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Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: Miniar on October 15, 2009, 08:24:38 AM

Title: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: Miniar on October 15, 2009, 08:24:38 AM
I wrote them a letter.
I've got the "compose post/mail" thing open in four places (there's four of 'em you know, aside from the 2 younger ones I've told already).
I've copy-pasta'd what I want to say, and my heart's pounding and my head's hurting.

Here goes nothing.

Time to hit the send buttons.

I really hate having to do something like this.. upset the "established" order of things for other people.
*grumbles*

But you gotta tell the people in your life...
Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: fluffy jorgen on October 15, 2009, 08:36:36 AM
Hope it works out and they're understanding and accepting. :)
Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: Renate on October 15, 2009, 08:50:45 AM
Wow! Nothing like the excitement of hovering over the "Send" button!

Good luck!
Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: katherine on October 15, 2009, 08:58:47 AM
You are right, they need to know.  I told my mother, then she told my sisters.  I was surprised at how accepting they were.  One of my sisters told her daughter that she was getting a new Aunt.  I hope it goes well for you.  Hugs.
Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: Janet_Girl on October 15, 2009, 09:10:30 AM
Nothing scarier than the "Send", except maybe "Reply All". Oppies.  :laugh:

You should heard back soon.
I hope for the best.


Janet
Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: Julie Marie on October 15, 2009, 09:17:05 AM
Quote from: Miniar on October 15, 2009, 08:24:38 AM
I really hate having to do something like this.. upset the "established" order of things for other people.
*grumbles*

That seems a major factor in coming out, upsetting the established order of things.  People are so easily rattled.

Hope all goes well...

Julie
Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: Miniar on October 15, 2009, 10:53:58 AM
I know it's still "work hours" but it's been 2 hours since I hit send and no replies yet.

I thought about asking mum to tell 'em, but I figured this was something I'd have to step up and do myself.

Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: myles on October 15, 2009, 12:13:19 PM
Hope it works out. I  had one brother reply right away (he works at home and is always checking his email). The other never did reply. I was not expecting much as I knew it may take time for them to think about it and come to terms with what this means to them and how it affects thier life.
Myles
Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: SilverShadow on October 15, 2009, 04:15:17 PM
Hope it all goes well.  :) Keep us posted.
Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: Miniar on October 15, 2009, 05:33:12 PM
it's been 10 hours now.. (rounded off)

No word.

I've seen two of the four online since too, so they have it, they've probably seen it.

Silence is difficult to cope with.
Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: Janet_Girl on October 15, 2009, 05:38:19 PM
Give them time to digests what you have put on the plates.  I know that waiting is a killer.  But you have put the ball in their court, all you can do is waiting.


Janet
Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: Miniar on October 15, 2009, 05:49:37 PM
I "know", but it's still hard.
Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: Ryuu on October 23, 2009, 10:48:40 PM
Quote from: Miniar on October 15, 2009, 08:24:38 AM
I've copy-pasta'd what I want to say, and my heart's pounding and my head's hurting.

I would love to learn how to do that. I'm always running out of spaghetti right when I'm hungry.
Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: Arch on October 23, 2009, 11:45:22 PM
What's the latest, Miniar? Any word at all?
Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: Janet_Girl on October 23, 2009, 11:50:16 PM
Inquiring Nosy Busybodies want to know.  ;D


Janet
Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: Miniar on October 24, 2009, 09:31:22 AM
No word at all.

I suppose no news is good news, but it's a little bit of a letdown.
I went and double checked to make sure I'd actually sent it too!
and apparently I did send it, no problem there

They "should" all have read it

And yet, none of 'em have said a single word in reply.
Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: Arch on October 25, 2009, 02:23:17 AM
Jeez, that's tough, Miniar. Maybe they are completely unsurprised and don't think an immediate reply is warranted.

I hope someone writes back soon, just so you know.
Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: Dianna on October 25, 2009, 02:36:34 AM
Miniar I don't think it's the kind of news that one replies to quickly.   They have to digest it, think how they feel about it and hopefully reply with no alarm ringing.

If I got an email from a family member re something major, unless it was regarding death, I'd really think for a while as to what I wanted to say.   I wouldn't be answering in a hurry.  :)
Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: Miniar on October 25, 2009, 09:24:40 AM
well, it's been 10 days now...

And they're still talking as much to me as usual (which isn't much mind you) so it's being treated almost like there's "nothing" to say about it what so ever.
Or like they haven't gotten the message.
But I've checked and rechecked,... I sent it.. they should have seen it.. I know they've seen it..
but "nothing"
Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: Janet_Girl on October 25, 2009, 10:31:50 AM
And maybe they don't care, because they still love you.  It would seem that they are still processing it and maybe discussing it between themselves.


Janet
Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: Jay on October 25, 2009, 10:44:54 AM
I agree with Janet, maybe they have just accepted you.

Some people don't like to address problems.

Jay
Title: Re: Time to tell the rest of the siblings..
Post by: Dana Lane on October 25, 2009, 11:54:04 AM
I would just give them a call and say "so, you just going to ignore the email i sent you?"

I don't think I could stand the silence that long. I just told a friend of mine via email and am getting the silence treatment. argh.