What part of your body makes you feel more feminine? I know a lot will say whats down below after surgery, but excluding the breasts and whats between your legs, what feature gives you a good feeling about yourself as a female.
For me its my hair, I take good care of it, it feels silky and shines when i want to make it. Its delicate and airy and since its long it feels really good on my skin before i take a shower or wearing clothing where my hair touches the bare skin. The way it moves and smells (my fiance is always smelling my head, lol, he always says I smell nice). The way it touches my body and the feel of it really makes me feel like a woman sometimes... What about you?
My legs right after I shave ^_ They just feel SOOO nice ^_^
Interesting question. Probably my vocal chords and voice.
(Although other possible candidates include feet hands and nose all thankfully reasonably small and delicate, and indeed my hair.)
My hips,they're 38inchs
Interesting. Even though I might not be the prettiest woman, I actually think my face, a.k.a. my look, is what makes me feel the most feminine.
My face...somedays I can look in the mirror and there's absolutely no male there. Those are the good days. The bad days I don't want to talk about.
I like my cheekbones, And my hair Enjoying it even more now i'm on hormones it's thicker and free of the overwhelming amount of grease that used to plague me :)
one of my favorite changes, and I kinda like my skin not so much the areas still suffering with hair but I like how it's changed from thick coarse sweaty oily and hairy to nearly it's polar opposite. and the most changed areas are covered with freckles now to like declare it's not like it was before. like seeing a blasted landscape recover ^_^
My legs tend not to react well to shaving, and while I do like the thickness of my thighs, I reckon it's my shaved lower arms I'm happiest with. My upper arms are sadly chunky, but the rest manages to look feminine enough when treated. It's a great feeling just to have smooth skin somewhere. :)
My hair. I used to not know what to do with it, it was a wavy floaty mess. Then I was imitating a dog once while my hair was still wet from a shower. I shook my head violently like a dog stepping out of the pond, and BAM! Curly hair everywhere. I've only had it cut once since then, which was a huge mistake. I don't let anyone convince me I have split ends anymore, they cut it all off D:
I've been growing it since 2006, it's about 2-3 feet long if uncurled. It lays about half a foot past my shoulders sometimes, and other times it curls more tightly and doesn't go past my shoulders.
I used to wish I had normal straight hair back when I couldn't get much length out of it, but after the two year mark it got so much better. Every girl I knew was jealous of my hair :D
I was at a prom-night alt-party once and spent the last 3 or 4 hours napping in some girls lap, whom I've never met before, just gently playing through my hair. I looked like I'd stuck my finger in a lightsocket afterwards though.
And headbanging with long curly hair flying around is very satisfying.
I normally keep it tied back lately though, just because it's easier to manage and it looked more "professional" at the job that I no longer have.
Quote from: Janet Lynn on August 06, 2010, 01:49:20 PM
Interesting. Even though I might not be the prettiest woman, I actually think my face, a.k.a. my look, is what makes me feel the most feminine.
You do have a very plesent, feminine face Janet
Gotta be my thighs, hips, butt and hands/feet :laugh:
As for my face.. I'd just rather have it melt away...
:icon_flower: Well Thank You, Spacial. :D
My hair, it takes a lot of maintenance, in my early years of transition I use to go to bed with hair curlers rolled and clipped tightly in my hair, used to be painful just to try and sleep with them in, but in the morning just to take them out and get the curls just right was well worth all the pain and effort and made me feel more feminine and girly lol, nowadays just having a good hair day at the hair stylist puts an extra spring in my step.
Not forgetting my face, the present day my skin is very soft, silky and feminine, down to all the years of surgery, skin creams, cosmetics and the magic of estrogen, so I guess its my face and hair and getting complements from my Fiancé.
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I've always felt comfortable about my neck, how smooth and sensitive it feels to the touch or when water or air runs across it.
When I wasn't out, my sister said I have a girl's neck.. then I told her. ;)
I like things about my face, hands and skin, oh yeah and butt :angel:
My back and shoulders :)
Also my butt and hips. But I look my best with shoulders showing.
You have really nice hair Izumi, I'm jelous! Mine is all damaged from flat ironing :( I hate having really curly hair. If they ever needed a test subject to swap curly hair for straight hair I would volunteer!
Hmm... well I like my hands and tummy. I think they're pretty feminine :) My sis says I have girly legs too but I always thought they were too muscly looking.
Quote from: lightvi on August 06, 2010, 06:45:16 PM
You have really nice hair Izumi, I'm jelous! Mine is all damaged from flat ironing :( I hate having really curly hair. If they ever needed a test subject to swap curly hair for straight hair I would volunteer!
Hmm... well I like my hands and tummy. I think they're pretty feminine :) My sis says I have girly legs too but I always thought they were too muscly looking.
I used to hate my curly hair too. It always looked so short, even when it was past my shoulders wet, it ended up 1/8th the height all curled up. And it's also kinda inconsistent, I have some straight bunches, and in the back theres a large clump that's always frizzed out.
I didn't start to really like it until it had enough weight to fall around my shoulders. Before then it was always in a light poof of curls up top. It certainly makes most straight-haired bio-girls jealous :D It helps a lot to boost my self-image. I used to joke with my friend Chrissy that I would trade in my hair for her body any day of the week. I never really came out to most people, I just dropped gems like that every now and again :P
Quote from: CJHard on August 06, 2010, 06:58:27 PM
I used to hate my curly hair too. It always looked so short, even when it was past my shoulders wet, it ended up 1/8th the height all curled up. And it's also kinda inconsistent, I have some straight bunches, and in the back theres a large clump that's always frizzed out.
I didn't start to really like it until it had enough weight to fall around my shoulders. Before then it was always in a light poof of curls up top. It certainly makes most straight-haired bio-girls jealous :D It helps a lot to boost my self-image. I used to joke with my friend Chrissy that I would trade in my hair for her body any day of the week. I never really came out to most people, I just dropped gems like that every now and again :P
I knnooww it's terrible when it's growing out, I had an afro for a while until it fell down lol! Now it's past my shoulders, which I really like but it takes forever to flat iron and if it gets hot or rains there goes all my work :(. I'm almost at the point of just wanting a really good wig and call it quits.
Quote from: CJHard on August 06, 2010, 03:45:23 PM
It lays about half a foot past my shoulders sometimes, and other times it curls more tightly and doesn't go past my shoulders.
so your hair is like mine? how do you get yours to fall? ive been trying this for like 2 yrs D:
and yes, long curly hair does feel good when headbanging!
Quote from: WarHeadJoe3 on August 06, 2010, 07:17:13 PM
so your hair is like mine? how do you get yours to fall? ive been trying this for like 2 yrs D:
and yes, long curly hair does feel good when headbanging!
http://imgur.com/p96qi.jpg (http://imgur.com/p96qi.jpg) This was me in March of '09, after some serious headbanging. I just kept growing and it eventually did it on it's own. I started growing it sometime in 2006, so it takes some serious patience. It's even longer than that today.
http://imgur.com/eyXJx.jpg (http://imgur.com/eyXJx.jpg) I honestly have no recollection of when this was taken, but think it was 2007 during one of my "Let's try colors that aren't black" phase. It also looks like I was shaving my arms then (I had to stop when I went to the same college my mom works at :-\)
As you can see it's come a long way. I don't think it really fell on its own weight until late 2008. I throw on some Society's Plague sometimes after my morning shower and headbang for a song or two, it keeps the curls loose while it dries, that way they're not all bound tightly in ringlets and looking short. It also adds volume so it's not so flattened against your face, but that can be too poofy for some people. If you let it dry just normally it will be kinda flat but it may have enough weight to lay down. I used to dry it without first poofing it out, but after seeing pictures (won't post those), I thought it just looked really bad.
Quote from: lightvi on August 06, 2010, 07:09:17 PM
I knnooww it's terrible when it's growing out, I had an afro for a while until it fell down lol! Now it's past my shoulders, which I really like but it takes forever to flat iron and if it gets hot or rains there goes all my work :(. I'm almost at the point of just wanting a really good wig and call it quits.
For a while I used to answer to the name "JewFro" :-\ I don't have any pics of that, and if I did there's no way they'll survive the burning. If you have the patience for a few years of growing, I think curly hair is really worth it
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I'm kind of in what Helena called the bad days. It is hard to think of anything about my body that makes me feel feminine, and I hate that. I get compliments on my hair a lot, which does make me feel good. I get compliments on my makeup often and people say I look pretty (if they anything at all), but I can't help feeling like I'm trying to polish a turd.
I would have hair down to my behind or longer by now if I hadn't gotten stupid a couple of times and gotten the ends trimmed. I said trimmed, but the trim always seemed to be like a couple of inches or such. It's still substantially past my shoulders though and close to the middle of my back. Mostly straight, but with slight waves and a tendency to be completely unmanageable. Of course, that could be because I don't know what I'm doing also. :icon_ashamed:
Quote from: Jamiee on August 06, 2010, 08:42:25 PM
I'm kind of in what Helena called the bad days. It is hard to think of anything about my body that makes me feel feminine, and I hate that. I get compliments on my hair a lot, which does make me feel good. I get compliments on my makeup often and people say I look pretty (if they anything at all), but I can't help feeling like I'm trying to polish a turd.
I would have hair down to my behind or longer by now if I hadn't gotten stupid a couple of times and gotten the ends trimmed. I said trimmed, but the trim always seemed to be like a couple of inches or such. It's still substantially past my shoulders though and close to the middle of my back. Mostly straight, but with slight waves and a tendency to be completely unmanageable. Of course, that could be because I don't know what I'm doing also. :icon_ashamed:
With enough work, a turd can be polished (Mythbusters did it, literally)
I got a "trim" once and ended up with about 1/4th inch of hair left atop my head. Might as well have called it a buzz cut... Your hair sounds about as long as mine is now, but the way you describe it "slight waves and a tendency to be completely unmanageable" sounds exactly how my hair was before I learned it was really just curly. Do you often brush your hair out when it's dry? I used to dry my hair and then brush it, or brush while blow drying back when I didn't know what I was doing.
I vowed not to have any haircut or "trim" until my hair reached my butt when dry. No way can they screw it up bad enough that there's nothing left for the fixer to fix.
Quote from: CJHard on August 06, 2010, 09:09:23 PM
With enough work, a turd can be polished (Mythbusters did it, literally)
I totally remember that episode haha.
Okay... weird.
Gah! 1/4 inch? I think it would have been wig time for me. That is after I crawled into a hole and hid for a few years. Not saying you should! Not at all. Just that I haven't had hair that short since I was in my teens and still living with my grandmother, who was the only one who could convince me to cut my hair. After she died I kind of made a private promise to myself to never get it cut short again. Doing so brings up old feelings of disgust from childhood that I'd rather not feel again.
Yes though, I brush it while its dry, but I comb it out while its still wet or damp since I use a detangler comb. When I brush it its usually with an open bristle vented styling brush.
Definitely my hair.... I never allowed myself to grow it long before coming out... After that, I like the way HRT has made subtle changes to my shape that are distinctly feminine...
Oh, and my freckles! Never had 'em before HRT :)
Quote from: Jamiee on August 06, 2010, 10:10:47 PM
Okay... weird.
Gah! 1/4 inch? I think it would have been wig time for me. That is after I crawled into a hole and hid for a few years. Not saying you should! Not at all. Just that I haven't had hair that short since I was in my teens and still living with my grandmother, who was the only one who could convince me to cut my hair. After she died I kind of made a private promise to myself to never get it cut short again. Doing so brings up old feelings of disgust from childhood that I'd rather not feel again.
Yes though, I brush it while its dry, but I comb it out while its still wet or damp since I use a detangler comb. When I brush it its usually with an open bristle vented styling brush.
My grandma had a barber come in every few weeks and cut everyones hair. The only style he knew was a crew cut X_X
I also remember the very first haircut I ever had. I screamed and yelled and had to be strapped down before my mom could get her evil cutting equipment into my hair. I've always hated it. Before I figured out how to make my hair look good, and I still had the "JewFro" going on, I wanted to try to grow it out to see if it would lay down on it's own. My mom took away everything I had until I agreed to get it cut...
My mom took a before and after picture one time, it always reminded me of the happy/sad theater masks.
If I were you, I'd experiment with your hair a little more. Try saturating it entirely with water (showers are like magic for my hair) and just shake it out and let it air dry without touching it. For me that was the difference between a wavy mess and pretty ringlets.
That sounds a lot like me. I always resisted getting my hair cut by my grandma would incessantly needle me and tease me util I did it just to get her to leave me alone, because if she didn't have any luck at first, she would make some kind of public issue about it and get my uncle in on it.
I was so embarrassed back then, but I wonder what she or everyone else would have done if I called her bluff on some of the teasing over her dressing me like a girl. I wonder, but I know now that I never could have. I would have died on the spot. As it is, I never actually came out to anyone I knew before other than my sister and it didn't really faze her. Her response when she caught me fully dressed up and all the first time when I didn't try to hide or cover it up was something along the lines of "Okay." But aside from her, the important members of my family died off ending with my grandmother, and the not-so-important members I lost contact with. With Grandma around, they saw little reason to keep touch and so the family (cousins and such) drifted apart. The only thing that kept me from fully coming out was I got kind of desperate to keep what friends I had at the time. I never came out to them, but I got really good at kind of muting my feminine fashions and such, so that I dressed more unisex than anything and I didn't bother with makeup. Still, they would have had to been blind not to actually notice. Still, they never confronted me about it and I certainly wasn't going to bring it up until I just couldn't stand it any more. Eventually my little circle of friends kind of parted ways due mostly to real life pulling everyone apart. Which kind of brings me to where I am now, which is having gradually lost everyone but my sister, I'm not really scared of being myself now.
Or rather trying to be and looking like some bizarre, twisted, mockery of such. Blah. Hate my body.
Sorry, I went way off on a tangent there, talking about my past. I am going to try some of the experimenting you mentioned CJ, thanks. Hopefully it will help, though I may not get a chance before beginning of next week. OMG... "JewFro"! that's what you call that style? I had two different friends that had that too! One of them I just called Woolly the other I just didn't know what to call it.
I', currently waiting to hear back from the counselor, or whatever he his title is, that I speak and who was going to recommend me for the Psychiatric evaluation to start HRT. The waiting anxiety is eating me up. But so far I got a good response from the doctor and the counselor I was seeing about depression before.
Sorry for the short reply, as I am on vacation in southern Mexico writing on my phone! I love how my hair can get really feminine and soft... It is straight for the most part with a slight wave in the back when it gets long (around 9 inches, though at the current moment it is only 5 inches). I also feel really feminine when I look at my lips; my top one has a slight perk up which I just love as it complements my features.
LynnER you are so lucky! I would kill to feel feminine looking at my back, butt, and hips. I am sure HRT will work wonders when that day comes for me in that area. But still, jealous honey!
Going to have to go with my naturally feminine face on this one. I'm not on hormones yet, (though I should be! 7 months of gender therapy so far, grrr...) and I get ma'amed in checkout lanes and at food service ALL the time. I was with my sister at Chipotle, and 3 different workers ma'amed me. She teased me about it later, but seemed to pick up on the fact that it wasn't bugging me.
Okay... You make me jealous too.
For me its my legs after I shave, and my smile, though its rare as I am still Male, but I always thought I looked more femenine when I smile.
Tali
I know exactly what you mean Tali. I rarely smile also. At most I have a sort of weak grin usually. A virtual lifetime of habit from hating the person staring back in the mirror. I'm hopeful though, I'm waiting and wanting to begin my HRT.
Sorry for the interruption but...
you ladies should smile more. You are after all, people who know yourselves better than the general population ever will.
Quote from: Janet Lynn on August 06, 2010, 04:12:38 PM
:icon_flower: Well Thank You, Spacial. :D
I have to agree with the other poster too, Janet. You remind me of the type of lady that is just happy and friends with everyone. I smile just looking at you and your smile on your avatar. Go you!
wow, what have i done, this thread sure got long lol
LordKAT, you just made me smile. I never thought of it like that before ;D
Jamie, I never used to smile, but, I have noticed my features look a lot more feminine when I smile, which makes me smile more
Love,
Tali
Quote from: talitha on August 11, 2010, 05:04:04 AM
For me its my legs after I shave, and my smile, though its rare as I am still Male, but I always thought I looked more femenine when I smile.
Tali
I'm much the same.. Love my legs when they are freshly shaved..
For me its my legs,but I have to come clean. Ididnt get great looking female legs just from HRT. I have a few silicone injections added to them once a year.
Quote from: Angela on August 29, 2010, 05:10:04 PM
For me its my legs,but I have to come clean. Ididnt get great looking female legs just from HRT. I have a few silicone injections added to them once a year.
I was lucky.. I was born with mine..
breast and my curve body and butt, hand, face, leg.....lol..every part
Early HRT, so no breasts, but my thighs and butt are filling out okay. :) They were probably the most feminine part of me before hormones, too.
Oh, you girls must be so, umm, sexy :) Hair, legs, butt, things like that...
For me it's the eyes and the lips. Girls used to go crazy over them, telling me how beautiful they are... now I just have to adjust the surroundings :) It's not that they're feminine, they look attractive regardless of their wearer, they're big and curvy and fleshy and sensual :) I really hope my long eyelashes won't get shorter during therapy; may sound strange but girls tend to have shorter ones than guys. BTW, any experiences out there?
And yes... maybe the singing voice. I'm white and pretty tall and thin but when I sing it's like Aretha Franklin :) (I'm exaggerating. A bit :) )
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Quote from: clairezoey on August 29, 2010, 08:46:26 PM
breast and my curve body and butt, hand, face, leg.....lol..every part
cheater cant pick everything !
My eyelashes, lips and eyes. I used to go to Best Buy all the time because the checkout girl would fawn over my hair and eyelashes.
Ego boost and buy some CD's lol.
Cheers!
Rayalisse
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my biggest concern by far is getting rid of extra back and arms muscle
off: You've probably already bumped into Keira's suggestions on this site for efficient dieting to lose upper body muscle. No feedbacks but might worth a try.
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My eyelashes, lips and eyes
hehe, I was so scared nobody else will mention these :)
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i think its the eye, coz from what i see, women have a bigger eyes...
and breast, breast always makes me feel like a women, sometimes i take my mom bra and wear it and wear a shirt..feel so womenly..
so i think, the eyes and breast... hehehhe
My waist. It's 22 inches, very curvy and perfectly toned. :)
Right now I have to say my eyes, although the small of my back where it curves into my behind is getting more feminine all the time ;). People have always told me that I have very soft, expressive eyes, and when made up nice people compliment them all the time :). Concerning eyes, will HRT cause thickening or lengthening of eyelashes?
My hair is pretty long, but not filled in enough yet or I would definitely say my hair! I can't wait to learn to do more things with it :)
Legs. I've been blessed. Many people have told me this and is not necessarily my own opinion. Hormone replacement therapy has feminized them MUCH to my happiness. :D
Janet Lynn is quite attractive. She's being characteristically modest! ;)
Well my boobs. But you said excluding breasts. I'll have to say my hair, for sure. It's beautifully long now, to about the shoulders. I want it to grow maybe another 12 inches or so, but I am so happy that it's to a length that looks feminine and beautiful.