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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: justsomekid1 on June 01, 2010, 03:14:24 AM

Title: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: justsomekid1 on June 01, 2010, 03:14:24 AM
I'm thinking of transitioning but it's more on an emotional way and societal way than how I dress. I mean I don't mind wearing jeans or girl shorts just not really into skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: Elijah3291 on June 01, 2010, 03:21:18 AM
not at all

Im a boy and I like skirts.. that doesnt keep me from being a boy lol

and I think 50% of girls dont like skirts
Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: kyril on June 01, 2010, 03:25:35 AM
Nope.

I don't like bowties, and I don't think you'd have ever been able to force me into a leisure suit. Doesn't mean I'm not a guy. Just means I have taste :)
Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: cerealnmuffin on June 01, 2010, 03:42:56 AM
Quote from: justsomekid1 on June 01, 2010, 03:14:24 AM
I'm thinking of transitioning but it's more on an emotional way and societal way than how I dress. I mean I don't mind wearing jeans or girl shorts just not really into skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?

You are going to then transition for the right reasons.  I transitioned because I have always identified as a girl (emotional way) and want everyone else to recognize me as my authentic self (societal way).  I do love skirts and dresses, but that is not what makes me a woman.  Sometimes I feel looked down upon by other transgirls cause I don't like wearing jeans and tees.
Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: Cindy on June 01, 2010, 03:57:52 AM
Clothes do not make you a man or a woman. Your gender ID does that. Wear what you want. I know many females that don't like skirts or dresses. I know several Scotsmen that asking if they were female 'cos they are wearing a kilt would be a very painful idea. :laugh: :laugh:

Be comfortable in yourself, find you. The rest follows. I think, possibly, many(?) MtF wear obviously 'female' clothing to help their psyche. FtM's look good in jeans and T's etc and may not need that 'extra' confidence booster. I don't identify as male so I suppose I try and 'pass' as female, for that I need all the help there is :laugh:. I think most of the guys on the board look like rather cute young men  :-*.
Cindy
Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: Autumn on June 01, 2010, 12:46:25 PM
I wear pantsuits and have sex with girls. I'm still a girl.
Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: blackMamba on June 01, 2010, 01:54:07 PM
yes, you are excluded.  you cannot pass Go, you cannot collect $200.
Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: K8 on June 01, 2010, 06:02:12 PM
I knew a woman for years but never saw her in a skirt.  I didn't think much about it until one day she showed up in a skirt.  She said: "Look at these legs.  You will not see them again for another 10 years."  Some women don't wear skirts.

Your gender identity is in your brain or in your soul, not in what you wear.

- Kate
Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: MillieB on June 01, 2010, 06:06:43 PM
I do like skirts (sometimes) but would love to be accepted as a woman if I was just wearing jeans and a T shirt and no make up. A woman is what I am, clothing is clothing, that's it.
Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: Janet_Girl on June 01, 2010, 08:10:02 PM
Where I worked, I was required to wear jeans and yet I was accepted as one of the girls.  In fact I shock people when I wear a dress or a skirt.
Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: loulou on June 02, 2010, 07:48:29 AM
I wear skirts less now than I did before I transitioned.  Not dressing feminine doesn't make you less of a women.
Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: Little Darkling on June 02, 2010, 08:10:15 AM
Of course not!

Your gender doesn't magically switch depending on what clothes you're wearing. Although that'd be awfully interesting, if inconvenient.
Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: Lachlann on June 02, 2010, 08:17:38 AM
Trust me, there are a lot of bio-women who hate skirts or dresses, but it doesn't mean they aren't a woman.

Gender identity has less to do with how you dress and more to do with how you feel on the inside. Clothing standards change all the time, gender identity is eternal.
Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: Roro on June 02, 2010, 11:11:54 AM
Quote from: kyril on June 01, 2010, 03:25:35 AM
Nope.

I don't like bowties, and I don't think you'd have ever been able to force me into a leisure suit. Doesn't mean I'm not a guy. Just means I have taste :)

I DO like bowties... but I have to agree with you on the leisure suit.

On the skirt subject, most of the girls I know/hang around with won't wear skirts unless it's an occasion where it calls for being super dressy, even then they'll lean toward a nice black pair of palazzo pants with a pretty top and maybe a fitted, feminine jacket if it's chilly.

My mom wore skirts for years when she belonged to a string quartet. Recently she decided that wearing skirts was too much of a pain in the rear, and she was just going to stick to dressy pants from then on.
Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: daisybelle on June 02, 2010, 11:34:48 AM
Quote from: cerealnmuffin on June 01, 2010, 03:42:56 AM
Sometimes I feel looked down upon by other transgirls cause I don't like wearing jeans and tees.

I have not worn pants much because I thought skirts and dresses helped me pass better.  But a couple of weeks ago I was shopping at Torrid, and I tried on some clearance jeans,   and while they fit, they had sparkles on the pockets.   I thought no way can I wear these as a girl!  But I stepped out of the fitting room to show my friend and the saleslady happened to walk by and said, "Wow, those really show off your cute butt!"  I was floored.   I then looked in the three way mirror and did not see a guy at all.  So I bought them. 

The point is wear what you want, to express what you want.  I thought I would not pass in jeans... I was wrong.

D
Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: DeniseK on June 02, 2010, 05:45:13 PM
Jeans are the sexiest clothing anyone can wear IMO.  Nothing shows off an ass better, male, female, or TX.  As I'm an ass-man, who would be willing to do/be/or be done to/by all three, who could deny that denim is THE best at presenting? 
Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: nathan on June 02, 2010, 09:06:50 PM
Quote from: DeniseK on June 02, 2010, 05:45:13 PM
Nothing shows off an ass better, male, female, or TX.

Texan?  I guess they do wear them some jeans in Texas.  :icon_mrgreen:

On topic, I'd have to say that the question is a bit silly. Clothes don't make the person. Although I have it on good faith that long, billowy skirts are proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy.

-natalie, who can't stop twirling
Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: V M on June 02, 2010, 09:20:36 PM
I don't really have a problem with skirts but I tend to like dresses better and also tend to be a blue jeans girl most of the time myself  :icon_chick:
Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: Silver on June 02, 2010, 10:02:24 PM
I don't wear skirts, people still think I'm a girl. If only it were that easy, huh?
Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: FairyGirl on June 02, 2010, 10:11:46 PM
Quote from: natalie rene on June 02, 2010, 09:06:50 PMAlthough I have it on good faith that long, billowy skirts are proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy.

-natalie, who can't stop twirling

this.  twirltwirltwirltwirl...

Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: Kristyn on June 04, 2010, 09:23:06 PM
OK, I seriously hate pants  :icon_blah:  and the closest I get are leggings.  Occasionally, a pair of nice skinny jeans, cigarette jeans or cropped jeans/pants.  I'm more into skirts and tops for summer and long sweaters/tunics with leggings and boots for fall.
Title: Re: If I don't like to wear skirts does that exclude me from being a girl?
Post by: lilacwoman on June 05, 2010, 02:03:26 AM
skirts and dresses always!
I hate trousers of any shape or form and don't posess any except two silky pyjamas for boudoire scenes when I'm post-op and Mr Wonderful shows me waht life is all about...when I was little and not knowing what was wrong with me I hated having to buy and wear trousers -not jeans - and felt people were always staring at me for being dressed like that. and I couldn't understand why even made to measure suits felt wrong while the boys at school loved to wear a smart suit, white shirt and tie... being  a transsexual child is such fun...?