have no problem going out wearing a band T-shirt, a big old boy hoodie, or boy bondage pants (I have two pairs, once I owned before, and another a good friend bought for me after my SRS). The only sad thing about the bondage pants is that the used to be big on me, but now they are getting smaller and smaller, 'cause my hips are getting bigger and bigger. LOL
I have many different looks, depending on how I feel or what I wanna do that day. Sometimes I go out looking girly-girly, and other times I go out looking like a tom boy.
I think earlier on in my transition I would be more girly-girly, wearing make up all of the time, wearing girly clothes, etc. But, as time went on wasn't as much, and would sometimes walk around looking pretty butch. LOL
I had long hair at first, and then I shaved it except the front bangs just before my SRS. I must be the only person that's come through those doors with a hair cut like that. Yay, for my punkishness. *shrugs* But, the hair doesn't make the girl.
I'm growing it long again, just because I wanna. I vary on what I wanna wear. A lot of my clothes don't even fit anymore 'cause my body has changed so much in the last year -- mmm, even in the last 3 months it's changed! Especially pants. Don't get me wrong, I love having hips and a butt and all of that, but when you're broke it's hard to get new pants every other month. *sigh* I'm still trying to find a job, but going out and having to explain I have a disability and I can't do as much as the next person really hurts my chances. I'm now just borrowing some jeans from my roomie.
But, yeah, I just be myself. To me, that's what transition is all about -- allowing yourself to be yourself. So, yeah, I'm a dyke (soft butch, I guess like Shane on the L-Word). But, yeah, that's me. If I wear make up, I wear it for myself. I don't worry what people think about me, 'cause I know I'm a woman and that's what's important to me. I just be myself and let the cards lay how they lay.
I think that's why I can be comfortable wearing boy clothes from time to time, dressing like a tom boy sometimes, and then other times putting on some make-up and a dress for a night out.
I also don't morn or curse my past. I think I did at once. I hated my past. The whole idea of it. But, as time passed I just embarrassed the past as part of me and what makes me who I am today, and I just focused on the now and the future. Not that I run around advertising my "male" past to everyone, and I rarely talk about it... but I still embrace that past as my unique path to womenhood. I was always a woman, even if my body didn't match.
:P sorry for the long reply. LOL I get a bit long winded sometimes.
--natalie
No was never sad to discard my old guy clothes, only glad.
When I came out at 16 I gradually replaced my guy clothes with girl's clothes, then when I reached my 18th birthday with my Mam's help we decided I go fulltime, over that 2year period I replaced shirts with blouses and so on.
I remember being very excited at my very first dress, I just loved being fashionable and girly, Iv never worn guy's clothes since, yes I wear casual jeans tops and stuff, but I love my little black dress for special occasions, short to show off my legs and low neck line to show off my fabulous cleavage.
I would find after all these years guy's clothes dreary and dull, girl's clothes are exciting, sexy and colourfully, it takes my BF about 10mins to get ready, throw on anything at all, it takes me at least an hour or more, deciding on shoes, purse or bag, this dress or that skirt, a woman puts more effort, Id never go back to guy's clothes, when I look in the mirror at myself I see an attractive well dressed woman, no regrets, well worth the effort.
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Well I'm replacing my girl clothes with guy clothes (not much difference besides cut, but hey) and I don't miss 'em at all. It's a relief.
Plus male clothes are just so much more durable and comfortable. They don't restrict movement like women's clothes seem so insistent on doing.
Quote from: SilverFang on October 15, 2009, 01:00:25 AM
Plus male clothes are just so much more durable and comfortable. They don't restrict movement like women's clothes seem so insistent on doing.
Have you worn a suit yet? Have you worn a suit in the heat of summer yet? :)
Quote from: Ketsy on October 15, 2009, 01:09:27 AM
Have you worn a suit yet? Have you worn a suit in the heat of summer yet? :)
Hmm, I'll have to get back to you on that one. Then I'm talking about street clothes.
It's funny to see MTFs say male clothing is uncomfortable and FTMs to say that female clothing is uncomfortable. Like they would be for everyone not just themselves. Maybe we all just sucked at buying clothes, easy too do when you loathe the clothes you are expected to wear I guess! :P
That or it's just a psychological discomfort as opposed to the implied physical discomfort. *more guessing*.
LOL.
Quote from: Shannon on October 15, 2009, 03:29:44 AM
It's funny to see MTFs say male clothing is uncomfortable and FTMs to say that female clothing is uncomfortable. Like they would be for everyone not just themselves. Maybe we all just sucked at buying clothes, easy too do when you loathe the clothes you are expected to wear I guess! :P
That or it's just a psychological discomfort as opposed to the implied physical discomfort. *more guessing*.
LOL.
Well the thing for me was that a lot of clothes I bought were specifically meant to make me feel "girly". Was I in denial? Nahh, that couldn't be it.... :P So finally not having to wear the skirt or the super tight bootcut jeans or the spaghetti strap tops made me really happy. It was more a psychological thing than a physical thing.
Oh gods I need a suit....
Wearing a men's jacket, I can raise my arms above shoulder level. I could never do that in a womans jacket without it being 5 sizes too big and looking like I've got shoulder pads and wings. Ditto for shirts.
It may just be me, but I seriously had trouble moving in womens stuff. It's like they expected you to have no shoulders and never do anything physical. I don't even work out! Add some muscle in there and it'd be hulktastic.
Suits of both kinds can be hot and nasty in the summer. It depends on what material it's made out of. Cheap polyester doesn't suddenly ventilate because it's cut differently.
Quote from: Teknoir on October 15, 2009, 08:25:22 AM
Wearing a men's jacket, I can raise my arms above shoulder level. I could never do that in a womans jacket without it being 5 sizes too big and looking like I've got shoulder pads and wings. Ditto for shirts.
It may just be me, but I seriously had trouble moving in womens stuff. It's like they expected you to have no shoulders and never do anything physical. I don't even work out! Add some muscle in there and it'd be hulktastic.
This is exactly what I'm talking about.
And I'll discover the joy of suits when I have to go to formal events. That's probably a way off.
Are you kidding?
It seems like a million yrs ago, but when I came out real life, Marcy held open the plastic bags, and I tossed in all the clothes. For a month, I'd find a stray something.....*dunk*, right into the trash.
Everything was replaced with suitable female clothing, down to the belts and sneakers.
Being sad about that would have been like being sad about watching my face morph in the mirror.
Not likely. We both prefer Bev's face and wardrobe.
Bev
We all prefer your face and wardrobe also. :icon_mrhappy:
Aw....
You're always so sweet, sis
luv the new pickie.........
Bev
I found it easy to discard my previous clothes, except for a suit. I was in my late teens and had only had a new suit about 12 months. I remember at the time me thinking what a waste to throw this to the junk, plus the cost etc. Unfortunately back then it didn't dawn on me to give it to charity.
I just gave them all to my mom's church for their cloths give-a-way, besides I haven't worn any of them for a LONG time, I'm keeping the jeans however.
I wouldn't have had a problem with keeping the jeans, if they
weren't 10 sizes too large, by the time I was done losing weight.
I guess I could have kept all my old t-shirts. I did have some pretty
cool gender neutral ones. My shoulders were the same size, so they still
would have fit, they just were not frilly enough. I was on a serious frilly
bender at the time. Oh, the heady days of "transitional youth".
Quote from: heatherrose on October 18, 2009, 03:48:56 PM
...... I could have kept all my old t-shirts. I did have some pretty
cool gender neutral ones.
I kept two tee shirts. One was lighthouses......I like the new shape of the beacons ;)
Also a fishing tee shirt with a fishing lure across the front. I couldn't resist.....in large print, "Antique Lure Collectors Love Old Hookers!"
Oops!.....also the forest green cap that says "Check Your Fly"
Those are the onliest boy clothes I kept.
Bev
I do have two that I did keep. One has the face of a snarling grizzly with
the caption, "Bite Me". The other has a cool image of a midnight hauler,
captioned with, "The voices in my head tell me to do it all night long."
okay so I kept a Tinkerbell t-shirt and another gray one that has "Nashville" across the chest in fancy pink letters. do those count?
I actually discarded almost all my female clothing once before, and restocked after going back solidly in the closet for another couple years, hoping it would all just go away and I could be 'normal'. At the time the only thing I regretted giving away was a spaghetti strap tanktop with a blood-covered fat rabbit on it, with the line "I used to have three bunnies, but two of them must have run away or something" under it...just because the shirt itself was awesome. The only things I kept were a pair of shoes and a nice-looking outfit in the case I needed to go female for a family gathering.
This time I don't think I'll have any more issues with purging the woman garb...I have more of an issue finding a male clothing style that fits my body type right now really.
On a side note...are we allowed to give clothing away to other TSes on this site? When I do finally ditch the load I've got a lot of stuff good for anyone in their teens or 20s I'd like to see go to someone who needs it.
For now still being a teen and living with my Mom, I guess I 'ought to keep my masculine clothing! I don't wear male pants/jeans anymore--WAYY to baggy! Ugh! x.x
But being smart though, I toke one of my pants that looked really cool and I cut it down with scissors into a nice denim skirt! It looks really cool also!
For shirts though, I don't wear really baggy or loose male shirts but some of the dress shirts I have and the shirts that can be unisex with the patterns I still wear, then I add an girly touch to it! ~_^
But overall when I get older, I want the majority of male clothing to be gone...I'll likely donate it. So I don't think--I'll have any regrets doing it...It'll take away a piece of my life that I DON'T WANT BACK. :]