I hope this is the most appropriate board to post this, if not feel free to move it!
I'm really into music and my whole life I've turned to it for a variety of reasons. I just wanted to list a few my musical inspirations who could also be considered gender benders. I look up to them because they have the courage to just be who they want to be (and they also rock!).
#1 David Bowie - Can't even really put into words what I think about Bowie. He's so freakin' awesome!
#2 Joan Jett - Another person who's lived her life by her own rules. Awesome! And I can only hope I look as good as her when I'm in my 50's!
#3 Gerard Way - This guy ... he's taken a lot of slack for some of the stuff he's done but he's totally another one that lives by his own rules. Really inspiring dude with a great personality.
I'd be interested to hear any one else who has been inspired by any musicians.
Annie Lennox
Morrissey. Loved him (& The Smiths) for as long as I can remember, he's incredible and I finally got to see him live last year which was amazing.
Bill Kaulitz - my style icon and I also love the music.
have to agree with you on Gerard Way
Madonna
and the sad fact I wouldn't be exactly me today without this woman.