Head: 'My BF doesn't know I'm not a woman'
By Ted Laguatan, Esq.
INQUIRER.net First Posted 12:45:00 02/03/2010
http://globalnation.inquirer.net/viewpoints/viewpoints/view/20100203-251087/Head-My-BF-doesnt-know-Im-not-a-woman (http://globalnation.inquirer.net/viewpoints/viewpoints/view/20100203-251087/Head-My-BF-doesnt-know-Im-not-a-woman)
CALIFORNIA, United States—Paula looked great in tight designer jeans topped with a soft blue cashmere turtle neck sweater. Except for flesh colored lipstick, which complemented her fair smooth skin, she had no other makeup.
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"No, attorney. I don't need a divorce."
"What then?"
"My boyfriend doesn't know that I am not a woman."
This is a great story, and a helpful link with great information. Thanks so much, Z, for posting this!
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What a lovely story. I wish them the best. Of course, Mom and Dad come though at the last second. For the average person it would have ended tragically.
And why you ask? Because the average TS does not have access to that kind of money. And I think that is the reason that we have so many names each year.
I'm sorry, but I disagree.
This lady was extremely lucky. But someday her secret will come out. I fear for her continued happiness and safety.
I'm glad that it has continued happily to this point, but I cannot envision that she could keep it from him forever.
This is similar to those of us who keep our secret from our spouses for years after we get married. The spouse is hurt on two counts. One is the secret itself. The second is the feeling of betrayal that occurs because they feel that they could not be trusted enough to be confided in on this most sensitive subject. In most cases it is corrosive and destructive to the marriage.
Imagine months or years from now, the husband finds out that his wife was born as a male. How will he respond?
I hope that the two of them can work through this. If they can they could have a marriage that is stronger than before.
-Sandy
I'm with Sandy here.
But to be quite honest, I'm not sure I really believe the story.
Firstly, 3 weeks isn't nearly long enough for the tissues to heal sufficiently for his boyforend not to notice.
Second, her dilation would not have progressed sufficiently, but I may be wrong on this one.
Thirdly, it seems a little unlikely that she would have managed to get her birth certificate changed in only a few months so they could legally marry,
My comment was sarcastic. I doubt that the story is real. But giving the benefit of a doubt, i would wish them well.
I am not saying I condone it. I like that it had some useful information in it.
QuoteThe California State Bar officially certified Ted Laguatan as an expert/specialist lawyer. He does immigration law, personal injury, complex litigation, medical malpractice and other cases. A magazine for lawyers rates him as being among the top 5 percent best lawyers in America. For communications: 455 Hickey Blvd., Ste.516, Daly City, CA 94015, Tel. (650) 991-1154, Fax (650)991-1186, 101 California St. Ste. 2450, SF, CA 94111. E-mail laguatanlaw@gmail.com
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Fiction. So many holes, it was written by a non-TG as a caring type of advert.
Is a caring advert for a lawyer an oxymoron.
JMO
Cindy
Fake. and what's worse a bad fake. The horrible writing is a good tip off, but the logic is completely messed up. Anyways. I don't know what the purpose of that was. Bad fiction.
The website, Inquirer Global Nation, appears to be an authentic news site for Filipino Americans.
The author, Ted Laguatan, looks to be a some what notable immigration lawyer located in California. He has had some very visible cases, one very notable to me was the successful pleading of a case for a request of political asylum for a Filipino english professor who is gay. He claimed that deportation would subject his client to persecution because of his sexual orientation.
He had other entries in the Inquirer website as well. These entries are all listed under the Viewpoint section. So these are mostly opinion pieces.
It may be that the author did, in fact, have some sort of case like this and has distilled the story to fit. I think what he was trying to state was that immigration cases that required some delicacy could be handled and as an aside, he could do them.
I don't think that he made the story up but I get the feeling that he played pretty fast and loose with some of the details.
Still, if the facts of the story are at all as he stated, this person, while safely now in the US, could be in for a hard time when her husband discovers her secret.
-Sandy