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Community Conversation => Transitioning => Real-Life Experience => Topic started by: K8 on March 02, 2010, 06:46:18 PM

Title: Sold My Bike
Post by: K8 on March 02, 2010, 06:46:18 PM
I took one of my two motorcycles to the dealer for a safety recall today.  I hadn't been there since becoming Kate, so I wasn't sure what to expect.

I re-introduced myself to the manager and the man who had sold me both bikes.  I did this for three reasons:

1)   I always liked these guys.  Somehow I connected with them and wanted to reconnect.

2)   They knew I bought the bikes from them as *him*.  I felt the need to explain why they now belong to *her*.  (The old name is in the records.  I asked them to change it.)  Besides, they might recognize me.  (They did.)

3)   I wanted to sell the bike to them and thought they might give me a little better deal if they knew of our history together.

It went very well.  They asked the usual questions: "How are you doing?"  "Are you happy?"  "Are you still riding?"  I told the manager people have been very kind to me.  He said: "Why not?  Sure, some people are a$$****s, but eh."

I ended up selling them the bike for more than I thought I would.  The proceeds will pay for almost half of my surgery.  And I got to spend some time with some people I really like. 

I have more room in my garage now, got rid of a bike that was hard for me to handle even when I had testosterone in my system, and I still have the other bike for when I am recovered enough to ride again.  A wonderful day. ;D

- Kate
Title: Re: Sold My Bike
Post by: Jasmine.m on March 02, 2010, 06:53:45 PM
That's perfect Kate!! Your stories are truly inspiring. It goes to show that not everyone is going to react poorly. I wish you continued success!!

~Jas :icon_chick:
Title: Re: Sold My Bike
Post by: vrony on March 02, 2010, 06:59:49 PM
I love having wonderful days, it makes you glad to be alive.
You are an inspiration to us all and youve made me feel very welcome Top sis  :) :)

I could do with some days like that myself!!

;D ;D ;D

vrony
Title: Re: Sold My Bike
Post by: Adio on March 02, 2010, 07:11:14 PM
That's awesome, Kate.  I'm really happy for you.  This is just what I needed to hear today.  :)
Title: Re: Sold My Bike
Post by: spacial on March 02, 2010, 07:34:00 PM
This reminds me of another recollection in another thread where someone told of several guys who were very friendly and accepting when she was on a night out.

Ordinary people tend to accept everyone for what we all are.

None of us should ever feel second best, we all have an equal right to be here.

Title: Re: Sold My Bike
Post by: tekla on March 02, 2010, 10:16:59 PM
It seems that people who were good with people before transition retain that ability, and those who were not don't pick it up that quickly.
Title: Re: Sold My Bike
Post by: Ms.Behavin on March 02, 2010, 10:18:59 PM
Yes, I've yet to have a truely bad experence.  Well glad you still have another bike.  Lordy girl, don't you know about dikes on bikes ;-).

Beni
79 GL1000





Title: Re: Sold My Bike
Post by: Janet_Girl on March 02, 2010, 10:45:57 PM
At least you have the other one to ride.  ;D  And the fact that they treated you as a valued customer is great.
Title: Re: Sold My Bike
Post by: Keroppi on March 02, 2010, 10:49:19 PM
Great to hear, great to hear. :) :)
Title: Re: Sold My Bike
Post by: V M on March 02, 2010, 11:33:04 PM
Right on Kate!!!

Glad it went well  :)
Title: Re: Sold My Bike
Post by: Ellieka on March 03, 2010, 02:00:03 AM
Awesome Kate! I' so happy that you had a positive experience. You got amazing courage girl.
Title: Re: Sold My Bike
Post by: Cindy on March 03, 2010, 02:14:16 AM
Nice experience Kate. I do think it's also a reflection that decent people pick up on how YOU feel. I think most people want others to be genuinely happy. That's why we comfort people in distress even if we do not know them. I think that when we meet people we know who are really happy their joy reflects on us as well.

Cindy Brrm Brrm
Title: Re: Sold My Bike
Post by: K8 on March 03, 2010, 09:04:43 AM
Thanks everyone.  I was feeling pretty good when I got home.

Quote from: tekla on March 02, 2010, 10:16:59 PM
It seems that people who were good with people before transition retain that ability, and those who were not don't pick it up that quickly.

I had never thought of it that way, but of course you are absolutely right, Tekla.

Quote from: CindyJames on March 03, 2010, 02:14:16 AM
I do think it's also a reflection that decent people pick up on how YOU feel. I think most people want others to be genuinely happy. That's why we comfort people in distress even if we do not know them. I think that when we meet people we know who are really happy their joy reflects on us as well.

And I think you re right here, Cindy.  I am very happy these days and I think people pick up on that.  Most of us enjoy being around happy people.

And now I am off to the university to tell a bunch of future teachers what it was like to go to primary and secondary school as a girl with a boy's body.  Should be interesting. ::)

- Kate
Title: Re: Sold My Bike
Post by: BunnyBee on March 03, 2010, 10:56:23 AM
Quote from: tekla on March 02, 2010, 10:16:59 PM
It seems that people who were good with people before transition retain that ability, and those who were not don't pick it up that quickly.

Funny how that works...
Title: Re: Sold My Bike
Post by: Terry on March 03, 2010, 12:13:29 PM
Kate ..........Glad that you had a positive response at the dealership more will come. Please post the reaction from the future teachers about a boy in girl's while in primary and secondary school.............Thanks    T
Title: Re: Sold My Bike
Post by: Erica L. on March 22, 2010, 03:02:13 PM
Need to think about moving to Kate's neck of the woods, where open-minded people truly do exist! Thanks for the update!