My name is Robert Anthony soon to be Stacy Araceli. At age 8 (1975)
I knew I was not like other boy's my age. I decided then I will no longer hide. So I went to school fully dressed as a female,my parents was like you do know your wearing your sisters clothing I said yes. I said I want to be a girl, they was like hmmm, but they let me go to school dressed as a female
when I walked in my class dressed like that the teacher and
Principal freaked out. I was sent home the rest of the day.
Me and my parents had the talk, and they supported my choice. So the next day I got a new set of girls clothing including panties. My parents raised me as a female I guess that Is why when I am forced to wear mens clothing I am uncomfortable. This transition is easy for me. But last year I decided change my gender. My insurance Is paying for the surgery and my friends that I known for 5 years sent affidavits that says I meet there 2 years requirements.
I still find this a big step. I start elecytsys in 2 weeks. And hormones. I already changed gender on license and I never ran into bathroom police. I get a lot of hello's. and 2 people trying to pick me up But I say I am in a relationship. It takes me 2 hours every morning for me to pass. I hope to post and get more information as I still have a lot to learn
Thanks for reading, I look foward in reading your replies
Hey I live in SoCal as well! :)
You can be part of the California Girls song...LOL...Daisy dukes! But anyways, your story is kind of chipper, like it goes from the start and just goes to present day so I don't know that much about the past but that's your comfort level to share.
Also, I'm glad that your parents were so accepting, now your life will perpetuate and you don't have to worry that much about the family issue many face, hope to hear more from you hun.
Hello, nice meeting you. thank you for replying. I try not to look back on my past, what happened in the past cannot be changed. I like to stay postive. Are you pre of post op?
I would like to hear your story. 2 days ago me and 2 friends went cloth shopping (1st time with these friends) cloth shopping. They are non transgender. They know I am. They had there kids with them so after picking 4 items each we all went to try on cloths the 2 pre teens said your not really going to try them on are you? I said yes. are you not embarrassed I told them no we all got our own changing rooms I made sure I was 3. Doors down and accross the way. O wanted them to be comfortable. I found what fit and I liked at the end both girls are thanking me for making what they was considering a uncomfortable and made it comfortable. Their mom said thank you and admitted she would not have nerves to do what I do.I told her my above story. She told me she had 2 family members that had a sex change. Even her mom considers me a part of their family. My point for all new transgender is be the lady or guy you really are give people a chance but follow you're gut. And do not over do it on the makeup, perfume, and when dressing dress with style. I seen other trsnsgenders that wears cheap blonde wigs, heavy makeup and way to much perfume. But I will not say anything to them that will hurt them. And trying to hard is not good. But confidence makes all the difference.
Sorry for the long reply..
(Using android cell to post. Sorry for any typing errors )
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Quote from: koolstacy on June 06, 2010, 10:49:05 AM
Hello, nice meeting you. thank you for replying. I try not to look back on my past, what happened in the past cannot be changed. I like to stay postive. Are you pre of post op?
I would like to hear your story. 2 days ago me and 2 friends went cloth shopping (1st time with these friends) cloth shopping. They are non transgender. They know I am. They had there kids with them so after picking 4 items each we all went to try on cloths the 2 pre teens said your not really going to try them on are you? I said yes. are you not embarrassed I told them no we all got our own changing rooms I made sure I was 3. Doors down and accross the way. O wanted them to be comfortable. I found what fit and I liked at the end both girls are thanking me for making what they was considering a uncomfortable and made it comfortable. Their mom said thank you and admitted she would not have nerves to do what I do.I told her my above story. She told me she had 2 family members that had a sex change. Even her mom considers me a part of their family. My point for all new transgender is be the lady or guy you really are give people a chance but follow you're gut. And do not over do it on the makeup, perfume, and when dressing dress with style. I seen other trsnsgenders that wears cheap blonde wigs, heavy makeup and way to much perfume. But I will not say anything to them that will hurt them. And trying to hard is not good. But confidence makes all the difference.
Sorry for the long reply..
(Using android cell to post. Sorry for any typing errors )
Ahh! I see, that's how I gaze at life as well. My story is a little unconventional and at the same time not that anomalous but here I go.
I was born with
a small dose of inter-sexed organs but it was still in the jest a "penis", this fact no one on this board knows or even many people in my life. Though in the end my mom made the choice to choose to remove all "female indicators", so I ended up with a pretty normal but extremely small...Wang, haha.
So growing up through my life I just went around as an boy and at about the tip of my sixth or seventh birthday, odd things started to happen...Senses came alive and for a while I decided to ignore them but to
evaluate what it was all about, so for a month I went on my merry way and finally it clicked...What was so unorthodox about me was my mind, body and soul was "acting" more female...But I knew if I told my mom there would be hell on Earth, so I didn't tell her...Though it lingered vastly across my heart for many years.
SKIP AHEAD SEVERAL YEARS and now the feelings start to come back headfirst, fearless and not ignoring them, I started to do things to fill that gap. Wearing makeup, wearing feminine clothes, etc. etc.
One day when no one was home (I'm often left home alone for days) and I had makeup but only makeup that day, my mom out of nowhere comes waltzing in and turns her head -- And holy holy, you should have seen the glare painted upon her canvas face. She was more shocked then angry but in the end she told me to go, in quotes; "Wipe that ->-bleeped-<- off!"
I came back fresh and clean and she was watching T.V. and was giving the silent treatment like nothing ever happened but in truth she was trying to make it out as though it was a facade or a very unfunny joke.
Finally, the grand part; Two Halloweens ago, I finally had the righteous courage to tell my mom..."What I am" and it was eight PM and she was in her room, just sitting on the bed and I come in and sit on the bed...And began to say..."Mom, I have something to tell you, I haven't had the courage to say this because of the fear of being rejected or banished...But, mom -- I'm transgendered."
She didn't scream, holler or have some shocked look. Obviously she didn't knew but she ended up saying in an annoyed tone, "Micale, you're not a girl, you're a boy, you've always been a boy and I don't know why you want to change that. Those people are always getting beat up and raped and I don't want to see that happening to you. The hormones and ->-bleeped-<- that those people have to go through can KILL YOU and I don't need that on my plate. You're just a teenager, you're going through a phase."
After that, I just left in awkward silence and over the course of that time till current day, I have wore makeup, wore feminine clothing; Starting from my moms to finally my own clothes this year and I have my hair longer, layered and I have bangs. People at school give me hell and some are rapscallions but in the long run I am an celebrity at my school, people love me, people hate me and people are indifferent. Everyday I go to school, almost the whole school (Literally) talks about me, the clothes I wore this day, my makeup, my style and also about my past, that I'm actually this and blah, blah, blah.
But to me, yes I'm going to be honest; It scorns when people harm or belittle me but at the same time I've had to build up my backbone and build a wall. It's taking time but it's slowly getting there.
Last thing, my goodness this is long; Haha. My mom and her current boyfriend Kevin are trying to be accepting but Kevin; A cis-gendered male is having his roughage accepting the fact of who I am. He always calls me by the dreaded male terms and even after I correct him and try to tell him that he needs to stop. He just gives me a juvenile look and gets all annoyed. My mom is trying as well but it's taking her time and for now that's all I can tell you, lol, if there is something else you want to know, just ask but for now this is long and I want to give you some room.
P.S., I'm pre-op, I'm pre-everything, no hormones. No nothing and I'm hoping in the future, if I live with my other mom Janet that I can begin since my mom doesn't want to help.
I made my mind up after years of thinking, I
Am just going for it. Today while waiting 3 hours in line at DMV at DMV office for me to change my gender. But during that time waiting in line with about 100 people in back and front of me I started thinking about I was the only one in line dressed as a female. But nothing happened except for small talk with other people waiting on line. I should get my new ID in 2 weeks.You have any luck changing your gender on your ID.
Quote from: koolstacy on June 08, 2010, 12:08:43 AM
I made my mind up after years of thinking, I
Am just going for it. Today while waiting 3 hours in line at DMV at DMV office for me to change my gender. But during that time waiting in line with about 100 people in back and front of me I started thinking about I was the only one in line dressed as a female. But nothing happened except for small talk with other people waiting on line. I should get my new ID in 2 weeks.You have any luck changing your gender on your ID.
I'm still a teen, so no dice yet and my mom does not want to help with hormones, etc. so I have to wait till I'm a legal adult. But things happen in time and I have the patience.
Everything happens in due time. Make the most of your teen years :-) as I said in my past post when I was a kid my parents pretty much said no for SRS but they let me dress as. A lady.
It's good that you have parents that accept and love you, and that you are in the process of your transition. Hell, it's fantastic that your parents allowed you to be who you felt you were. Even at such a young age.
I've been recently getting my papers together, trying to get things done. How hard would you say it is to get your name and sex changed? Does the way your parents accepted you give you an edge in making the process easier? Not to say that it is, or anything. I'm just curious, and I don't know how to really word it.
If you are in the USA it is easy to change your name. Just call the courts in your area. 2 changing gender in California on your license all you need you do is go your local DMV and ask for form. DL 329 and follow the instructions.
Post Merge: June 07, 2010, 11:49:04 PM
I think it gives me a slight edge. I am very comfortable wearing
Bra"s, skirts, wigs, v-shirts, swim wear. I did not start HRT yet, nore did I not get implants. But I am 38A people has always. Told me I sound like a lady. I guess that gives me a edge.
Are you dressing full time?
Quote from: koolstacy on June 08, 2010, 01:40:37 AM
If you are in the USA it is easy to change your name. Just call the courts in your area. And changing gender in California on your license all you need you do is go your local DMV and ask for form. DL 329 and follow the instructions.
Thanks, Stacy. I live in Iowa, currently. I plan to move to California, eventually in the next few years. Whenever I can get enough money to.
Quote from: koolstacyI think it gives me a slight edge. I am very comfortable wearing Bra"s, skirts, wigs, v-shirts, swim wear. I did not start HRT yet, nore did I not get implants. But I am 38A people has always. Told me I sound like a lady. I guess that gives me a edge. Are you dressing full time?
I actually don't have any feminine clothing, anymore. When I turned fifteen, I practically threw all of my clothing away (after an argument with my mom) and stole a portion of what I wore from what my brother couldn't fit anymore. I look like my brother, only slightly younger. So, essentially I dress all the time. I'm entirely pre-op (nothing, no hormones or anything), but I hold several masculine features. FtM.
I am glad to help.
Stacy:
Hey, welcome! God, I LOVE the name Stacy! Reminds me of Stacy London, fashion consultant on TLC's "What Not To Wear" show. She's SO beautiful, SO smart, SO stylish. I totally admire the name Stacy. Great choice!
Really, really like your story. Your parents are very cool. You're lucky to have folks like them. Just like you, I start electrolysis soon. Been on HRT for 6 months now.
Speak your mind anytime. We want to hear what you have to say!
:) Lacey Lynne
Update. I went to see the licensed electroloist on Friday she gave me 30 minutes free and she uses the latest equipment. next week I start HRT. But last year my body decided not to wait for HRT even my sister gave me new bra's. I am a 38A
I wonder how big they will be after HRT starts what warning signs should I look out for?