I'm not much for holidays or birthdays or anniversaries, and I often have trouble remembering such dates. But now I remember all sorts of personal trans-related dates. The day I came out a year and a half ago. The day I started therapy with my awesome therapist. The day I started HRT. The day I had top surgery. All of these dates stick in my mind and mean a lot to me. Sometimes I feel like a kid again, but I'm not thinking about Christmas or Halloween; I'm thinking about transition-related dates. I guess it's sort of a coming-of-age thing. I want to put these dates on the calendar and celebrate them.
I expect this phase to pass eventually, but do any of you folks do the same thing?
I don't celebrate any anniversaries of anything. The past is prologue. Nothing more. Nothing to celebrate or commemorate.
My calender has transition related stuff marked on it that I plan to celebrate in the coming years :icon_yes:
Some of them purposely occur on dates that would normally depress the stuff out of me :icon_sadblinky:
i.e. Getting my second piercings on my B-Day. I tried to time starting HRT for my B-Day but had to wait an extra week. Close enough :eusa_clap: :icon_chick: :eusa_dance:
Now I'm trying to decide some transition stuff to counter the :icon_blah: of certain holidays :laugh:
Quote from: tekla on November 26, 2009, 10:10:10 PM
I don't celebrate any anniversaries of anything. The past is prologue. Nothing more. Nothing to celebrate or commemorate.
I always looked at anniversaries as completely artificial because the calendar is a construct. An astronomically-based construct, but a construct nonetheless.
Oddly enough, I have a custom calendar with all sorts of wacky holidays on it. It's sort of a running gag with me. Something on a Stick Day. Mustard Day. Lost Sock Day. Pi Day. But I don't celebrate these days or any official holidays, birthdays, or non-trans anniversaries. Yet I see my trans-related anniversaries as milestones. I feel as if the dates are worth noting. Whatevah.
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Quote from: Virginia Marie on November 26, 2009, 10:56:47 PM
Now I'm trying to decide some transition stuff to counter the :icon_blah: of certain holidays :laugh:
Hmm. What holidays?
I'm sentimental, and yes dates are important to me. I may or may not make a big deal out of something, but you can bet I notice. "He" had a birthday a while back, and nobody cared but me. I fed us a nice dinner and bought us some new clothes ;)
As far as tranniversaries you bet. I'll celebrate the hrt anni until there's something more significant to celebrate. Originally I thought I might schedule the various operations on it, but when I went to schedule one the surgeon wouldn't cooperate, lol there went that plan :laugh:
I remember every date that is trans-related.
April 1, 2008 - Started HRT
September 13, 2008 - Full Time
November 6, 2009 - Orchidectomy.
Janet
Modified to fit this thread.
Quote from: Leslie on August 17, 2009, 11:00:24 PM
Let's see how many birthdays anniversaries I can have.
1. The day I came out to my family
2. My first day of therapy
3. My first hormone pill
4. My first hair removal session
5. The day I went full-time
6. The day I had FFS
7. The day I had GRS
7 birthdays? anniversaries. ??? Nah. I'll stick with the day I was born too.
These days are important because they affect your life. I have a few myself.
July 26, 2005-came out as transgender
August 2, 2006- felt content and complete as a transgender person.
Gennee
:)
Heh. Thanks, Leslie. I didn't see that thread.
I only remember 3 dates. T - November 22 2005. top surgery - July 20 2007. hysto - November 9 2009 but I dont remember the rest. its been a long time.
Quote from: Chris on November 28, 2009, 02:32:13 AM
I only remember 3 dates. T - November 22 2005. top surgery - July 20 2007. hysto - November 9 2009 but I dont remember the rest. its been a long time.
Interesting. You got the anniversary of JFK's assassination and the anniversary of the first moonwalk.
There are, so far, three major events I consider landmarks, I remember and make reference to - two of them, I'm not specifically sure when the other one was but I posted somewhere on-line about it, I should go see if I can pin it down.
I have two that I celebrate every month so far: start of hormones and start full-time. I think as the years go by, I will pare those down to just anniversaries, but the dates are embedded in my brain.
The third one - GRS - hasn't happened yet, but I expect that to be more important than the day I was born with the wrong body.
- Kate
I am not sure why but I don't plan on celebrating anything. I have a hard time remembering some of the dates already. I am just looking forward to finally living my life as it should be.
Cheers
Andrew
I haven't started transitioning yet but I have some pre-transition mini-milestones:
04/13/08: First time fully dressing as a female
04/26/08: First time going out presenting as a female
12/21/08: This day I suddenly realize that I am transgendered and that the crossdressing is not simply a phase
04/18/09: First daytime outing presenting as female
06/18/09: The day I quit wearing wigs and start using my natural hair from this point forward
10/30/09: First full-day presenting as female
Well, the only tranniversary (nice word, btw）that I have is the day I realized I was trans, which I consider to be the worst day of my life, but also good, because the fog finally cleared that day. That's Dec. 15, and it's rapidly approaching. :(
Quote from: Virginia Marie on November 28, 2009, 08:15:22 PM
The only thing I worry about are if Fred and Barney and King Neptune and the Mermaids and all the other friends, creatures and crustations may get confused as to what song to sing in celebration :laugh:
As Posiedon, aka King Neptune; The merpeople and I will sing whatever joyous song you request as well as a few others to celebrate. Personally I need a few more "milestones first for me to be "done" with transitioning.
Quote from: myles on November 28, 2009, 08:36:53 PM
I am not sure why but I don't plan on celebrating anything. I have a hard time remembering some of the dates already. I am just looking forward to finally living my life as it should be.
Cheers
Andrew
Sound so much like a typical guy, Andrew. There is this thing that you can write important dates on so you can remember them. It is called a "Calender". ;) :D ;D
Just celebrating your life as a man, will be good enough, Sugar.
Hugs and Love
Janet
dates are lost on me..
but a similar thing is on my mind atm..
see, for three weeks I was on a medication called Lyrica, an I don't recall half the time I was on it. I really am missing a week or two...
But, while on it I got the "doctor's orders" from the endo, and I remember "exactly" what he told me to do and when.
funny thing that..
I guess the important stuff tends to stick with us. I'm stoked for you, Miniar. ;D
Quote from: Britney_413 on December 03, 2009, 12:02:18 AM
I haven't started transitioning yet but I have some pre-transition mini-milestones:
04/13/08: First time fully dressing as a female
04/26/08: First time going out presenting as a female
12/21/08: This day I suddenly realize that I am transgendered and that the crossdressing is not simply a phase
04/18/09: First daytime outing presenting as female
06/18/09: The day I quit wearing wigs and start using my natural hair from this point forward
10/30/09: First full-day presenting as female
I thought this would be a good old thread to bump. Here are my updates:
11/30/09: First time wearing nail polish
07/19/10: First time wearing women's shoes for everyday wear
09/18/10: Gender therapy begins
Anyone else had any big or mini milestones to add in the past year?
Nov 12. Day I started HRT.
I don't really have any others.
I can't remember dates to save my life. I remember my birthday...I remember the month and day my daughter was born, but I just can't remember the year. Don't know my dad's birthday, have to think to come up with my husband's, and have no clue what our wedding anniversary is (it's like March or May or something). No clue when I came out/started transition, it was earlier this year sometime. And I only remember how long it's been since I started T because I have this ticker in my sig (technically I don't remember, I have to look every time).
Quote from: Britney_413 on October 20, 2010, 03:35:28 AM
Anyone else had any big or mini milestones to add in the past year?
GRS April 23, 2010.
Even if I forget all the other dates I will remember that one because the events of that day made me
finally comfortable with myself. ;D
- Kate
Oct. 15th 2010 - One full year of HRT :icon_chick:
10/25/10 1 year HRT
Today 10/20/2010 1 month on testosterone :)
The only big milestone I really have is May 20, 2008 when I came out to my first friend.
Not that I celebrate it or anything, in fact I don't believe I even recognized that was the date this May. lol
I'm in the middle of the first step of what I call "my transitioning". XD Just look at my signature.
Anyway, I have only two dates so far that are really important to me (and I shall be celebrating them next year).
October 1, 2010--Cutting my hair really short so I can start passing as male so I can go part-time, and so I can pass in my freshly bought "dude" clothes.
October 10, 2010--The day I came out to my sister [as transgender] (that should be a movie title--it'd be awesome, lol). There will be a date later on for when I come out to my parents, but that's still in the works. I don't know if I should celebrate the first time I got told I look like a boy in person....that made my day, though.
@ Arch:
Tranniversaries ... you should trademark that name! :D Great thread, man!
* 19 APR 2009 - First session with gender therapist, Dr. Kathleen L. Farrell, at 11 A.M. E.S.T.;
* 14 DEC 2009 - First dose of estradiol at 4:03 p.m. Eastern Standard Time;
* 03 OCT 2010 - First time out fully en femme, Washington Square Mall, Beaverton, Oregon;
* 31 OCT 2010 - Full-time and not lookin' back, baby!
* ? - SRS/GRS (Dr. Toby R. Meltzer) ?
Haven't done electrolysis yet. Planned to but waylaid it to help some friends.
Regular real-world holidays? Love 'em! Christmastime ... rock ON! :D
@ The Unforgiven:
You Said:
Well, the only tranniversary (nice word, btw）that I have is the day I realized I was trans, which I consider to be the worst day of my life, but also good, because the fog finally cleared that day.
Perfect description ... "..., because the fog finally cleared that day." Agree 100%.
My "Tranniversary" for starting T was the day after my birthday. So really, I probably won't forget which day. Probably won't have much of an event on the day though.
Quote04/13/08: First time fully dressing as a female
04/26/08: First time going out presenting as a female
12/21/08: This day I suddenly realize that I am transgendered and that the crossdressing is not simply a phase
04/18/09: First daytime outing presenting as female
06/18/09: The day I quit wearing wigs and start using my natural hair from this point forward
10/30/09: First full-day presenting as female
11/30/09: First time wearing nail polish
07/19/10: First time wearing women's shoes for everyday wear
09/18/10: Gender therapy begins
Another update:
10/23/10: First time presenting female in non-GLBT bar/nightclub
Quote from: Britney_413 on October 26, 2010, 04:15:05 AM
10/23/10: First time presenting female in non-GLBT bar/nightclub
That's a milestone.
Wow so many things are happening, I feel like I'm turning this thread into an update about me. :) So here are two more updates:
10/30/10: First time presenting female at shooting range
11/01/10: Hair removal begins
Yes, I actually went to the gun range Saturday and shot a couple of 9 mm guns while dressed in my preferred female appearance. There were mostly men there but very few of them noticed anything unusual. Obviously the checkout person knew because I had to show ID to buy ammo and purchase range time. He didn't seem to care either.
Then Monday morning I went for my first facial hair removal consultation and treatment. Definitely painful and expensive but worth it. I'm starting laser first and electrolysis if needed second.
Quote from: Britney_413 on November 02, 2010, 02:35:12 AM
10/30/10: First time presenting female at shooting range
:)
I was already RLE the first time I went to the range. The guys were very nice to me, even a little chivalrous, as I'm one of the few women who go there.
Go girl! :eusa_dance: Keep pushing the edges of that comfort zone.
- Kate
Tranniversaries - I love that these dates have a name now, too funny!
Yes I remember the dates;
Began HRT 7/29/09
First time I spent a whole day in public as a woman 9/22/10
Next anniversary that I'll have in my calendar:
First session of electrolysis 11/16/10
Jamie
Be kinder than necessary because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.