New York Times Says Trans People are Ethically Required to Out Themselves on Dates
http://questioningtransphobia.wordpress.com/2010/07/11/new-york-times-says-trans-people-are-ethically-required-to-out-themselves-on-dates/ (http://questioningtransphobia.wordpress.com/2010/07/11/new-york-times-says-trans-people-are-ethically-required-to-out-themselves-on-dates/)
Randy Cohen, the ethicist*, has declared that trans people are ethically required to disclose to their dates.
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So he actually does use the word "panic" in that paragraph, which is kind of ominous. He also compares disclosing that you're trans to disclosing STDs or whether you're currently married to someone else.
As usually happens when it comes to trans people and dating, confidentiality and privacy are thrown out the window as soon as cis people insert themselves into the situation. Cohen (who is, by the way, a humorist and not an ethicist, who has written for the historically transphobic David Letterman show) says that it is fine for the cis woman who asked this question to out the trans man she dated to her friends, that her right to process something that doesn't actually have a serious impact on her supercedes his right to privacy or any consideration for confidentiality.
Well you know what, New York can lick it! ;)