As far as know, there's no groups anywhere between Pittsburgh, PA and Washington, DC; is that true? I live halfway between both cities, and I haven't heard of anything. There's a pseudo-group in Hagerstown, MD but all the transpeople I know have boycotted them because they're apparently jerks :-p. I started my own group on Facebook, Allegheny Trans* Community (http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=278017612688 (http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=278017612688)), but there's not really much activity and I doubt there'd be a meeting any time soon :-(.
So is that why when I finally got the courage to look for this area around Hagerstown and Frederick, MD that I really found like nothing? Every single time I look probably just going it the wrong way I really do not find anything and it takes abit of courage just for me to look. I'm highly against public sorta things so.. it is even more frustrating when I get enough courage to maybe go once? That I turn up nothing each time.
Where are you? I got t-friends in Wheeling, Frostburg, Cumberland, Hagerstown, Frederick, & Gaithersburg southward, we usually go to DC to hang out or I stop by when traveling. I'm over in Cumberland if you wanna hang out or anything. I go over to Frederick for my laser hair removal, hoping to do a NYC trip in August.
I reside in Rohrersville, MD between Frederick and Hagerstown. So I can get to both quite easy and if ya need a further reference? Like 3-4 miles outside of Boonsboro, MD.
I suppose I could stop by some time? I'm kinda nervous about it all really still part of why I am so often and on with support groups... one of many. Plus all you peeps pass at least okay, are learned, etc. I'm slow learner at best 'n' stuffs. So I'm still me with a few odds and ends. Maybe being around others with I dunno courage might help or at least meeting someone? I've never actually met another trans in real life.
Well I'd suggest your first time out do it far far away from your hometown. It's psychologically comforting knowing no one knows you. Even better, do it someplace you'll never go back to (i.e. pick some random town in PA or something); that way you can reassure yourself that anyone who sees you or reacts will never see you again. Nothing'll happen, but my experience is that the #1 barrier to passing is your own freak-out-ish-ness :-p if you're freaking out, other people'll pick up on it. I was scared ->-bleeped-<-less my first time lol, palms sweating, even started getting dizzy :-( imagining evil transphobes around every corner.... My first time out was just May last year, and I went full-time this January ;-). The more you go out, the more you get used to yourself being out, and the better you'll pass :-).
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If you'd like we can go up to Wheeling to stay a bit. My friend Samantha there is the one who pushed me to go out in public (she's domme lol). She was a huge help in getting me to face my fears though, she can probably help you too. It was thanks to her I mustered the courage to do a roadtrip by myself to Virginia Beach that August, with no guy clothes. In think that was probably the defining moment when I realized I could do this. After that, I'd go out every chance I could, but I'd wear my outfit under my guy clothes :-( then pull off the interstate somewhere and pull them off. I didn't dress anywhere in the state of Maryland until I went full-time lol.
That is probably true but outside of some peeps at the local theatre where I used to work? Nobody knows me in Frederick and one person in all of Hagerstown knows me. I worked at the FYE all of one month there and I doubt they'd remember anyways. Perhaps you are right though.
Either way I do not have enough stuff that is truly femi anyways. I started this right after a shortage of cash came like a moron. I just have my training stuff that I got to walk and get used to a lil in. Some skirts, stockings, two blouses, high heels, some makeup that I keep up to practice, some stuff like that 'n' some personal stuff panties, etc. Which I'd rather not talk about on a forum. Regardless of which forum. So it is mute anyways. All I learn is on my own as well and I am a slow learner. Still working on the right walk for a year now and the ponytail after months. Slow as molasses on learning with all this read and try it crap. Besides I have the spine for public on this kinda stuff god gave an invertebrate.
I just wanted to meet some peeps. Maybe learn? Get more lingo from the horses mouth? Stuff ya know? Watch the real thing instead of all this god damn reading and youtube crap. I learn hands on and slowly. Youtube is just words to me, gibberish.
I just wouldn't pass. I have yet to even get cash for the damn fur on my face. I just wanted to learn a lil 'n' meet.
lol regarding local stuff, it depends on how paranoid you are, how you think you'll feel going out and then how you actually feel when you go out are two different things (for me anyways), I thought I was confident, but as soon as I went outside my heart starts jackhammering, I eventually got dizzy even :-( not that I'm trying to scare you, lol, I love your attitude :-) like I said, attitude is probably the #1 thing a t-girl should have, for me, it was a long tortuous process overcoming my paranoias and fears :-( but it's made me a strong person, and now I could care less what other people think
Grrr.. check your pm's... grrrrr... ;p
If you can get to Baltimore they have a pretty good group that I've been wanting to go to. I visited the Baltimore area once a month for almost 2 years and never got the chance to go:
Link (http://www.glccb.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=49&Itemid=59)
Nah, I'd never travel that far around here unless it was a must. Peeps do not drive around here they just ram each other and hope for the best. I couldn't stomach that long a drive for a maybe it being a positive thing.
I'm actually moving to the Gaithersburg area this month for work. Anyone interested in a meetup since there's not a lot of support groups? I could also use information about good electrologists, therapists, endocrinologists, etc. I've seen the listings at Equality Maryland and Laura's Playground but I usually prefer at least one real-life person as a reference rather than "eenie-meenie-mynie-moe"
Help???!!!!!!
Are there any transguys living in western maryland? I know there's a support group in baltimore that's good but that's kind of a drive for me. has anyone actually gone to it?
Hey, I'm from this region. Sadly I didn't think I was going to find any groups or info specific to our area, and I've already googled extensively.
I wish I had enough time to travel distances like this. I'm in the Pittsburgh area and am curious about meeting others as I feel so awkward and alone at the moment too and think I could learn better if I had some sort of in person support group. I know it's an old topic but I thought it was relevant? I don't know.
well, as far as DC there is Magic http://www.magicdc.org/ (http://www.magicdc.org/), Tgea http://www.tgea.net/ (http://www.tgea.net/), Tgea has a relevent link to other groups as well: http://tgea.net/groups.shtml (http://tgea.net/groups.shtml)
I know of the James River Transgender Society in VA, near richmond as well, but I don't know of anything north of the District, but I live in VA, so I never really thought about it too much, perhaps this will help someone here. For what it is worth I have never been to any of these meetings, even though I have known people that did. I don't really have the strong desire to reach out to my peers at the moment, though I probably will want to in the future.