Im really not sure what to do here. Ive know this girl for like 4 years and 2 years ago they moved away (8 hours drive) we kind of were into each other back then, we stayed in touch talked on the net and stuff. tryed to catch up atleast once every 6 months. comes xmas time and she came down for a day to stay at my house. witch was fun stayed up watching horor movies ALL night. ;D anyways thats a little back story on us.
So im kind of now what sure to do, im 110% in love with this girl, im 99% shes loves me back aswell! But heres were things get a little bit tricky, i still have not come out to anybody at all! I want to ask this girl out next time i see her (1 week away!!!!! Staying 1 week at her house :D) But i don;t know wether i could ask her out and then go through telling her later on that i belive that i should have been born a girl. I don't want to hurt her or anything or get her confused, i mean shes alrdy got alot going on in her life at the moment with uni and all. and i just dont want to stuff the relationship up that i have with her at the moment.
But then i get thinking somtimes, that if i was with this girl i would not have to transition, she completes me <3
errrr just so lost! Any advice how you think i should handle it, sorry if it doesent make sence some of the things ive said, it's late at night and im kind of a little bit shakey right about the girl i love sooooo much :D
Tricky that one... No one can really advise you.
All I can tell you is that, during my university undergrad years, which was basically the only time in my life that I lived as anything aproximating to normal male, I did fall in love, and I did believe that it would "cure" me. But it didn't, and all that happened was that a young an innocent girl got terribly hurt.
Now that may not be the way it goes for you.
You may find happiness.
But I think you do owe it to her, to at least be honest with her as to where you are at and give the option as to whether she wants to try. That way you won't be guilty of deception, and who knows, some of us are Bi - so it might not matter to her. But at least give her the choice.
PS - and no - that isn't her in the photo. We broke up when I came out. The woman in the photo my partner whom I met several years later when iwas already several years postop.
I'm not sure how to advise you, but i'll let you know where I screwed up.
From my personal experience my wife is most hurt by me not telling her. We still very much in love each other, and for now still together. Things get much more complicated, if you are married, have kids and then come out.
This sounds like a matter of the heart. Only love can tell you what is right. If she cares about you at all, she'll at least support you in your quest of self-discovery to the conclusion. If she loves you, you could be a purple stuffed worm in flap-jaw space with a tuning fork doing a raw blink in hara-kiri rock, and she wouldn't care as long as you're YOU.
And when in doubt, remember...
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.