so, today we went over my aunts house for one of my cousin's birthday's. my aunt knows about my situation, but she has no common sense, and she completely overlooks the fact that i am not a male. she blatantly calls me masculine nicknames, which really makes me mad, and it makes me feel degraded. so i specifically told her i will not any longer tolerate being treated that way, so she replies "being treated like what"
Me: "being treated like a male"
Aunt: "but you ARE a male"
Me: "since when"
Aunt: "your whole life"
Me: "no, i am a transsexual, and i will be transitioning into a female, and you know that"
Aunt: "so what? as long as you look like a guy, and you were born as one, that is who you are."
Me: "and i could tell you that you are a man"
Aunt: *arches an eyebrow* "whatever"
Me: "yeah, whatever as right. don't expect me to go to these family gatherings if i have to put up with this.
Aunt: "being addressed properly"
Me: "how stupid are you? you are not addressing me properly. I want to be addressed as a female. i am not a male."
Aunt:"well, i could say that i'm the queen of england, but that doesn't mean i am.
Me: "get some education, and then we'll talk"
Aunt: "maybe you need a reality check."
Me: "I obviously can't talk to dead wood, so i'll just be going. enjoy the rest of your life doing whatever the hell it is you'll be doing with it"
Aunt: "is there a reason you have to be so strong about this? why do you have to change into something you aren't? i don't always like everything about being a woman, but i don't go around making a statement."
Me: *slams door and leaves*
She knows very well that i want to be female, but she doesn't have much common sense, and i'm tired of there having to be scenes like this especially at a family gathering, so i'm not going to let her make a fool out of me anymore. I don't think she'll ever learn.
Frankly, she's being awkward. She's using this as a mean of holding authority over you.
In your place, I would stay away from her. I don't think she will ever change.
I agree with spacial. If you don't have to see her or talk to her, just don't.
However, if the relationship is important to you, you could try having another supportive family member go with you (if that's possible) and sit down to talk to her together. Give her some reading material so that she can "get some education." She might be resistant to your transition, but it's possible that she also doesn't know anything about being TG/TS aside from talking to you.
For me, nobody got it until I actually started looking male. Then it was like, OH.
I know some people and family members will always see me as F. Bugs me a bit but I'm learning to let it go. They're the ones who are going to look very silly.
Jay