Coming out to my dad, have to call him in the next 20 mins or so. I'm out to the rest of my family basically and my grandmother might have already told him but none the less I am terrified to the point of shaking. I only see him once a year for a day or two so I have to come out to him over the phone.... I just don't want to wait, get on T before I tell him and then come out to him in person as myself. I wish I knew how to word it to him...
did it work out alright?
Thanks for asking man. He didn't answer even though he had told me yesterday to call him at that time. Oh well, I guess I'm meant to wait to tell him until he calls.
Edit: Sorry, I call everyone man... bad habit
Forgive me for being so abrupt, but if he only takes the time to see you once or twice a year, his reaction isn't worth worrying about.
If his reaction is negative, don't give him the satisfaction of knowing that it bothers you. You're going to do what you have to do, regardless of him; If he's behind you, fantastic, but if he's not, be the better person... accept it with maturity and move ahead with your head held high.
I spent way too much time at the beginning of transition worrying about family's responses.... some are intellectually incapable of understanding your condition
Jessica, no forgiveness needed, I prefer a person to speak their mind and you are entirely right. Biggest thing I kept saying all night was that I didn't even know why I cared because he doesn't usually care about me. That in mind I think it will be easier once I eventually get a hold of him (since he ignored my call, as usual) to be able to just say "this is how it is, I'd appreciate your support but if I don't have it I respect that and I will live".
I'd like to believe parents want their kids to be happy, whether they see each other every day or once a year, so as long as he understands that this is what you need to be happy, I think he'll eventually get behind you, (assuming he isn't extremely closed minded) So even if his initial reaction isn't so great, there's still hope that he'll come around. I hope things go well though.
and I have the same tendency, to call everyone dude/man regardless of gender
I think Dads will always be the hardest. If I were to do it over again I'd just get that over with first and the rest would a walk in the park. The sooner you tell them the sooner they can possibly get over it, and there is only so much you can do, good luck.