i came out to a lesbian friend not to long ago, she was abit surprised at first but quickly recovered. what confused me thou was when she asked me," so are you going to be entertaining people?" i got the idea that she thought i was only doing this to preform in drag shows, and that's not even a aspect that i have even remotely considered. i just want to be the woman that i truly am,
has this happened to others out there and how do you respond to it
jaime
That seems rather odd. Lesbian and trans are different but I find it odd that she would be so ignorant about this issue. I am not trying to say anything against your friend. Anybody that varies from the cisgender/straight/able bodied spectrum shares the knowledge of what it is like to be stereotyped and not taken seriously. I just find it shocking.
Maybe your friend is planning to be a comedian and was looking for a partner
Oh, I thought she meant entertaining them in the privacy of your bedroom once you have the proper equipment. :)
- Kate
I came out about my need to be female to only a few people. In many cases the response was to suggest it is attention seeking. Which seems to be along the lines that your friend is looking at.
The more you think about this idea, the more weird it becomes.
1. Taking attention away from them.
2. Attracting attention you don't deserve.
3. You are insignificant and should be grateful anyone even notices you. Don't spoil it by demanding more than you are being given already.
I thought she meant entertaining them in the privacy of your bedroom once you have the proper equipment.
Funny, that's what I thought too. Outside of the idea that whatever else drag shows are, they are rarely entertaining.
A friend of mine who always jokes about being bi told me that she really wanted to see it after I have the op.
Maybe your friend is curious too. Giggity giggity.
Quote from: Autumn on March 16, 2010, 06:21:04 PM
A friend of mine who always jokes about being bi told me that she really wanted to see it after I have the op.
Well, there's that, too. One of my GG friends said she'd show me hers if I showed her mine. :icon_redface:
- Kate
Quote from: jaylynne500 on March 14, 2010, 10:38:29 PM
i came out to a lesbian friend not to long ago, she was abit surprised at first but quickly recovered. what confused me thou was when she asked me," so are you going to be entertaining people?" i got the idea that she thought i was only doing this to preform in drag shows, and that's not even a aspect that i have even remotely considered. i just want to be the woman that i truly am,
has this happened to others out there and how do you respond to it
jaime
I've never had that happen. But I think a good response would be "No, what do you mean?"
Once when I was in a therapy session, I was bemoaning the thought that I may never be able to return to the stage once I transitioned (not true as it turned out).
My therapist offered that I should go to one of the drag show clubs and perform there.
I don't think I was ever more shocked.
-Sandy
Quote from: K8 on March 16, 2010, 06:30:21 PMOne of my GG friends said she'd show me hers if I showed her mine. :icon_redface:
haha I'll bet that isn't all that uncommon. I had a friend tell me the same thing... well, except I already seen hers so I sort of feel obligated to return the favor lol
Back in the early 80's when I was very publically outed in the UK tabloids (no trying to look it up please - I'd really rather forget the whole incident!) the female reporter who came to interview me asked to see the result of the surgery... :embarrassed:
Like the young naive idiot that I was, I showed her too. :o Fortunately she only made a very minor reference to that in her article along the lines of how "convincing" the results of modern surgery could be, at least to casual inspection. :P: I can't even imagine what she would say if she saw the now infinitely better result that I got after the revision.
Quote from: spacial on March 16, 2010, 09:16:20 AM
I came out about my need to be female to only a few people. In many cases the response was to suggest it is attention seeking. Which seems to be along the lines that your friend is looking at.
The more you think about this idea, the more weird it becomes.
1. Taking attention away from them.
2. Attracting attention you don't deserve.
3. You are insignificant and should be grateful anyone even notices you. Don't spoil it by demanding more than you are being given already.
I was asked once too if it was attention seeking, by someone that I hardly knew. I was shocked by the question and almost started crying. If there one thing I do not want then it is attention, in fact I hate the attention around my transition. I can't imagine any transsexual being transsexual for the attention?
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Quote from: jaylynne500 on March 14, 2010, 10:38:29 PM
i came out to a lesbian friend not to long ago, she was abit surprised at first but quickly recovered. what confused me thou was when she asked me," so are you going to be entertaining people?" i got the idea that she thought i was only doing this to preform in drag shows, and that's not even a aspect that i have even remotely considered. i just want to be the woman that i truly am,
has this happened to others out there and how do you respond to it
jaime
I think it's very odd that she asked you that question. Did you speak to her about it afterwards? If I were you I would just ask her what she meant by it and how she got the idea that all transsexuals 'entertain'.
thank you for the many responses to my question. one of the sadder parts of this is that my lesbian friend has now stopped returning any phone calls and any other of my attempts at contacting her
jaime