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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Topic started by: Bellaon7 on October 12, 2009, 09:10:44 PM

Title: What makes you decide to go forward...
Post by: Bellaon7 on October 12, 2009, 09:10:44 PM
more importantly, what will it take to make you turn back?
Title: Re: What makes you decide to go forward...
Post by: Muddy on October 12, 2009, 09:14:51 PM
For me, the decision to transition came when I realized there was no other option any longer.

For me, it was transition or die.  I couldn't live any longer with the thought of never being externally, as I am internally.

What would it take to make me turn back?
Perhaps the loss of my custodial rights to my son. 
Barring that?  Nothing.
Title: Re: What makes you decide to go forward...
Post by: Janet_Girl on October 12, 2009, 09:42:49 PM
The first of last year my ex and I split up and sold everything.  I was on my own again, so why not finally do what I knew I need to do many years ago.

To go back?  You would have to kill me first, and then I would haunt you as a woman.


Janet
Title: Re: What makes you decide to go forward...
Post by: MeghanAndrews on October 12, 2009, 10:06:24 PM
I have a saying I use a lot:

You will transition when the pain of your daily existence is greater than the fear of not transitioning.

I guess the counter point would be that you will detransition when the daily pain of your transitioned existence is greater than the memories of life before transition/perception of what detransition will be like.

It's something to wrestle with. Detransition really shouldn't happen but it's better than ending up dead.
Title: Re: What makes you decide to go forward...
Post by: Ms.Behavin on October 12, 2009, 10:33:15 PM
GO bacK??????  sorry I don't have a reverse.  There is nothing that would make me go back to the old life.  It is that much better now....Period

Beni
Title: Re: What makes you decide to go forward...
Post by: myles on October 12, 2009, 10:42:03 PM
I decided to go forward when I decided I wanted to live my life. It just got to be too much to hide all the time. There is no way I would ever go back, I would rather die than return to that misery.
Myles
Title: Re: What makes you decide to go forward...
Post by: juliekins on October 12, 2009, 10:42:07 PM
Going "back" isn't quite and option now. Gender change is more of a circular sort of thing once you are post-op. I'd have to go the FTM route!

No, thanks! I'm completely happy being the woman that I always was, like a jewel that needed just a little polishing ;)
Title: Re: What makes you decide to go forward...
Post by: V M on October 12, 2009, 11:24:34 PM
Other than my own agenda? It would be the supportive people that have something positive to say. I love those people

But so often there are people who just want to argue. It doesn't matter what kind of positive I try to put into a subject, they have something negative to contribute in return. Often they throw in some senseless stuff that just bores me. I can't tell them that I think they are boring morons with a negative attitude, I would get in trouble for that.

So I navigate away from that and look for the more positive folks

We all have our ups and downs. Let's help each other up the mtn. Not knock each other down
Title: Re: What makes you decide to go forward...
Post by: thestory on October 12, 2009, 11:35:15 PM
God may have to come down from the heavens and strike me down first. Losing people isn't a big enough fear. Besides all the people who are accepting of me transitioning are some of the best people I've ever met. Could be thought of as a personality filter. Fancy that.