Ok just want to know if anyone had a similar experience to this:
I had to go to the doctor to get a checkup before i minor surgery i had to have, I had to see some nurses then the doctor to make sure i was good to go the next day. I am living full time as a woman, but all my identifications have not been changed, i will just wait for SRS and do everything at once. Since i was born in Russia my name is ambiguous enough that people arent sure of my sex by my name, at least people who aren't Russians. Now when i look in the mirror everyday all i see is the stuff i want to change and i have those, i look like a guy days, its probably all in my head, but still its always there.
I get to the first nurse and she asks me when my last period was. O_o, i thought she noticed on my records it said M but i guess she didn't check, I said I dont have periods, she says "Oh, have you had a hysto, and a few other surgical procedures?" , I reply "No, i am transsexual~", she takes a back and looks at me and says "Really?!, ok...". I was taken a back because i always think people can tell, but in the back of my mind i am hoping i am wrong and she wasnt just humoring me.
A short time later i am asked to wait in a room where the doctor is supposed to come examine me. After about 10 minutes there is a knock at the door and it slowly opens, a nice looking doctor pokes his head through the door first as he tries to come in then stops abruptly. He looks at me, he looks at his clip board, he looks at me again, then at his clipboard again, then backs up and looks at the door number then has a questioning expression in his face. He then stands in the doorway and says "Uh... Is X here?", I reply "I am X", disregarding everything i said he continues "Did he go to the restroom? are you his wife/or girlfriend?", I reply "No I am X and smile". He replies "No, you see what i am looking for a man, and your not a man. do you know where he is". After going back and forth for a bit i finally convinced him to see my ID, he looked at his clipboard then my ID, then at me.... "Umm... alright.. uh.." I could see i caught him off guard and watching him bewildered kind of made me smile as i was holding back a laugh. "Uh ok... I need to examine... that is... i need you to take off... umm...., I am going to get a nurse..." and he zips out the door almost loony toons style. He comes back a short time later with nurse that looks pissed because he probably pulled her away from her duties. He still was mumbley and bewildered, when he asked again... since he couldnt get the words out, I just replied "you want me to take off my pants and panties?" The nurse was already getting impatient with him and spouted out "you want me to do this?!", "No..no, i can" the doctor replied. Heh, all the while it was hard for me to hold back laughter at the whole situation.
Anyone had a similar experience?
Hehe ...
I went to the dermatologist. All my identification and insurance cards are in my male name (as I still work as a male). So I decided to come to the appointment in my work clothes.
I could tell the doctor was uncomfortable and kept using the correct pronouns (she, woman, etc.) but kept having to correct himself since I was presenting as male. He kept saying stuff like "Most women experience X Y Z ... er uh .. and some men too..."
That was new for me.
I personally hate doctors. That one was the first one I've been to since I was 10. Mostly because I know that I generally have to talk about my body, which I hate. I need to learn to get over that if I'm going to go any further in my journey, I think.
I love the reactions, Izumi. It is so funny to see their faces. Good for you. ;D
I have a new doctor and we went through the whole "getting to know you" meeting. One of the questions was, of course, 'What operations have you had?' I am running down the list and mentioned that I had an Orchidectomy. She stops and looked at me and said "an Orchidectomy?". She had the most excellent surprised look on her face. :o So I outed myself to her. She said " Well that solves the other questions?" ( When was your last period, etc. )
After the whole interview, she wanted to do blood work. Well I have never had my levels tested, so I asked her to check them. She also tried to have my PSA tested, but the system would not let her check the box ( I am listed as a female ). But she finally did have the lab check it, but after she had to tell them about me. ;D
When I went back for the follow-up, everything was fine except my cholesterol. So I now have a new medication for my cholesterol. ::) My E was < 50, and my T was 5. She was going to check with a fellow doctor who works with Transpatients, because my E was low. She is now on a learning curve as I am her first Transpatient. :D
She did call me a few days later to find out what was in my E pills. And then she later called to up my E. :eusa_dance:
Your story is really funny, Izumi. Everyone accepts me as a woman, but the times I've had to out myself no one ever expresses any surprise. :-\
My doctor knew me from before. But when I went to the county jail to be fingerprinted (not because I was being admitted as a guest), the young deputy asked if my name was my maiden name. I could have kissed her but explained that I had changed my first name because I'm transsexual. She gave me a friendly smile and asked what my previous name was. At the time all of my records said I was male. :)
- Kate
I am thinking to go to my next doctor apointment in girl mode next week. The doctor knows my transition but she and the nurse never saw me as Amanda but just a guy. I will let you know what happen.
I was chatting with a new acquaintance and I was interested to discover that they were a NHS nurse s a profession.
After chatting for abit he noticed the scars on my arm, I mentioned that they were self inflicted from my teen years and that I had a difficult time. His response was pretty unusual.
"I can understand it must have been difficult growing up different... I encountered an individual like you once... do you take testosterone injections to help your puberty?
are you going to get your breasts removed?"
O_o
He thought I had AIS or was intersex
I think that would have boggled my mind a bit. hehe ...
Quote from: pebbles on July 10, 2010, 07:24:40 PM
I was chatting with a new acquaintance and I was interested to discover that they were a NHS nurse s a profession.
After chatting for abit he noticed the scars on my arm, I mentioned that they were self inflicted from my teen years and that I had a difficult time. His response was pretty unusual.
"I can understand it must have been difficult growing up different... I encountered an individual like you once... do you take testosterone injections to help your puberty?
are you going to get your breasts removed?"
O_o
He thought I had AIS or was intersex
Feels kind of good when you project more feminine qualities. I think once you got that aura about you, people just start assuming your female. ^_^b
LOL Izumi. That's so awesome. =)
I did recently get asked if I was pregnant before they took X-rays. That was funny. I just said "Yes I'm sure I'm not pregnant." =)
Quote from: Jerica on July 12, 2010, 02:54:49 PM
LOL Izumi. That's so awesome. =)
I did recently get asked if I was pregnant before they took X-rays. That was funny. I just said "Yes I'm sure I'm not pregnant." =)
If you take enough progesterone you might be pregnant to a pregnancy test ^_^, i think.
That's a really funny story. must have felt nice though.
Quote from: Helena on July 16, 2010, 03:04:59 PM
That's a really funny story. must have felt nice though.
Its kind of bitter sweet, you feel good that people assume your female without even thinking, but bad because your still different no matter how you look. Still i will take that over the depression i was in before any day.
I'll be coming out to my doctor on Tuesday, and asking for a referral for assessment. I bet he'll get the shock of his life. He's known me and my family (wife and kids) for at least 6 years. It'll be interesting to see how he reacts, since I've never given any indication of anything like this.
Ha ha Izumi I know how you feel I had a similar incident at the pathologist.
I had been attending the same pathologist for about 3 years and assumed all the nurses new I was TS until one asked "when was your last period". I replied, "I don't get them". She said, "Oh, okay then, but how long ago was your last one". I said, "I don't get them". She said, "Yes I understand that but I need to know how long ago your last period was". I said, "I have never had a period". To this answer she looked at me perplexed then asked me again how long ago my last period was. I looked at her and said, "I have never had a period. You don't know about me do you, I don't get periods as I'm a transsexual". With this she stood there stunned for a minute or two then picked her jaw up of the floor, apologised profusely then proceeded with the blood test.
So yes we all assume people pick up on us but not always.
Hi Izumi
I have to say, I was in a pretty good mood today, but after reading your story I now have a grin ear to ear! I shared it with my wife and we both had a good laugh (yes, still funny the second time around! ;D).
I can't wait to have an experience like that!
-Gwen
The good thing about being out an living as a woman is I now feel totally comfortable saying I am trans. I had to go to urgent care office a couple of weeks ago and even though I pass and have F ID the nurse did a double take when I had to disrobe. She said she would have never known and that was the end of it; she went on like nothing happened.
Pam
Izumi:
I'm so happy for you!
There's nothing else I can say. I'm out of my league here. You gals all have it way over me. No story to relate even remotely like all of yours. :-\
Going by your picture here, you REALLY pass! I'm jealous ... ;) No, really, I'm very happy for you.
That was an incredibly cute story! Thanks for sharing!
I've always presented as Shannon. Hugs.
I lucky I guess ... My GP is a MtF TG, and she understands everything perfectly. No issues. I admit that my former GP was a bit of a old fogie who was just in permanent denial ... I hardly ever saw him when I went in ... He always manged to have his latest "trainee" meet with me rather than face me himself ... But now with my new doctor, I don't hate going to the doctor any more!
I had been anxious about coming out to my doctor for some time now. I began hrt through an OBGYN 8 weeks ago and she has only met me presenting as Anne. I had not yet mentioned being transgender to my GP. He is much younger than I am and very stoically quiet. We have been cordial first name acquaintances for years and I feared that I would need to find a new GP after our I came out to him. Presenting in my guy mode I informed the nurse of the addition of e and spiro to my meds. When the doctor came in I mentioned that some things had changed. He said that he had noticed the meds. I asked if he had any problems with it. His only response was that he was inexperienced with hrt and didn't want to be responsible for that but would have no problem with the GP stuff. Then we just spent a bunch of time talking about whys, whats and hows, primarily to assuage his curiosity. It looks like I get to be his advanced course in learning about the tg world. A possibly problematic final visit turned into an opportunity to spread some knowledge about our magical world. One hurdle passed, now how to build up the nerve to present Anne to my clinic. I have been going to that office since 1978 and it will be a tough but very fun experience when it happens.
Anne
Anne. If you feel more comfortable changing doctors do that. Hugs Shannon
Hello Shannon,
Thanks for your reply and changing doctors is definitely a possibility but I am kind of looking forward to educating and grooming a young doctor on the vagaries of serving transgender patients. This seems like a potentially positive and rare opportunity to help out our world. It might even be fun opening the eyes of a service provider.
Hugs
Anne
Anne - good for you and I completely understand. Keep me/us posted. Hugs Shannon
I have a fair few funny stories with encounters with doctors, nurses, and medical professionals over the years.
I've probably written about them in other threads, like having eye trouble and being told by a nurse that it was just due to my period.
One funny story was when I went for a job interview, and I got offered the job as long as I passed the medical check-up. So I was sent to see their company doctor. He was mobile, and based at different company facilities each week. I had to go to a logistics warehouse to see him. When I got there, I queued up with all the other workers who were waiting to see him. His office was just a small grubby back-room in the factory. I went in and explained why I had been sent there. He asked me to fill out a questionnaire, and one question was had I ever had any surgery, and if so what? So I put 'SRS' in the box.
He read through the form and when we got to the surgery part, he asked "What's SRS?"
I blushed and said that I was a transexual woman, hoping that would clue him in as to what SRS meant.
He looked quite shocked and looked me up and down (I was of course fully dressed at the time), and said:
"Well, they've done a good job!"
And he just moved on to the next part of the form.
I always chuckle at this, because the way he looked at me, it was as though he was looking for some external clue about my SRS operation, I mean, it's got nothing to do with my face!
Just one of those things we experience I guess. And I got the job too.