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Title: Taking the Plunge (fashion wise)
Post by: Megan on February 27, 2010, 08:31:27 PM
I am so worried that my family is going to take a negative reaction when I change my whole look; think blonde hair, blue eyes, and bright clothes. It would be the complete opposite of what  I am right now.

But I want to do it, and I am on a diet and until I reach the goal weight I won't do it till then. But I been wanting to do it for so long.... I just want to take the plunge.

It's just so much fear, that they would reject me even if I do it because it be consider "gay".
Title: Re: Taking the Plunge (fashion wise)
Post by: placeholdername on February 27, 2010, 08:53:41 PM
Are you worried about how your family will react -- or how you will react to their reaction?  What's the worst that could happen?
Title: Re: Taking the Plunge (fashion wise)
Post by: Megan on February 27, 2010, 09:39:57 PM
"you're a ->-bleeped-<-!", that's the worst. But I plan to come out a little shortly before then.... And I will react, "I am living my life, it's my body!"  Because bleaching my hair would be really gay to do in my house...

I will react confidently because that's the way I am, but I would be hurt if they reject me.

Title: Re: Taking the Plunge (fashion wise)
Post by: placeholdername on February 27, 2010, 09:54:41 PM
I guess maybe you have to ask yourself if it's something you're going to do eventually anyway, and if so, is there a benefit to waiting?  And I think you have to forget about the 'gay' thing.  If it's not true, then it might hurt initially, but it's who's saying it that hurts, not what's being said.
Title: Re: Taking the Plunge (fashion wise)
Post by: Cindy on February 28, 2010, 01:22:48 AM
In recent years when I came out to family )OK no Mum & Dad anymore.) The only comment I got about clothes was 'It's not fair I can't walk in heels' 'Nice skirt where did you get it from?' My brothers in law said nothing and talked about sport between themselves, just like they always have :laugh: No one has said anything about Gay.
Good luck I hope it goes well

Hugs
Cindy
Title: Re: Taking the Plunge (fashion wise)
Post by: Megan on February 28, 2010, 01:35:12 AM
well im not going to cross dress and stuff, since i kind of don't want too but i thought i was a transsexual for a long time (all last year), but I kind of lost that feeling now. I can't describe it besides that.

I just want to be the most attractive male version of myself, and I always had a deep desire to be blonde. Golden blonde like the sun.

I wish being gay wasn't such a bad thing in my family, since I am afraid of everyone's reactions. It's not like I will lose anything though. I just want to be free.