What do you do, when you feel so sad and lonely?
I usually try to involve myself in things that I like to do. Writing makes me feel better, and playing with my kitties relaxes me a lot. I also try to listen to inspiring songs and telephone people that I love, like my parents, a friend whom I haven't seen for a while, my brother, etc. Since I am a religious person, praying helps me and so does a good cry. :)
tinkerbell :icon_chick:
I don't know if I'm religious, my beliefs change everyday, I do pray some but not alot. Right, now I don't know if I believe in GOD. But it will change.
To make myself feel better I usually, sleep, write or listen to music. Walking makes me feel good too!
Quote from: Kisa on November 18, 2006, 08:14:19 PM
What do you do, when you feel so sad and lonely?
Kisa,
There are times when being transgendered is a lonely walk.
These are some things that I do...
I go someplace where there are people around. Someplace safe. I usually go to the library. Since I don't have computer access in my apartment, its the only way to check my email and log on here at Susans.
Get involved in some sort of activity. It gives you something to do as well as a chance to meet new people. I am going to try starting a writers group where I live.
Put on some music. Write. Read. Have something going on in the background where you don't have to listen to silence. Since I started living alone, I have the TV on a more than ever. Mostly because it kills the background silence. I don't mind hearing the crickets chirp every now and then, but day after day & hour after hour is a little much.
Go out for a walk - as Kisa.
Kisa, I dare say that the vast majority of us understand exactly how you feel.
Chaunte
ooooooh, I'm not transgender, I shall explain my problems,
I have male and female traits but I'm mostly girl, I hate makeup, I hate my high voice, I hate dressing in dresses and girlish clothes alot of times. I wear mostly boring shirts and jeans, I have been mistaken for a guy a few times. :( But I never wanted to be a guy. My girlish side I love romance manga, cute, glitterly things, I love dolls and mostly female music. I don't feel like I fit in with girls or boys, I think I am my own person.
I'm bi-polar, plus I have social disorder, where I can't talk to people in real life, and when I do I totally freak out. its hard for me to make friends because I'm scared people won't like me. I feel like I'm rude and a bad person most of the time. Even, when I'm online I'm scared I messed up and I made people upset!
I'm sad because I'm lonely, most my family has moved away, and I'm not close to the ones I live near. I have my mom but she's in her own fantasy world. :-\
I hope I didn't come off as rude. :(
Quote from: Kisa on November 18, 2006, 09:58:07 PM
ooooooh, I'm not transgender, I shall explain my problems,
I have male and female traits but I'm mostly girl, I hate makeup, I hate my high voice, I hate dressing in dresses and girlish clothes alot of times. I wear mostly boring shirts and jeans, I have been mistaken for a guy a few times. :( But I never wanted to be a guy. My girlish side I love romance manga, cute, glitterly things, I love dolls and mostly female music. I don't feel like I fit in with girls or boys, I think I am my own person.
I'm bi-polar, plus I have social disorder, where I can't talk to people in real life, and when I do I totally freak out. its hard for me to make friends because I'm scared people won't like me. I feel like I'm rude and a bad person most of the time. Even, when I'm online I'm scared I messed up and I made people upset!
I'm sad because I'm lonely, most my family has moved away, and I'm not close to the ones I live near. I have my mom but she's in her own fantasy world. :-\
I hope I didn't come off as rude. :(
Kisa,
Not in the slightest! I apologize for not understanding your situation.
There are a lot of really friendly people here at Susans, and a number of us walk a similar path. If you cannot make contact in person, at least you can do it via the internet. That was an option that did not exist when I was a young'un. I also removed my post to you in the PMS section. Knowing more about who you are, it was not the best of answers. And for that, I apologize to you.
Chaunte
it's ok. :)
:angel:
hi kisa
im uni-polar and have a similar social disorder to the one you describe
what works for me is to listen to sad songs and cry, it makes me feel worse at the time, but later on i feel much much better
hope it helps :)
I have tons of hobbies, when they fail i tend to escape more and dress-up and dream more....
I am sad some days but work usually blanks that out of me!
I guess being sad is just one of those things we'll always have to deal with in life, more than most i fear! Same with depression!
Hugs
Ricki
I been listening to upbeat pop songs and rock music, it helps alot, sad songs make me sadder.
I walk alot when I am sad - Helps me get out and clear my mind.
Quote from: Ricki on November 19, 2006, 07:56:31 PM
when they fail i tend to escape more and dress-up and dream more....
When I am sad/depressed I tend to dress less.
Alice
Quote from: Kisa on November 18, 2006, 09:58:07 PM
I'm bi-polar, plus I have social disorder, where I can't talk to people in real life, and when I do I totally freak out. its hard for me to make friends because I'm scared people won't like me.
hey kiddo... don't worry about it. There are good people here. Everyone is very nice and you are very welcome to join in the conversation.
Chin up and all of that.
Cindi
I try to occupy my time doing something that will take my mind od of whatever is making me so sad. Taking long walks in woods helps to clear my mind. Sometims I just need to be in a quiet room and meditate. It doent always work but it helps. I suffer with depression have been pretty much most of my life and have difficulty talking to people.
Owen
Love being female :angel:
I've had more than my fair share of depression. Usually, hanging out with friends and having fun cheers me up, although it hasn't worked at all lately, and sometimes made me feel worse.
I have no idea what to do to feel better. I usually just ignore it, and hope it goes away. =\
When I sad I play games on my computer, read a book, watch one of my favorite movies, or star some project to get my mind off my problems. Usually that works. Music also helps when I'm felling down.
:) :)
Jillieann/JR
It takes alot to cheer me up, I'm going through a depressed spell now, but soon I might be going through a happy spell. I love to play video games it always cheers me up.
thanks all for the advice
Quote from: Kisa on November 18, 2006, 08:14:19 PM
What do you do, when you feel so sad and lonely?
I usually find some physically demanding work to do and throw myself into it completely, it usually makes me forget what I was sad about in the first place and then when I'm done I feel good about what I accomplished.
So its like two for the price of one, I guess.
I been doing a little bit better, still sad though :( and kinda of lonely.
Do you have a pet? I have three dogs and my puppy is just full of new born love! the older ones love me too! I play and cuddle with them when i'm real lonely! course a dogless bed maybe one night would be nice so i could stretch my legs.. Groan...
I hope you are feeling better!
Ricki
Hi kisa, i got your message, sorry for not replying, it wont let me (or i havent figured it out)
feel free to email me though :)
tc
Kisa,
Couldn't tell from your post, but have you seen a doctor? Sometimes medications can be a big help. As soneone who has suffered from depression for years and only in the past few done something medically about it, I can say don't wait.
Physical activity is very important as it releases chemicals into your body that naturally fight depression. That's one vicious cycle: When you're depressed you don't feel like doing anything which makes you more depressed. Get on your feet and break it.
Your diet can also affect you greatly. Carbs (don't over do them) do help you with feeling positive. When I'm depressed I step up complex carbs like whole grain foods. Just make sure your diet is balanced. And don't overdo caffiene or stimulants.
If I understand your myspace, you write songs. I do this too and it helps, so keep it up.
Prayer is quite important too for me. Sometimes I set a chair beside the bed and visualize God sitting there as a friend. Maybe it sounds hoaky, but for me it helps me to have a running conversation, which is what prayer is all about, rather than anything complicated. Talk, then stop to listen. Repeat.
Last, if you don't volunteer with a local charity, do so. There are ALWAYS people who are worse off than you. And somehow helping other people is like a good kick where we need it. It helps us put things in perspective.
And if you need to talk drop me a message.
Peace,
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fganjataz.com%2F01smileys%2Fimages%2Fsmileys%2FloopyBlonde-blinking.gif&hash=4545ddf8251cf9c32ae6074d56e48bc34a755857) Kristi
Quote from: Jess on November 23, 2006, 07:29:00 PM
Hi kisa, i got your message, sorry for not replying, it wont let me (or i havent figured it out)
feel free to email me though :)
tc
Jess,
You need at least 15 posts before you can send personal Messages. You have now past that limit so you should be able to reply to her Personal message.
Alice
oh, sorry, thanks alice :)