Thank you Rejenneyrated for this sentence.
Something to be thankful for. A blessing, even.
This I need to think about.
I look forward to hearing others thoughts.
Kendall
I may not wear a sign around my neck but I am not ashamed of being Trans. I was before transition but no longer.
God made me this way for his reasons. I shall not question it.
Quote from: Kendall on April 17, 2010, 05:52:51 PM
Thank you Rejenneyrated for this sentence.
Something to be thankful for. A blessing, even.
This I need to think about.
I look forward to hearing others thoughts.
Kendall
Glad to be of service - and I genuinely meant every word of that too! It has been a most wonderful adventure and it isn't even over yet. :)
I know it involves times of darkness, pain and suffering, but what experience in life, worthwhile is ever truly won without such things. Is there not pain in climbing a mountain? Does an athlete in training for a race not suffer?
But when you reach the peak, when the race is done and you have your medal, the pain is forgotten in the joy of the achievement. That is how having been trans has been for me.
And here is the original post - for anyone who didn't see it in the other thread.
Quote from: rejennyrated on April 17, 2010, 05:37:30 PM
The problem with many religious people is that they create a God in their own image.
Thus zhe ends up far too small, far too conventional and far too ridded with all their own guilts and prejudices.
A God who is worthy of belief is more than capable of calling people to the vocation of being transgender.
This is no accident. It is a calling. I would not wish my life any other way.
If I had not been blessed enough to have been trans I would have missed some of the best experiences of my life and I would be the poorer for it.
I am not ashamed of having been Trans. I am proud, and I genuinely thank God every day for having thus blessed me.
Quote from: rejennyrated on April 17, 2010, 06:32:41 PM
But when you reach the peak, when the race is done and you have your medal, the pain is forgotten in the joy of the achievement.
That's a lovely way of putting it, never really thought of it like that :).
Side story...
3 years ago when I was in grade 11, I went on this trip with my PE class. We would be camping in the snow (I'm Canadian eh :P), and climbing up a mountain, 4 days hiking in total. This is probably the hardest thing I've ever physically done. The snow was really crappy for hiking, you would sink to your knees every god damn step, hours of hiking in that stuff. Everyone was hiking in a t-shirt, no we aren't crazy :laugh:, just too much body heat to wear anything more. You wouldn't think you would get hot, BUT YOU DID, the snow was just a huge mirror reflecting the sun, I left this trip looking like I had gone to Hawaii (you should of seen the weird stares we got coming back, we stopped at A&W and we were all tanned and wearing all this snow gear when it was almost summer).
Anyways back on track, then when we took a break we would go back to freezing :laugh: and having to put all our layers back on temporarily. Oh and don't forget we had our huge ass back packs to carry the whole time, all our cloths, food, supplies, tents. What I'm getting at, is that this was not easy :laugh:. So after a two days of hiking, we got to the base of the mountain and set up camp. We left at 2:30am to go for the summit, no we aren't crazy :laugh:, we either got a cold dreary sleep and mushy snow, or little sleep and leave when it was below zero so the snow was still hard and easy to hike on. Although there was one bad thing about hard snow... it's hard to keep a grip on it. Some points of climbing up that mountain were really, really scary. We had to cross this area that was at a real slant, and if you slipped and fell, well a huge cliff was ready to greet you :-X.
It took us about 7-8 hours to reach the peak, my toes were numb, I was so tired, I just wanted to lay down and die :laugh:, but... when I reached the peak it was just so beautiful, it was such a clear day, and we could see for miles and miles. The feeling of accomplishment I had was just so amazing, I made it, the journey here was so hard, but here I was. It was no Mt. Everest, but I don't really care, it's one of the best moments of my life, and I always will remember that feeling :).
Alright enough of my side story :P
Hey, it is what it is. The most basic principal in zen is that you accept what is in front of you without wishing it to be any other way - and in doing that you begin to work with the world instead of dreaming, wishing, and planning your life away. You can thank god if you wish, hell, I keep trying to send god thoughful cards from Hallmark to thank him but they always come back marked Return to Sender, Address Unknown. Maybe you'll have better luck with a different tactic.
You got these cards you were dealt in life, they may not be the ones you wanted (and believe me no matter what you got, you'll look at the world and want something else), they can work in a number of different ways together, but it's up to you to either try to play them, or to just sit out the game hopping that the Grim Reaper visits you, and sooner rather than later. And really, that sucks.
You have no complaint
You are what your are and you ain't what you ain't
So listen up Buster, and listen up good
Stop wishing for bad luck and knocking on wood
I think I'm still working up to this sentiment. I'm not really ashamed anymore. But I can't say that I'm proud, and for darned sure I don't praise any divine entity for it.
Quote from: tekla on April 17, 2010, 11:54:33 PM
but they always come back marked Return to Sender, Address Unknown.
As long as they don't say
no such number no such zone then maybe we stand a bit of a chance
Hey hey! Couldn't agree more when one finally realizes (takes time!)
it's the rest of the modern world that's "freaks of nature" and it is indeed they who need to "get over it"!
Quote from: Diana_W on April 18, 2010, 12:15:56 AM. . . and for darned sure I don't praise any divine entity for it.
;D ;D Rebelling & running from that which is not yet seen as inevitable is a perfectly natural & healthy response but the time will come when having
to believe in one's self is truly about the only thing that anybody can ever really call their own! A lot of people (too many!) go thru their entire lives without ever learning this one very simple lesson if ya look at "trans" as God giving you that 'lil extra nudge/advance heads up instead of as a curse then you are indeed way ahead of the game!
Some never get to that point which means it simply wasn't meant to be in the first place, nothing worthwhile in life is "easy" and it is only time (and suffering?) for us that will really tell/cure all! It is the world that is sick and in need of our help (rather than the other way around like they'll selfishly try to have you believe!)
Yet again Jenny your words are inspirational.
Jenny for galactic president! hehehe :laugh:
Quote from: Rock_chick on April 18, 2010, 09:14:06 AM
Yet again Jenny your words are inspirational.
Jenny for galactic president! hehehe :laugh:
Well I'm a bit busy with a little writing project right now - but when I'm done... ;)
55,000 words as of right now - and still five hours of writing time to go. :)
My sentiments exactly. It hasn't all been fun and games, but the good aspects far outweigh the bad for me. I didn't ask to be trans, but at the same time I can't help looking at it as an opportunity of sorts. I've experienced life in ways most people never will. I've made wonderful friends, and had I not transitioned, I would have never met them. I've also gained much more confidence in myself, and I can honestly say I'm happy with myself for choosing to transition. I may have lost a lot in the process so far, but I've gained so much more in return. I'm not ashamed of being trans, it's a part of who I am, and it's shaped my life in ways I could never have imagined. For that I am thankful, and for the chance to be who I really am.
I still kinda am maybe this will change in time.
I have many things I want in my life and they make me who I am none of them are easy and I won't ever be at peace until I do all of them before I die.
To be a scientist, To Truly help others, To find true love, To become wise and gentle,
And... To be a woman
I don't want to be Trans... But I just am because of that final wish... I'm ashamed and resentful that last wish may prevent me from doing all the other things I want to do but to deny it's exsistance is to deny who I am and condemn me to an unfulfilled life and miserable death.
It's hard to balance all these things, I just wish things could have been different.
I'm trying to see the benefits and I guess there are afew, I have these absurd, exciting even funny and thrilling anecdotes from my story. And... gosh damn I've certainly learned the importance of empathy tolerance and understanding more than most of my peers.
But I still would rather have been born a Cis-female or not be TS, those perks I gained are not worth all the blood spilt and tears shed.
If my children think so regarding their dad in some time, I will be happy.
Barbie~~
God can send me to hell if he expects me to be remotely grateful for the life circumstances he gave me. (Which is more than just being trans, although trans is highest on the list) ::)
Yea! Yea! Transpride! What would our flag be? o.o A horizontal blue-pink gradient with a male symbol in the pink side and a male symbol on the blue side? That'd be awesome.. i MUST create this! 8D
Quote from: rejennyrated on April 18, 2010, 09:20:07 AM
Well I'm a bit busy with a little writing project right now - but when I'm done... ;)
55,000 words as of right now - and still five hours of writing time to go. :)
hehe, excellent work Jenny. Can I bagsy the position of campaign manager when the time comes for your bid for galactic supremacy?
Ever since my transness was revealed to me I've never been happier.
Gennee
:)
Well, I am certainly not ashamed, but I am not too proud about it either, I mean, it is like a major inconvenience, and it isn't like I choose it either (much like I wouldn't say I am proud to American, or white I didn't choose those things why should I have pride in circumstances beyond my control). I think that being trans can give someone a unique perspective, and perhaps in time I will be proud of that....
I am also not praising any sort of divinity for anything trans or not, mainly due to being an atheist. In my life I have seen many things, completely unrelated to being trans that make me not believe in god.
very soo good to see you guys so happy with the transition :)
Quote from: pebbles on April 18, 2010, 11:13:39 AM
But I still would rather have been born a Cis-female or not be TS, those perks I gained are not worth all the blood spilt and tears shed.
Yep, life would be easier if I were not. If I could just accept my body the way it its. But I guess the easy path isn't always the best one, and there are certainly worse problems to have. I'm especially lucky I'm in a time and place in which I can do something about it.
Not ashamed of being trans, there's nothing wrong with it. Not sure I'm exactly grateful though. It's a unique experience.
Being Transgendered is never ever something to be ashamed of. None of us asked to be this way. Life is hard enough without being trans. But here we are. We come together because we know that we are transgendered and through sites like this we can communicate with each other and support one another.
It is very important to know and be proud to know who you are.
All my love
Brenda
Quote from: Janet Lynn on April 17, 2010, 06:20:32 PM
I may not wear a sign around my neck but I am not ashamed of being Trans. I was before transition but no longer.
God made me this way for his reasons. I shall not question it.
You are so right Janet Lynn.
God made me this way and knew knows who I am and why I am. I am happy in that and know one day he will reveal why.
Till then I will be who I am ... a woman (wrong body or not).
I don't feel ashamed for being - a girl -, I do feel ashamed for not telling anybody all my life though.
Quote from: barbie on April 19, 2010, 02:10:39 PM
If my children think so regarding their dad in some time, I will be happy.
Barbie~~
Hey Barbie! Long time no speak! I couldn't AGREE more with above statement 'cause "kids r us" for better or worse! Been divorced since Dec 2010, have house free and clear; don't pay "alimony" at all and find out this Friday if my kids, boy is now 11 and girl 13 (still living with me), become solely mine as well lord knows they love and want me too!
The US domestic court system is
The Worst in the World in terms of
DADs overall - been huge Uphill battle with both the "radical feminists" and social conservative "male-chauvinists" but will see, am almost there! Your pic looks great as usual, am finally getting electrolysis at least; with a court order against "cross-dressing" am OUT as far as "trans" is concerned but they still can't legislate or moralize at all against
Me Just Being Me!
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Wow, some great, uh outstanding posts here !!!!!!!!! :o :o ;) Thanks to everyone who got here before me too. Now to be quite truthful, IO would have to admit as to my "Shame " years ago. However , Penny , where ever ya are today dear , thank you for showing me a way through the forest . Terry, Marty, thanks for just listening to my questions on basic transitioning . Taryn, thank you for giving me the courage to say I'll deal with "NAY- SAYERS". Now as to the "Proud ", hummmmmmmmmmm, I'll have to think about that over some coffee . ellen
I somehow missed this thread! I am no longer ashamed and God had a lot to do with it! :icon_yes:
Joelene
I am certainly not ashamed of it, but neither am I proud of it. It is just a medical problem that is completely beyond my control. I can understand some who are proud of it. After all just surviving in the world with this and facing each day is an accomplishment, but personally I like to think about it as little as possible. I am grateful to the Gods for always being there for me with wisdom, strength and encouragement. I don't believe that one needs to be thankful for the adversities they encounter, but can still face them with honor and try to be a better person from the experience.
Definitely not ashamed, even pre transition. I love myself fully and completely. There are some parts of my body I don't like at all, but I embrace myself as I am, and look forward to the changes to come. I don't think God made me this way, rather it's just one of nature's "hiccups". I do believe that God loves me deeply, and that there is nothing wrong with me that can't be corrected.
Whether pre or post transition, we are who we are, and should love ourselves regardless of our physical state. I absolutely can't wait for breasts and curves and what not, but am patient, and enjoying the journey as much as I am looking forward to reaching my destination.