I want to be able to wear boxers, but I can't buy them on my own (my parents pay) and I don't know how to ask them about it. It would be kinda awkward to just go "Hey, dad! Can I buy some boxers?" :D Does anybody know how to ask? I would prefer to ask over email, since I choke up when I try to talk about anything TG related. Any ideas/successes/failures on the subject? Any help would be appreciated.
I "stretched the truth" on mine when I was in high school...told my mother I needed new underwear as my old ones were getting too worn out, and I couldn't afford to buy them myself. She gave me the money and I went out and bought boxers. Most parents won't come inspect your underwear drawer afterward ( ....even though mine actually did, as she had a feeling I would do something "weird" like that).
Hmm I live on my own so can buy whatever I want. I'm not really sure how to ask for something like that without having to explain.
I used to tell my mom boxers were comfy to sleep in. It worked fairly well, but then I was buying my own clothes from the time I was 14. It could backfire, of course, if she decides to go out and buy you some girly pajamas.
SD
I would die if they bought me girly pajamas. :o :D
I have told them that I'm TG, but it's still awkward. That's why I'm having trouble with it. I suppose I could just ask for some money to go buy new underwear. That's not really unreasonable, but my worry is that they'd eventually find out and then I'd have to explain more than if I had just asked in the first place. And I'm pretty sure they'd find out (i.e. I bend over to pick something up and they see my boxers). Man, that would be awkward, but probably kinda funny. :D
Well, if they ask why you weren't just up front in the first place, you could just explain that you were afraid of their reaction, or just didn't think about having to specify. I mean, normally people wouldn't have to specify what type of underwear they want to purchase. And it's something that they'll have to deal with anyway.
Or just say screw it and go commando.
Other than kickin' around the house, why would anyone wear boxers?
When I was in boot camp we were issued them. That was the first time that I
had to wear them, I hated them. They were ill fitting and uncomfortable
under pants. I think boxerbriefs are cuter on a guys...but that's just me.
Meh, I like boxers because there's a lot of room to breathe and its a certain freedom from the dreaded panty I wore for so long. Though I don't have anything hanging and swinging there (yet ;D) so I might reverse that eventually...though boxer briefs I do have for when I feel like packing.
For reasons I don't understand sorority girls seem to like wearing boxers, and so do a lot of the girls I work with who have to bend over and pick stuff up all the time and I guess get tired of the lace sticking up over the top of the pants.
Quote from: Chris the Wookie Slayer on November 16, 2009, 02:12:56 AM
Or just say screw it and go commando.
:laugh:
I suppose you're right. You wouldn't need to specify what kind of underwear you were buying in any other case. In fact, it would be kinda weird if you did have to say what kind of underwear you were buying. ::)
Well, my sister wanted to buy a thong, and my parents were ok with that; my step-mom even went with her to buy them. I think it's just as awkward for them to think about their daughter wearing thongs as thinking about their transgendered child wearing boxers. That
seems to make sense, at least.
When I use to wear women's underwear (better than saying panties) I found that they'd pinch and cause discomfort around my thighs. Because of that I started wearing boxers and am now much more comfortable.
And that can be the reason you want boxers right there. Just say, hey the ones I have now are driving me crazy so I wanna get some boxers.
Quote from: Osiris on November 17, 2009, 01:22:37 AMWhen I use to wear women's underwear (better than saying panties) I found that they'd pinch and cause discomfort around my thighs.
Yeah, for me men's briefs are
waaaay more comfortable than women's underwear (never called them panties as well). I wear boxers to bed but I could never wear them as underwear. Too uncomfortable for me.
I wear boxers as shorts in summer. They're way more comfortable than regular shorts, they look like shorts, and they come up to my waist instead of just over my pubic bone like most women's shorts do. You could just say you want some boxers to wear as shorts, except that you probably live where winter is on its way! :D
Wearing boxers brought to mind what it might feel
like to wear a short skirt under a pair of pants.
Just save up your lunch money or allowance... and go out by yourself and buy it, get a ride from a friends mom or dad, and go with a friend... if you want to hide it... if you don't mind telling them straight forward then, just say that you want to try out boxers.
Is there a cool family member other than your folks you could ask?
Maybe Santa could get you some this year haha. Really tho it would be cool to have a big brother so to speak that could mail you some. Not sure how you would explain that to your folks later but its an idea.
Tell them you want to buy your own underwear. You're probably old enough that saying it's embarrassing to have your parents buy them for you.
If they give you crap about what kind of underwear you're buying, give them a weird look and ask them why it matters what cut of fabric you want to cover your butt.
Briefs are way better than women's undergarments anyway, they don't splice your @ss-cheeks in half.
And like someone else mentioned, boxers are great for sleeping in! they're soft, comfy, and cheaper than women's 'sleep shorts'.
@ Osiris & Radar: Doesn't putting the word "panties" in paranthases kinda defeat the purpose of not calling them that? :laugh:
@ Squishy: It never really gets that cold here; you could wear shorts in the winter and be plenty warm. I miss the rain. :(
@ CodyJess: That is true that it's just fabric, why should it really matter?
Nowadays when I think about womens underwear I can't help but think of it as a conspiracy. For some horrible reason, whenever I used to wear them I would get horrible, horrible wedgies ALL of the time! 'Boy' shorts were the WORST! Boxerbriefs and boxers were marginally better, briefs an improvement on that, but recently I've discovered the JOCKSTRAP. When I wear them, I never get wedgies, EVER, because... Well, since there's no fabric covering your ass, there's no fabric going UP it. I also supports my prosthetic really well, so I don't have to worry about it flying around in my pants/ending up sideways when it isn't glued on.
As for advice, I remember my dad acting kinda funny when I asked him about boxers when I was in my teens, too. I'd just tell them it's for sleeping purposes- I mean, especially if you have friends over or go to friends houses, explain to them that you don't need anyone seeing you in panties under that circumstance. I've known girls, even, who wear panties and put boxers on TOP of them during sleep overs, for modesty. Boxers are more acceptable to wander around the house in when it's hot- I imagine parents could empathize with that, as most of the ones I've met would rather not see their kid running around the house in panties! Too revealing!
Cairus thats great I just spit coffee all over my laptop reading that. ;D I'm going to get a jockstrap tonite now. I have a few pair of old navy boxers I like to wear to work but my fav choice is briefs by Joe Boxer.
Unforgiven where are you that it stays so warm in the winter?
I'm in California. It's way to hot for me. I was born in Washington State, but we moved down here when I was only 7 months old. :'( I love the rain.
Quote from: Kvall on November 17, 2009, 06:51:45 PM
I'm not a big fan of boxers... once you go boxer-briefs, you'll never go back. ;D
Dude I love boxer briefs, they're the best of both worlds.
Quote from: The Unforgiven on November 19, 2009, 12:29:41 AMI love the rain.
With only eight hours between sunup and sundown in winter.
The nostalgia you feel for the land of your childhood, might wain a tad
if you weren't able to get a glimpse of the sun for months at a time. :icon_giggle:
I know a lot of girls wear boxers as pajamas. They are nice to lounge around in.
Not everyone wears under-garments. Over the years, I've grown increasingly sick of them. I just wear jeans with nothing underneath. I know some bio guys do this too. I like it for the sake of comfort and because it makes life simpler.
Quote from: Cairus on November 18, 2009, 05:12:22 AMI've discovered the JOCKSTRAP.
Way back when I had a boyish, rock-hard ass from running, and I found some "support briefs" which I loved.
I'm a brief guy all the way, boxer briefs and boxers are an excellent way to have all kinds of fabric jammed in your ass cleft.
I am guessing your quite young. But can't you ask for the money yourself to go and buy your own underwear?! I have been buying my own underwear since I was about 11/12.
Jay
Quote from: heatherrose on November 20, 2009, 04:39:22 PM
With only eight hours between sunup and sundown in winter.
The nostalgia you feel for the land of your childhood, might wain a tad
if you weren't able to get a glimpse of the sun for months at a time. :icon_giggle:
Probably true. But I would love it for the first bit! (Plus I love the nighttime! :icon_caffine:) My dad's told me the same thing. I've kinda adopted this quote on the subject (from an anime called 'Yami no Matsuei' or 'Descendants of Darkness'), background: they are dead and in their world they have cherry blossoms all year round, which the Japanese love, but have only for about 2 weeks a year;
(Can't remember his name... oops.): How spoiled we are, to have cherry blossoms blooming all year round.
Tsuzuki: Do you really think so? It's the fleeting nature of the blossoms which makes them beautiful.
It's pretty much the same here for rain; we get it so little, it makes me love it more.
ANYWAY! Back to the topic...
Quote from: Jay on November 22, 2009, 08:19:06 AM
I am guessing your quite young. But can't you ask for the money yourself to go and buy your own underwear?! I have been buying my own underwear since I was about 11/12.
Jay
I'm sure they'd let me go on my own (they know how mature and responsible I am for my age); it's more a matter of the fact I've never really needed to buy more underwear because (unlike my sister) I actually take care of my clothes and know where they are, and I haven't really grown any in a few years :'(. So it would seem kinda weird that I randomly need more underwear all of a sudden. Or, maybe they'd be relieved that I finally need new ones :laugh:.
Just go out and put a finger on the cloth, rub hard on concrete a few times, voila, instant hole. Wash so it looks normal, show mom (or even better, dad, who does not want to have a long involved discussion about your underwear with you) and it will open the wallet like magic.
Extra bonus points for putting the holes where no mom want's her kid to have 'instant access' to the naughty bits.
There are about 1/4 million hits for girls/boxers - so you can find some Fashionista rag to back you up about girls wearing them.
my advice would be... ask them for boxers, and if they give you a funny look, tell them that you want to use them as pj shorts b/c you heard they were super comfortable
Quote from: tekla on November 23, 2009, 03:36:29 PM
Just go out and put a finger on the cloth, rub hard on concrete a few times, voila, instant hole. Wash so it looks normal, show mom (or even better, dad, who does not want to have a long involved discussion about your underwear with you) and it will open the wallet like magic.
Haha! Now that's a plan! Now I can't stop laughing! Btw, you can also use a hairdryer to burn a hole through it. I did that by accident once (only had one pair of underwear and I wore them under my swim trunks when I went swimming. ::) )
I think I'll just tell them that there's holes in most of mine (maybe stains, too) and that should get them to give me some money. Nice suggestions from everybody!
I got myself into an awkward situation when I secretly bought boxers and then my mother discovered them...she was more surprised that I'd hidden them than by the fact that I was wearing boxers. I'd say honesty is the best policy ;) I guess wearing boxers is not that weird.
I get new undies every few months - always have. Don't know why, i guess i just like "clean." Or i just like to spend money. :D
I've been buying my own for a while now and i gradually swapped - i found some "girls" briefs that look exactly like "guys" (just without the hole.) My mom gave me VERY strange looks but since they where "girls" didn't say anything. I swapped those ones for "guys" briefs a few months ago on one of our "shopping days" and she never noticed the difference. ;)
Most recently i switched to boxer briefs and now i even wash my own - before we just threw it all together to "save" water (hence why my mom "noticed" the other ones). Now i wash all my underclothes together so she doesn't realize "hey, those are BOXER BRIEFS, and they're "GUYS" - OMFG OMFG *insert freak out here*.
Just ask them for the money and go buy some. Or save up a little at a time so they don't notice and go buy it yourself later on. If they wash you're clothes, they'll notice, but they can't do much about it at that point and you can always use the "they're comfy to sleep in" excuse.
Or you could be honest and just say you want some - heard they where comfy. Lots of bio girls wear them for bed so it isn't as strange as asking for some boxer briefs. Plus not like she'll SEE them on you under your clothes....
Quote from: FolkFanatic on December 08, 2009, 12:16:06 PM
Lots of bio girls wear them for bed so it isn't as strange as asking for some boxer briefs.
Yeah, even some guys do too. I wear boxers only for bed and have been since... forever. My family has never had an issue about it and would even buy some for me.
Quote from: FolkFanatic on December 08, 2009, 12:16:06 PM
i guess i just so she doesn't realize "hey, those are BOXER BRIEFS, and they're "GUYS" - OMFG OMFG *insert freak out here*.
I don't get why so many parents freak out about this, I remember when I started wearing boys underwear, and my parents bought them for me, no big deal
Quote from: Elijah on December 08, 2009, 04:54:45 PM
I don't get why so many parents freak out about this, I remember when I started wearing boys underwear, and my parents bought them for me, no big deal
Same here, well a friend got them for me and I washed my own clothes so idk if they ever noticed. But they never said anything, I wore boys clothes all the time.
Quote from: Elijah on December 08, 2009, 04:54:45 PM
I don't get why so many parents freak out about this, I remember when I started wearing boys underwear, and my parents bought them for me, no big deal
for some reason parents seem to have our lives planned after they learn our physical sex...
I do my own laundry, so that wouldn't be a problem, except for when they want to do their laundry and mines it there, so they take them out and put them in the dryer. I suppose then I could say that I had a small load and decided to throw in some of dad's boxers from the 'family' laundry bin we have out there.