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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: Silver on February 10, 2010, 11:16:35 PM

Title: I've finally done it!
Post by: Silver on February 10, 2010, 11:16:35 PM
Haha, I finally get to post one of those "hey, look at me, something good has happened!" threads. This is great.

Anyways, lately I've been pretty depressed/stressed because of the dysphoria. So my boyfriend noticed, and after much walking and depression and "don't you trust me?"s I ended up coming out to him. Well, that ended with lots of crying and my father drove by and stopped to ask what was wrong. Said I was fine, and continued on. Boyfriend took it really well, no problem. Real nice guy.

I guess my father told my mother that I was crying and she was concerned. I don't know about her, I'm pretty worried. So I ended up taking a drive with my father and came out to him too. Also took it really well. Said that he noticed I'd been really depressed and fidgety lately. Really nice about it, we're going to find me a therapist now. We're both unsure of how to tell mom. Eh, maybe in time.

Anyway, the reactions are great and I might be able to deal with this problem now. I was worried I'd get horrible reactions if I came out but now I wonder why I hadn't done so sooner. Actually, it's probably good I waited because I now have the stress/depression to back me up and make it seem like a real problem (which it definitely is.)

Woo! :icon_dance: :eusa_dance: :icon_joy:
Title: Re: I've finally done it!
Post by: Janet_Girl on February 10, 2010, 11:20:20 PM
It always nice when the family and lovers show they are supportive.

Hooray for SilverFang.  :eusa_clap: :eusa_clap: :eusa_clap:
Huggles
Title: Re: I've finally done it!
Post by: Silver on February 10, 2010, 11:23:47 PM
 :icon_hug: It really is, I never expected it to work out so well. Just so happy right now, you know?
Title: Re: I've finally done it!
Post by: Shadowlyc on February 10, 2010, 11:36:11 PM
Congrats!  ;D Having supportive people is always a wonderful thing.
Title: Re: I've finally done it!
Post by: Christo on February 10, 2010, 11:49:13 PM
Congrats  :eusa_dance: :eusa_clap: :icon_dance: :icon_dance: I'm happy 4 u  :) :) :)
Title: Re: I've finally done it!
Post by: thestory on February 11, 2010, 12:26:48 AM
I'm very glad that things turned out so well for you.  ;D It is wonderful to have that kind of support.
Title: Re: I've finally done it!
Post by: Just Kate on February 11, 2010, 12:37:41 AM
Wow!  What tremendous news!  The courage it took to tell your boyfriend is more than commendable.  I really hope the best for you, especially as you come out to your mother.  :D
Title: Re: I've finally done it!
Post by: VampyreAri on February 11, 2010, 01:05:44 AM
Yay! Awesome and congrats! Horray for positive and supportive results so far! And good luck with your mum too. :D
Title: Re: I've finally done it!
Post by: Silver on February 11, 2010, 01:07:37 AM
Thanks everyone! Maybe I'll get around to telling her tomorrow. Oh, and happy Valentine's all.
Title: Re: I've finally done it!
Post by: Myself on February 11, 2010, 01:29:04 AM
grats!!! see ;)
Title: Re: I've finally done it!
Post by: Radar on February 11, 2010, 09:43:19 AM
Excellent news! :icon_mrhappy: I hope your mother takes the news O.K. Do you think your father will tell your mother?

Now that the heavy burden has (partially) been lifted you can move forward into whatever you need to do.
Title: Re: I've finally done it!
Post by: Lachlann on February 11, 2010, 10:07:57 AM
That's good to hear.
Title: Re: I've finally done it!
Post by: Greg on February 11, 2010, 03:52:51 PM
congrats, hope things go well with your mum too.
Title: Re: I've finally done it!
Post by: Al James on February 11, 2010, 03:54:48 PM
Hope everything carries on going well for you
Title: Re: I've finally done it!
Post by: GamerJames on February 11, 2010, 04:28:24 PM
Congrats dude, that's so great! ;D
Title: Re: I've finally done it!
Post by: k_tech on February 11, 2010, 05:20:00 PM
so great to see that you've got some people on your side. wonderful news.
Title: Re: I've finally done it!
Post by: Jamie-o on February 12, 2010, 04:37:22 AM
Hey, that's great news!  Congratulations.  ;D
Title: Re: I've finally done it!
Post by: Teknoir on February 12, 2010, 07:14:16 AM
That's great. Hope it all works out with your mother when that time comes. At least you've got your boyfriend and your father on your side - you won't have to handle her alone.
Title: Re: I've finally done it!
Post by: Silver on February 13, 2010, 02:59:17 PM
Update: Told my mom last night.

Mom's have a way of asking lots of uncomfortable questions. Anyways, went to bed. Cried. Was apparently heard. I thought I was being rather quiet. After plenty of explanation I got to sleep at like four in the morning.

She does not neglect to remind me constantly that people's minds change and that she went through a similar phase. But luckily, she is very in favor of therapy so that I can find out what I really want to do and not jump into this and cause permanent damage to myself if I find this is not for me.

So yeah, now I'm just waiting on the insurance guy to call and tell us what therapists are covered. Hoping for the best. Not looking forward to explaining to mom that I know all about sex and all that ::). She's conservative and I supposedly don't know anything about it. Meh, more important issues are at hand, right?
Title: Re: I've finally done it!
Post by: s1ncere on February 14, 2010, 01:19:25 PM
i feel ya about the whole mom thing.is all good tho,you have your b/f and father that supports you.

good luck.i hope you find a great therapist.