TOC's sexpert tackles your most penetrating questions.
By Debby Herbenick
http://chicago.timeout.com/articles/sex-dating/80899/sex-questions-tips-to-stay-erect (http://chicago.timeout.com/articles/sex-dating/80899/sex-questions-tips-to-stay-erect)
Q I've been married for two years to a man who likes to wear women's underwear. He first told me (when we moved in together, right before the wedding), that he liked to wear lingerie sometimes because it turns him on. I said I would try to get used to the idea. The wedding was paid for and I felt like I couldn't back out (but wanted to). We got married, and the lingerie didn't seem to be much of an issue because it was only sometimes. I ignored it. Then I got pregnant, and his cross-dressing escalated. We had many conversations about my feelings of disapproval and his feeling that it wasn't fair of me. He started wearing women's tank tops at home, saying they were more comfortable than men's tanks. I've been trying to turn a blind eye to his behavior, but it makes my stomach turn. The tension between us continued to build. Now he wears women's panties daily. We've tried therapy and were told that cross-dressing is progressive and the therapist suggested defining boundaries. I would be very uncomfortable if my son (or anyone else) found out. He refuses to set any boundaries and doesn't think that letting our son see him dressed that way is a problem. I know that divorce is imminent, but what can I do to make sure our son isn't injured emotionally because of this?