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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: James42 on August 09, 2010, 10:57:21 AM

Title: Finally!!
Post by: James42 on August 09, 2010, 10:57:21 AM
Ok so I'm finally going to get to see a therapist this Wednesday, after constantly reminding my mom to call her insurance. My mom's been awesome in this all, she's even letting me use her 3 free visits and $20 co payments until I'm a full-time employee at work, which then I'll have full benefits.

But I did have a question. Do you think it'll actually take about 3 months to get my therapist to write me a T letter? For guys on t, did it usually take that long? Maybe I'm just being anxious, but what about surgery? Any guys who had top surgery before T, about how long did it take for your therapist to write a letter for that?
Title: Re: Finally!!
Post by: spinaltap on August 09, 2010, 11:21:50 AM
that's awesome. and I feel like I've heard some ftm's say they got the ok for t after 2 or 3 sessions. (no personal experience), but It probably depends on the therapist. I also read some wear that often ftm's can move faster than mtf's because by the time they end up in therapy they are "farther along." I guess in terms of living as men? 
Title: Re: Finally!!
Post by: James42 on August 09, 2010, 11:34:17 AM
Thanks, yea don't get me wrong, I don't want to see a therapist just to get letters, but I've just always been the impatient type lol which I should probably work on. But I can understand about the "farther along" concept. I've been presenting full-time for like a year and a half now
Title: Re: Finally!!
Post by: Jeatyn on August 09, 2010, 11:35:25 AM
It completely depends on the therapist and how far you've taken the process yourself.

If you've been living full time for a while (including name change) it shouldn't take long to get a T letter. I got mine after one session seeing as before that I'd had 2 years of documented RLE.

If your therapist isn't a specialised gender therapist it will take a lot longer. They will be more wary of prescribing if they aren't familiar with the process and are much more likely to follow the SOC rigidly.
Title: Re: Finally!!
Post by: James42 on August 09, 2010, 11:40:45 AM
I haven't had my name changed yet, I've been looking into how Florida goes about it, but the only thing is all the new laws here like with our DL, my mom couldn't even get her address changed on hers without her marriage certificate and birth certificate.
Title: Re: Finally!!
Post by: Jillary Woolen Xσx on August 09, 2010, 02:35:36 PM
YAY CONGRATS TO YOU, BROTHA!!!!
How Exciting!!
:)
Title: Re: Finally!!
Post by: Samantha_Peterson on August 09, 2010, 02:41:37 PM
This is AMAZING news ^_^ I am SOOO happy for you ^_^
Title: Re: Finally!!
Post by: James42 on August 09, 2010, 03:27:32 PM
Thanks Jocelyn and Samantha :) just one step closer
Title: Re: Finally!!
Post by: zombiesarepeaceful on August 09, 2010, 04:20:35 PM
I'm the extremely inpatient type too (here's to being ADHD). I got T on informed consent or who knows what/where I'd be now (out of my mind). I think it depends on how comfortable the therapist is with where you are in your transition, how sure you are of it (how they percieve this in you I mean), and their level of experience with trans patients, etc. One of my friends saw a therapist and she assumed he was already on T so was willing ot write a T letter after 3 sessions but since he wasn't she waited til 7 sessions and took her time cause he wasn't in a hurry.
Title: Re: Finally!!
Post by: JudahLiam on August 09, 2010, 04:26:24 PM
Congrats man, its about 400 dollars to legally change your name in florida.  You go through court just like anyone would to change their name, not sure about changing your gender marker in Florida because I was born in IL.  I'm in St. Petersburg myself, are you close?
Title: Re: Finally!!
Post by: James42 on August 09, 2010, 04:42:37 PM
@zombies yea I have ADD, so my patience is almost non-existent lol but I guess I'll have to see how my first couple of sessions go and keep in mind the informed consent route

Quote from: JudahLiam on August 09, 2010, 04:26:24 PM
Congrats man, its about 400 dollars to legally change your name in florida.  You go through court just like anyone would to change their name, not sure about changing your gender marker in Florida because I was born in IL.  I'm in St. Petersburg myself, are you close?

That's funny, I was born in IL too, chicago. I'm in St. Augustine, I used to go to St. Petes every summer. And wow $400 really?