A different kind of thread. I know you're begging for it. ;)
So now that you're post-op, done, transitioned...what are you up to? What are your plans? What are your future dreams?
Well "transition" (such little as there was) and SRS were 35.5 years ago at the tender age of 24. Assimilation was quick and I went on to live a pretty normal life - married twice, built a career, moved around a bit on the career path, did a lot of things I had always wanted to do, and then settled into a really good job and a nice community. Now I am looking forward to retirement and hunting for husband #3 ;D
I've only been post-op for a little over a year & I still have so many dreams to realise but I'm taking it one day at a time. I want to savour each moment slowly without rush. Life is good, life's been so kind & I'm very grateful to have made it. That's all I can say.
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So now that you're post-op, done, transitioned...what are you up to?
Now that I'm post-op my life's finally taking its course & I don't seem to be obsessed with the trans things that one time were the center of my life.
Quote What are your plans? What are your future dreams?
I don't want to count the chickens before the eggs hatch. Lol I've got many plans, some too personal to mention here. I couldn't be happier.
I volunteer for community projects and on several boards. I read and do not watch TV. I take care of my health exercise and cook all meals. I visit with neighbors and family. I keep in contact with old friends and do some consulting. I love my life and have no need for dreams or more material success.
It's been great to put transition "behind" and start moving forward. I am returning to school to finally study something for "me" :D I am dual majoring in Islamic Studies and Arabic..super excited to start in January..it's a bit embarrassing to be a 21 year old freshman..but oh well.. I had some bumps in the road I had to clear :P
Alice
I'm legally male, but I'm so early in transition that I haven't achieved any kind of status quo.
I live my life as if it were my last day on this earth. When you've wasted two decades of your life living as some depressed automaton, you've got to compensate the loss by enjoying every second of it. I transitioned for me, I had GRS for me, I had FFS for me & I'm living my life for me too.
For myself life couldn't be any more normal. I have a great well paying job as the safety manager of a large transportation company, a great pub to socialize with friends, a nice comfy apartment that I share with a wonderful man and if all goes according to plan we will marry next spring. I wouldn't change anything for the world. I love my life.
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hmm
going to school for nursing
working too much
have a boyfriend who knows about my past and is incredibly supportive. (hes actually a therapist, haha go figure)
parents still hate me along with the rest of the family, but i cant change that.
thats about it.
I was 3 months after SRS going to be better.
Then something went wrong. I do not know am I really a postie anymore. Infections, pain and lot of different doctors. Intra-vaginal wounds.
Work, lecture, play sports, hang out with friends, date.... basically I live.
Just living life as a normal woman, hopefully I'II marry my boyfriend next year which was cancelled earlier this year, I feel pre marriage nerves coming on, I guess Im now just a typical girl, I love my life now, I love being a girl, I love being a woman, I love just being ME!
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Nothing out of this world, working despite this terrible cold (flu?), living, loving, getting myself out there & doing my best.
same as everybody else i guess. loving, working, living. life's good. enough said!
Life is good!!! I'm figuring out my next career path after 20+ years in IT, volunteering at the local LGBT community center, starting to investigate grad programs in counseling, starting to work on dating again.
Much of my life is just trying to live the same life I had before. Except now as a woman. And with a partner that is way more loving and understanding than I deserve. She is a saint.
After too long a hiatus, I have restarted my acting "career" with my participation in my local community theatre group.
The other changes include becoming much more active in the LGBT community and picking up other pieces of my life that I abandoned in my previous life.
I also threw away the noose I had been playing with before. I don't seem as interested in playing with it anymore.
-Sandy
Living life, enjoying friendships, looking at new career options in this @#$& economy, loving my husband and trying to be the best wife I can be, trying to plan and save for retirement in a few decades. Loving that I finally feel comfortable enough to start performing musically and singing the songs I've written.
It is weird how something so all encompassing and important to you becomes a nothing and a memory once you are on the other side. Weird but oh so comforting.
Shana
Studying a lot & trying to squeeze dating at the same time. It's a tough job but I've managed it so far. I've got to echo what people are saying. Life couldn't be better.
This question about life after SRS has been a central and a very important issue to me before my SRS and afterward. I have always been passionate about my career. Given, my humble circumstances of life, from a very early age, I have always have had big hopes and dreams for the future. Hard work was something that I did not just accept, but learned to embrace as a path to career success. I found that the quality, not the amount, of my passion and ambitions changed with SRS.
But, my transition did have a major impact on every aspect of my life, including having a profound affect on my career. I have more than 10 years of college and a number of degrees and find myself significantly under employed, working at a marginally professional job in which I am accepted (tolerated) for who I am. Unfortunately, I do not totally pass as a female. Therefore, I am anxious about risking what I have and seeking a new and untested job situation, even though I feel that I am professionally stagnating.
I should not be overly negative. I have a beautiful three bedroom apartment of my own, a stable job that pays me roughly a modest middle class income, and am saving more than $2,000 per month. But, in spite of my career efforts and attempt at savings, I see myself as still playing catch up professionally and financially relative to others of my age and with my advanced education. Sadly, I do not believe that many would view me as achieving middle class success.
So, even though, I have a relatively stable (boring and even stagnating) moderately normal life, I have major concerns about my future career and financiers. Further, I have had to make major sacrifices socially for my job and consequently I am very socially isolated and alone which I feel intensely.
In the 25 years since I became postop I have been:
Socially
1. In a longterm relationship for 21 years.
2. Bringing up a privately adopted son.
3. Moving slowly up the property investment ladder.
4. Playing a full role in my local community.
5. Contributing to the Trans community where possible both by participating in online discussions and by campaigning and getting involved in changes to UK legislation.
Workwise
1. A software engineering project leader working on classified projects.
2. A BBC Television Videotape editor and Archive restoration specialist.
3. A public speaker and occasional local radio presenter.
4. A writer.
In short I've had a varied and exciting life and I wouldn't change a single moment of it.
since transitioning and ops over 20 years ago, I'm now just a regular ordinary girl. Plans are to continue in my chosen career till retirement. I work in IT and am an IT Manager for a big US company. Also would like to complete the book I started writing a couple of years ago and to keep riding my motorbike for as long as I can. Other than that - just to continue enjoying life and spending money.
Hi..
Im from the old school . so my back ground is over some 62 years. being in the building trade & related other trades . 45 years .
Retired now so have time to be involved in womens groups one is our edwardian one we have a good group of mainly women Who have accepted me plus a few men as well .
Family . our grown up kids 3 of have accepted that i am still thier father . just the change to a woman is not what they expected . & in the main know that im a woman . Our 7 grand kids have accepted me as well .
Jos has accepted & we still live to gether just as two women .
In many aspects i still do the same things as before . that i knew . even after i came out to Jos 11 years ago . how i live or we live has changed . the biggest detail is i can be true to my self & be accepted . for who i am & as a woman. that is what is so neat .
not having to be some one who was / is not really the person that i had been taught to be .
So for me now i can do things that i could never have done before . I can dress as & express my self in the way that is really who i am . & that is just so neat .
Whats ahead . like most of my life . the way ahead will have up s & downs & that to will make me stronger & some what wiser .
Spending time with Dejarn our granddaughter who is one neat girl . & doing things for our daughter . & having time with our family .
Meeting up with friends i have made on our forums over the last 3 years .
my 4 words are
love life . live life .
& enjoy it .
...noeleena...