Sometimes I feel..okay the majority of the time I feel if I dress the way I want to dress, which is usually men's clothes with some exceptions, then I feel it is easier for people to mistake Davis for a lesbian instead of my boyfriend. I actually dont have a problem with girls close other than finding ones that flatter me instead of making me look worse.
My question is, do FTM's on here feel like if there SO(this would onyl make sense with straight FTM's but all feed back is welcome!) but yea do FTM's on here feel if their SO dresses in more typically male clothes or in more a typically "lesbian" fashion does it make it harder for you to pass?
Hope that makes sense..
Well...you're right that your question as asked only makes sense for straight FTMs. But what you're really asking is "Does the perceived sexuality of the person I'm with have an effect on how others perceive my gender?" And I think the answer is a definite yes. I pass almost perfectly when I'm out with a flamboyantly gay friend, and almost not at all when I'm out with my very straight and heteronormative husband. I get mixed readings when I go out with both of them, depending on which one of the two the person thinks I'm 'with'.
So if you are being perceived as a lesbian and you're being affectionate with your boyfriend, odds are others will perceive him as lesbian too. But masculine clothes alone don't get you perceived as lesbian. There's a particular set of social cues that do that, and not having ever been part of lesbian culture I can't say specifically what they are but they go beyond just the gender labels on your wardrobe.
I think people see me as a guy even with you. Even before coming out as trans, people thought I was guy. So idk why you feel this way.
It doesnt really specifically come from the way you feel or are percieved but I do question it, because of the times that you dont get sirred i mean its rare but still I wonder if you dont pass sometimes only because of me and then in you in association with me.
Also I wanted to know others opinions on the subject...