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Title: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Valentina on January 15, 2010, 06:09:41 AM
I usually stay in the girls' forums unless there's a catchy title or something on the other side :laugh:


EDIT: Forgive me for not using the acronyms MTF & FTM but I detest them.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Jamie-o on January 15, 2010, 06:19:31 AM
I usually just go through the "unread posts since last visit", and often don't pay attention to which forum the post was originally in.  That being said, however, I have the guy's forum bookmarked, so I often go through those first.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Elijah3291 on January 15, 2010, 06:22:07 AM
I read on the girls side sometimes.. it teaches me stuff :)
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: spacial on January 15, 2010, 07:31:24 AM
Yep, both.

This place would seem a rather strange point to enforce 'bathroom' rules.

I do have quite a bit of experience of having to pass as a male. I have a male body, but among many men, that isn't really enough.

Besides, only by understanding others can I hope to really come to terms with myself.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: rejennyrated on January 15, 2010, 11:00:08 AM
Yes and... well... don't anyone go making too much of this  :embarrassed: but sometimes I feel like I almost have more in common with the boys than the girls!

:icon_yikes: Maybe I'm an imposter LOL ;) Welcome to the dark side. :D
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Janet_Girl on January 15, 2010, 01:07:27 PM
I am like Jamie, I look to see if a title is interesting.  But sometimes I get into a thread that is like catching your brother with Hustler. :icon_yikes:

I leave very quickly.

But it is interesting that the guys seem to have just as much diyphoria over their twins as us girls.

And I agree Valentina, I am not fond of MtF or FtM.  We know which way we roll,  the guys are just guys as us girls are just girls.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: MasterAsh on January 15, 2010, 01:09:02 PM
Quote from: Valentina on January 15, 2010, 06:09:41 AM
I usually stay in the girls' forums unless there's a catchy title or something on the other side :laugh:

Yeah, that's usually what makes my eyes wander to the guys' board. The only bookmark I have is for the home page; titles can easily draw my attention as I'm navigating along.  :laugh:
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Osiris on January 15, 2010, 01:48:11 PM
I do admit to hesitating when going to read the girl's sections. I feel kinda like a guy sneaking into the women's locker room. lol
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: tekla on January 15, 2010, 01:53:41 PM
I'm with Jamie-O on this one, my tab goes straight to "unread since last visit" and if I like the topic, or the responses, then I reply.  Best part of being an Andro is you get to shape shift, or as I've heard many times from other people (though not directed at me personally) I'm more of a man then you'll ever be and more of a woman then you'll ever have.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Pica Pica on January 15, 2010, 02:24:12 PM
When I'm feeling all business I'll go to my personal last unread and then the andro then log off. When I am feeling more relaxed I browse, I grow more squeamish about body changing stuff as time goes on, but it's always nice to know how people feel about things and read people's anecdotes.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Dorothy on January 15, 2010, 03:16:25 PM
Only if I see anything that's interesting.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Ryuu on January 15, 2010, 03:30:08 PM
If I see something which interests me I'll pop into the girls forum. More often than not though it's a little too much girliness for me though. :P
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Randi on January 15, 2010, 03:56:44 PM
I read everything. I usually do what Jamie-O does and go to unread posts. If something catches my eye then that's where I go. Having lived as a 'manly' man for so long (50+ tears) I feel I have pertinent information to add occasionally.

Randi 8)
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Nero on January 15, 2010, 06:28:58 PM
What Jamie-O said. I have unread posts set on speed dial and don't pay attention to the forum. Plus as forum admin, I kinda have to keep an eye over the whole landscape. :laugh:

Quote from: rejennyrated on January 15, 2010, 11:00:08 AM
Yes and... well... don't anyone go making too much of this  :embarrassed: but sometimes I feel like I almost have more in common with the boys than the girls!

:icon_yikes: Maybe I'm an imposter LOL ;) Welcome to the dark side. :D

I feel the same, only in the opposite direction. I find myself hanging out in the girl's side a lot. The guy posts seem to focus more on the practical, while the girls' are almost spiritual. I'm really drawn to the intensity. Still love you guys though.  :laugh:
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Silver on January 15, 2010, 06:48:48 PM
Quote from: Valentina on January 15, 2010, 06:09:41 AM
I usually stay in the girls' forums unless there's a catchy title or something on the other side :laugh:

Ditto, but in reverse.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: FairyGirl on January 15, 2010, 07:21:29 PM
I like to read the guys' forums if something there catches my attention, but I try to respect the "boys club" and only reply if I have something relevant to add to the conversation.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: DamagedChris on January 15, 2010, 08:14:27 PM
Quote from: Osiris on January 15, 2010, 01:48:11 PM
I do admit to hesitating when going to read the girl's sections. I feel kinda like a guy sneaking into the women's locker room. lol
this
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: LynnER on January 15, 2010, 08:19:32 PM
I just go through unread since last visit. I do find some of the male threads to be quite interesting.... and besides. I cant resist all the hawtt avatar faces and the do I pass threads... *sigh*  ;)
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Muffin on January 15, 2010, 08:21:21 PM
I browse by the "Show unread posts since last visit." and sometimes end up in ftm threads. I've noticed a huge difference between the ftm threads and the mtf threads. Which I guess makes sense. I've noticed the ftm are more focused on the emotional side of transitioning issues with other people, family etc and the mtf is more on the practical/analytical side.. shopping and physicality generally speaking and this is just from what I've noticed, I'm sure most would disagree *shrugs*.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Christo on January 15, 2010, 11:55:07 PM
yep a quick browse thru all the forums. as a mod I'm supposed 2 read everythin. gotta make sure nobody's makin any trouble  >:-) >:-) :police: :police: :police:
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Teknoir on January 16, 2010, 01:07:00 AM
No, I see the womens side of things as a women-space, like a sanctuary to get away from the men. I'd feel rude intruding on that.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Laura91 on January 16, 2010, 01:13:59 AM
Quote from: Pia on January 15, 2010, 03:16:25 PM
Only if I see anything that's interesting.

Yeah, I do the same thing.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: V M on January 16, 2010, 01:18:47 AM
I mostly look at the girl and entertainment topics

But I get curious what the guys are up to and sometimes try to show support and help if I can

But that can backfire from time to time  :icon_flamed:
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Cindy on January 16, 2010, 01:50:17 AM
I'm a bit of a nosey bitch so I look at lots of things. Make bad posts, hijack threads, generally yep an NB.

But feel free to spank me if I'm naughty.

Cindy
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Myself on January 16, 2010, 02:16:27 AM
I find the guys forums more interesting O_o
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: pretty pauline on January 16, 2010, 07:40:34 AM
I mostly just read the girl's forums, but sometimes I'II just have a peep into the guy's forums if I see a thread with an interesting headline, I'II read, just resently I actually replyed, I mean it was like omg, never posted in there before then twice in the 1 thread, hope I didn't offend, https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,70595.0.html (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,70595.0.html)  well a question was asked, so I was just as honest as I could be.
p
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: LivingInGrey on January 16, 2010, 07:53:41 AM
Another unread since last visit user.

I don't have a problem saying stuff in either side, as long as no one else does.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Miniar on January 16, 2010, 08:17:14 AM
"Show unread posts since last visit." is how I navigate... and that means I often look over into the girls' room. But then, I'm a mod *flashes his badge*, I'm allowed!
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: insanitylives on January 16, 2010, 11:37:31 AM
If I'm bored, or a title catches my eye.

Feels like intruding to me.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: placeholdername on January 16, 2010, 11:43:43 AM
I just watch the recent posts list at the bottom of the main forum page...
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: tekla on January 16, 2010, 11:50:30 AM
As the quasi famous 'missing verse' from This Land Is Your Land goes:

As I went walking, I saw a sign there,
And on the sign there, It said "no trespassing."
But on the other side, it didn't say nothing!
That side was made for you and me.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Lachlann on January 16, 2010, 12:11:08 PM
Quote from: CindyJames on January 16, 2010, 01:50:17 AM
I'm a bit of a nosey bitch so I look at lots of things. Make bad posts, hijack threads, generally yep an NB.

But feel free to spank me if I'm naughty.

Cindy

Will do! You can count on me!


I rarely go into the MTF forums unless I feel I can help answer a question or whatnot.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Ryuu on January 16, 2010, 01:48:41 PM
Quote from: tekla on January 16, 2010, 11:50:30 AM
As the quasi famous 'missing verse' from This Land Is Your Land goes:

As I went walking, I saw a sign there,
And on the sign there, It said "no trespassing."
But on the other side, it didn't say nothing!
That side was made for you and me.

You are awesome. I love that verse. >:-)
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Blanche on January 16, 2010, 05:21:07 PM
No.  There's nothing there for me.  Nothing personal peeps.  Just the way it is!
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: AmySmiles on January 16, 2010, 08:40:15 PM
I poke my head in every once in a while, but most of the time there's nothing of interest for me.  I'd probably respond to something if I thought I could help.

Guess I'm with Virginia, I usually peruse the girly stuff and the entertainment stuff  :)
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Walter on January 16, 2010, 09:47:47 PM
Like what was said before, I look at the girls' forum but I keep from posting because I respect their "space". I only post once in a great while in there

In a minute though I'm going to be making a topic in the girls forum. Hopefully I won't be intruding but I think it belongs in there
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Silver on January 16, 2010, 09:49:48 PM
Oh yeah, that's another one. I feel awkward intruding in their space.

And usually there's not much of interest either. Well, sometimes I read because they bring some food for thought. But usually no reason to post.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Natasha on January 17, 2010, 06:46:43 AM
Girls, do you read the guys' forums?

nay.  i don't read the crossdresser & androgyne forums either.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Pica Pica on January 17, 2010, 08:06:22 AM
yer missing out.  :)
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: pretty pauline on January 17, 2010, 01:12:33 PM
Quote from: Natasha on January 17, 2010, 06:46:43 AM


nay.  i don't read the crossdresser & androgyne forums either.

nay I never read crossdresser or androgyne forums ether, I just have no interest, but everybody to their own.

Quote from: Pica Pica on January 17, 2010, 08:06:22 AM
yer missing out.  :)


What am I missing out on.
p
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Pica Pica on January 17, 2010, 01:13:47 PM
bad puns on the whole
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Nathan. on January 30, 2010, 06:38:20 AM
Quote from: Osiris on January 15, 2010, 01:48:11 PM
I do admit to hesitating when going to read the girl's sections. I feel kinda like a guy sneaking into the women's locker room. lol

Same here, only been in the girls section a couple of times.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: IndigeoAliquis on January 30, 2010, 06:46:41 AM
I do the recent unread topics link only because it's a habit I've formed over the past decade of forum browsing.
I probably, without that habit, would stick to 'my' own forum and pop over to the others once every few weeks to catch up on news or things I might learn.. being a scientist and all, I am naturally curious. :)
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: cynthialee on January 30, 2010, 08:10:09 AM
I are reading all yer secrets.

Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: LivingInGrey on January 30, 2010, 08:34:16 AM
Actually, I've been thinking about this a bit. We're here because we're all "crossing borders" in our own way. I've come to the conclusion that I'm not here just because I hate how I am, but because we all at one point and time have felt this way. To me, I consider this site "Neutral Ground" for learning about everything I can, from both sides of the game. Not only can I read about experiences from (sorry... ) a male to female transition I'm learning things I hadn't thought about from the female to male side of this and I can relate to what the guys are going through.

We've all talked about what we've hated about growing up male, or growing up female. We've all talked about what we've wished growing up could have been like. And I love every minute of what I read.

If someone told me, that I had to set a gender marker on my user account, and was told I could not go into the boys room I think I would have to stop coming here. This site has been such an asset to me, from both the males and the females PoV.

Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: K8 on January 30, 2010, 08:58:52 AM
I read both, but mostly I stay on the girls' side.  Some of the boys' stuff makes me feel like I'm intruding on their space. 

But I am often struck by how similar our experiences are, regradless of which direction we are going.  (And yes, there are more than two directions.)

- Kate
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: LordKAT on January 30, 2010, 08:33:58 PM
unread posts thing, have to actively look if I want to know what page I'm on.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: V M on January 30, 2010, 08:55:30 PM
Quote from: Osiris on January 15, 2010, 01:48:11 PM
I do admit to hesitating when going to read the girl's sections. I feel kinda like a guy sneaking into the women's locker room. lol
Awwwwe, don't be shy O

Us girls like a lil' attention from the guys now and then  :icon_chick: Especially if it involves dancing  :eusa_dance: :icon_geekdance: :icon_dance:
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: King Malachite on March 18, 2012, 11:01:21 PM
Lately I just go through all the unreplied topics since the last visit but initially I just stuck to the guys forum.  I go to the ladies forum too more often now.  They have interesting topics with a lot of structual (and in some cases heated) debates.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Eva Marie on March 19, 2012, 12:57:41 AM
I read threads in most of the forums, but like VM i've learned to be careful of where i post :icon_flamed:
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: MacKenzie on March 19, 2012, 01:36:39 AM
Quote from: Malachite on March 18, 2012, 11:01:21 PM
I go to the ladies forum too more often now.  They have interesting topics with a lot of structual (and in some cases heated) debates.

Yeah I noticed there is alot more heated discussions/drama in the mtf section then in the ftm section. I go to the ftm section alot more now, it's so peaceful and there are some handsome fellows over there too!  :D
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: King Malachite on March 19, 2012, 01:45:44 AM
Quote from: Danielle×o on March 19, 2012, 01:36:39 AM
Yeah I noticed there is alot more heated discussions/drama in the mtf section then in the ftm section. I go to the ftm section alot more now, it's so peaceful and there are some handsome fellows over there too!  :D

My other secret reason for going to the mtf section was because there are some beautiful ladies over there too.   ;)
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Sephirah on March 19, 2012, 02:01:39 AM
I tend to read threads with titles which grab my attention regardless of which forum they're in. I enjoy all the different perspectives. That being said, I find the way you guys think somewhat enlightening, and I get a lot of insight into the male mind from reading threads in that forum. It's an interesting experience, and always worth seeing approaches to similar issues from the other side, as it were.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: King Malachite on March 19, 2012, 02:14:17 AM
Quote from: Sephirah on March 19, 2012, 02:01:39 AM
I tend to read threads with titles which grab my attention regardless of which forum they're in. I enjoy all the different perspectives. That being said, I find the way you guys think somewhat enlightening, and I get a lot of insight into the male mind from reading threads in that forum. It's an interesting experience, and always worth seeing approaches to similar issues from the other side, as it were.

Likewise with the Mtf section.  I always find it nice to get a woman's touch on issues.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Felix on March 19, 2012, 02:29:24 AM
I look at unread since last visit, mostly. I read the news sections because when I'm posting there I often get distracted by everything else that's been posted. I often search the site for a topic and end up in the girls' section.

I do feel a little weird about clicking intentionally into mtf forums, but I don't think there's anything wrong with it. I love the feedback we all have for each other.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Cindy on March 19, 2012, 04:32:52 AM
I scan most things. I like lots of stuff so if it is interesting I read and reply. That's the fun of the site for me.

Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: AbraCadabra on March 19, 2012, 08:01:47 AM
Hardly ever read the guys forum since I got flamed over there.

Simply lost interest to be quite honest. Horses for courses, eh :-)

Axélle
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Beth Andrea on March 19, 2012, 08:22:18 AM
Yes, I read the FTM forums. Only forum I rarely, rarely go into is the "significant others".
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Joeyboo~ :3 on March 19, 2012, 09:06:25 AM
I post on both because I'm a rebellious teenager.
Oh, me.

Plus I think I like FTMs better.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Devlyn on March 19, 2012, 10:03:22 AM
I read almost everything, and I'll post anywhere if I have something to say. And I can't resist a barbershop or urinal thread! Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Kyle_S on April 09, 2012, 04:42:26 AM
I usually stick to the guys boards. Only been to the women's a few times. Like others have said, I feel like I'm intruding. I do like the "you look fabulous darling" thread, lots of beauts  :-* 

Other than that, I don't really feel like I have much insight to offer the ladies *sigh*
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: justmeinoz on April 09, 2012, 07:17:28 AM
If the topic title looks interesting I will have a look.  I may comment if I think 50+ years of being shoved into the box marked "blokes" means I may have something worthwhile to contribute.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: ByeBye on April 09, 2012, 07:20:35 AM
Once in a while I guess.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Stealthy on April 09, 2012, 08:04:16 AM
I go on every forum and read any thread that interests me.
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: Michelle G on April 09, 2012, 11:30:52 AM
Quote from: justmeinoz on April 09, 2012, 07:17:28 AM
If the topic title looks interesting I will have a look.  I may comment if I think 50+ years of being shoved into the box marked "blokes" means I may have something worthwhile to contribute.

Me to...otherwise I stay out of there ;)
Title: Re: Girls, do you read the guys' forums? Guys, do you read the girls' forums?
Post by: MacKenzie on April 09, 2012, 06:38:00 PM

  I can't help myself....FTM's make such cute men.  :laugh: