So as it says, I get off work at 6:50 tonight, so in just over 9 hours from now, then will drive for over 3 to go visit my parents and little sister.
They know I am going to tell them something huge, and that they may or may not accept it. I think my mom knows already, after all she still laughs about how sweet it was for me to give my toys to my little sister.
I don't know how my step-dad will take it, he's always been more of a father figure for me then my real dad. But the one that concerns me the most is my little sister. She's my best friend and means SO much to me. I just hope everything turns out well...
If not, just knowing I have all of you wonderful people to come back to will help me, and my girlfriend is supportive as well which is huge.
Wish me luck please, I need it.
Samantha
Best of luck... and please let us know how it goes.
Aside from my wife, I've only come out to two close friends (both female) so my experience with this type of situation is very limited, but thankfully they were both were very supportive... I truly wish the same positive response to you in this situation.
-Gwen
It's one of the hardest things you'll ever have to do but once it's done, you'll say, "Oh, that wasn't a quarter as bad as I thought it would be!"
Good luck, girl!!!!!!!!! ;D
If this isn't too late, I would imagine your little sister will ask Why?.
Hi Samantha
you've probably told them by now; hope it all went well.
Jenni x
Best wishes!
Best of luck Samantha. :)
I hope it goes as well for you as it went for me yesterday :)
Good luck!
;D
So it went a lot better than I thought it would..
My mom is very accepting, my step dad said that he still loves me.
My lil sister... She doesn't understand how I know I'm a girl since I'm not one, but she doesn't care, she doesn't agree with it but can accept it...
It's much better than I thought.
Tell more tomorrow, typing this on my phone so not easy,
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Samantha
gratz on a positive reaction.
Good to hear that it went somewhat well.
Hope things continue to go well :)
Hi Samantha Marie
Congratulations on a wonderful outcome. Give it time and your little sister will understand.
Take care and all the best for the future.
Kind regards
Sarah B
Yea I'm sure she will given time, she even said I can go to her wedding as a bridesmaid! Its in nov.... With as much good news that ive been receiving, I t might be possible to pass by then...
Course I'm being optimistic now, but, everyone that I was worried about telling now knows and is ok with it even if they are worded out some.
who knows, if I can get things together for a trach shave and my hairline fixed I just might take her up on that!
Oh I almost forgot, my mom said my name would of been Gabrial, and, she thought I was going to be a girl, when I came out with a male body I didn't get named for over 24 hours....
Found that really interesting!
Anyways, still only on my phone so will cut this short.
Love you all!
Samantha
That's the sort of news to make you smile.
Thanks for sharing it. I can always do with another reason to smile. :laugh:
Glad it went well girl, hope they continue to be supportive
So I spent all morning talking to my mom about this, and we had a pretty amazing talk.
She is honestly ok with this!! I was terrified she'd ask me to leave her house, or be very standoffish with me. But, she completely understood!
So I had said earlier that she had planned to name me Gabrielle, well I decided to ask what my middle name would of been, and when she said Nicole, I had to stop myself from crying.
You see, my girlfriends name, who is going to stand beside me through this WHOLE thing and go with me to surgery, is named Nicole! The therapist I found who I've been going to, her name is Nicole as well!
It just really clicks. I'm not sure if I'll switch to it, but the name Gabrielle Nicole is a beautiful name and the fact that my mom had it picked out for me... I just might!!!
Let's see what other good news do I have, oh yea, my beard is almost completely gone!! The shedding phase has finally started so hopefully here in a week or less I'll finally throw away my face razor!
I decided I'm going to go full girl mode for halloween, it'll let me get a reaction from my co-workers to see how they respond to me, then just go fulltime from there.
I plan to tell my managers a few weeks prior to halloween, let them know the timetable so they can set out any paperwork and place up some policy info where it's visible so that way when the change takes place it won't be so awkward.
Love ya all!
May be a good idea to check company policy and laws in your state regarding transgender so that you know what rights you do and do not have, just in case your company gives you any trouble.
Best wishes - so happy your mom is supporting you.
It's always good to hear a positive story.. Glad to hear it went well for you.
Quote from: Robertina on August 02, 2010, 07:34:52 PM
May be a good idea to check company policy and laws in your state regarding transgender so that you know what rights you do and do not have, just in case your company gives you any trouble.
Best wishes - so happy your mom is supporting you.
Oh, I work for Costco!
They have the BEST rules in regards to gender identity! The company doesn't discriminate for any reason and has a zero tolerance rule in regards to it. If anyone was to ever say a single cross word about it they have no problem replacing them.
I've been with them for almost 4 years now, and know that at least my job is 100% secure!
Quote from: Samantha_Marie on August 02, 2010, 09:37:21 PM
Oh, I work for Costco!
They have the BEST rules in regards to gender identity! The company doesn't discriminate for any reason and has a zero tolerance rule in regards to it. If anyone was to ever say a single cross word about it they have no problem replacing them.
I've been with them for almost 4 years now, and know that at least my job is 100% secure!
So transition today! :o
A MtF in my group was a bridesmaid for her sister...saad she had a lovely day. And she'd only been transitioned a few months too.
If you do decide to take the names, Gabrielle Nicole, it will be a great compliment to a wonderful mother who obviously cares for you so much, as all good mothers do.
I had already taken a name when my mother found out I was trans. She wnated to name me herself. I would have taken any name she gave me but I already was Cynthia. She was somewhat bummed out she didnt get to name me.
I think Gabrielle Nicole is a pretty name and it would be honering your suportive mom to accept the name.
Quote from: lilacwoman on August 03, 2010, 04:10:50 AM
So transition today! :o
A MtF in my group was a bridesmaid for her sister...saad she had a lovely day. And she'd only been transitioned a few months too.
I want to SO badly...
My girlfriend and I still need to tell her sister who lives with us, as well as her parents. Then I don't want to just spring this on all of my co-workers, while my company has very strict rules in regards to this, I live in a state that has less then 2 million people, and it's a conservative state.
I want to make sure that those who are bit more close minded have at least a chance to absorb the shock before they see me dressed natural. I am also trying to get a promotion to the food court lead, where I'll be allowed to wear a hat and apron all day with a hairnet so transitioning will be much easier, but I don't want to out myself before I find out because I don't want to get the position because I'm trans. I want to get it because I truly earn it.
If I get the new promotion I'll transition that week. If not then I'll wait til the day after halloween to.
That'll be right around 3 months of HRT as well and fits nicely into my projected plan to have the operation in just under 18 months now.
Oh, and I am going to go with Gabrielle Nicole! I absolutely love it!
Years from now you will be glad you came out early because GID will not go away. I regret waiting so long; you did the right thing.
Pam
Just a quick update;
I came out to my older sister today and she was AMAZINGLY supportive. She didn't even blink when I told her and just said as long as it's what I want and I'm happy then great!
Just thought I'd share that!
Gabby
ps. My nipples have DEFINITELY grown, not a lot mind you but they are without a doubt bigger then they were!! YAY!
I love hearing good news, Congratulations to you and your family. :)
Quote from: Gabrielle_Nicole on August 03, 2010, 11:42:30 AM
but I don't want to out myself before I find out because I don't want to get the position because I'm trans. I want to get it because I truly earn it.
If I get the new promotion I'll transition that week. If not then I'll wait til the day after halloween to.
word of caution: some people who have chosen to get a job then transition immediately have found themselves in deep water by not being what it said on their packet. It works both ways but you need to determine the likely acceptance of your job-transition plans and maybe recast them as transition-job.
Quote from: lilacwoman on August 06, 2010, 10:21:49 AM
word of caution: some people who have chosen to get a job then transition immediately have found themselves in deep water by not being what it said on their packet. It works both ways but you need to determine the likely acceptance of your job-transition plans and maybe recast them as transition-job.
No worries with this at my job, already called corporate and they said I could do it either way I wanted. And I am going to try to not transition immediately. While I want to do it today, I am planning to go full time nov 12. Seeing as how this is being reborn into our right selves, I figured my birthday was the perfect time! It will also allow the hormones to be in full effect and make things a little bit easier on those I work with.
My girlfriend is also not quiet ready for me to, she is very supportive but she is still grieving for the loss of us. I did mention buying some make-up and she asked if I needed it now. I want to so badly, but seeing as how she's going to stand by me, is going to go shopping this weekend for some clothes. I figure I can give her a month at the very least to start wearing it around the house.
I just don't want to make this any harder on them then it will be, especially with everyone being so understanding, not fair if I'm not understanding for their plight in this as well!
Gabby
Gabby,
That you're being so considerate of those around you is very admirable... I felt the same way after coming out and I sincerely hope that you can hold on to that as you move forward...... But.....
Don't spend an unnecessary amount of energy on worrying about what's going on in other people's heads. Transition is HARD, especially when you start changing your appearance. You're going to need that energy for YOU. It's been said before that starting the RLT is like coming out all over again... It's one thing for you to tell people you're Trans but quite another when they actually see it. Some people are just going to be overwhelmingly uncomfortable with it. As you move forward, you're going to notice that, no matter how much you try to keep everyone happy, some are going to go along for the ride and some will stay behind. Those that are shaky about your transition now probably won't stick around when you start to change. It's difficult, but you have to move on and never look back.... Gabrielle is a MUCH stronger person than "he" ever was and she'll get through it. :)
Quote from: pamshaw on August 03, 2010, 11:50:32 AM
Years from now you will be glad you came out early because GID will not go away. I regret waiting so long; you did the right thing.
Pam
Ditto - what she said. Gabrielle Nicole, I'm SO happy for you! Wow, your story, in all your threads, is so uplifting and heartwarming. Thank you for sharing!