Good gosh.
I didn't think therapy would be such a pain. This guy seriously annoys me.
My expectations were too different. I expected it to be someone to work with me and communicate with me about my situation, but instead it's just a trial. I mean I understand they have to diagnose you and all but give me a break.
It feels like I'm in court trying to prove myself innocent. I can tell that there's much doubt because I'm young, as well.
Is it always like this?
If this is your first visit or so then give it a chance. If not move on.
But bassed on your post I am guessing this is all new to you. Is your therapist a gender therapist? If not you might want to consider moving on.
I felt VERY oppossed and anti therapy when I started 10 months ago. Today I just came from therapy and it was a wonderful day at the therapists. The first few visits were like hell but as time went on I became more amniable to the situation. Now I really like to conect with my therapist at least once a month.
Quote from: SkylitLove on August 13, 2010, 07:31:27 PM
I mean I understand they have to diagnose you and all but give me a break.
It feels like I'm in court trying to prove myself innocent. I can tell that there's much doubt because I'm young, as well.
I actually went into therapy fearing that it would be like this, but it turned out to be nothing like that at all, and I enjoy my visits with my therapist. So no, it shouldn't be like that; your therapist should work with you and help you, not put you on trial. I second Cynthialee in that if the situation doesn't improve that you find a new therapist if possible.
I've had two visits. It's actually the popular online therapist. I was in the middle of one as I posted that. It got a little better towards the end. Apparently he had some misunderstanding about something and after he re-read and realized his mistake, everything was flipped around.
I guess it should be alright! lol.
I've only had one session so far. I felt very guarded talking to the therapist in the first session, but was honest. I suppose it takes time to build a relationship with the therapist.
Quote from: SkylitLove on August 13, 2010, 08:05:28 PM
I've had two visits. It's actually the popular online therapist. I was in the middle of one as I posted that. It got a little better towards the end. Apparently he had some misunderstanding about something and after he re-read and realized his mistake, everything was flipped around.
I guess it should be alright! lol.
Graham Peveller? I had him and hes a really nice guy, but can be set in his opinions, and sometimes he misunderstood things I said.
but, he is a good therapist and I found it pretty easy to open up to him.
Quote from: Elijah on August 13, 2010, 08:55:00 PM
Graham Peveller? I had him and hes a really nice guy, but can be set in his opinions, and sometimes he misunderstood things I said.
but, he is a good therapist and I found it pretty easy to open up to him.
Yup. That's who I'm seeing, well speaking with.
I think a lot of us are quick to get defensive if asked questions in regards to this "problem" we share.
Try not to read too much into what the therapist says.
Quote from: Epigania on August 13, 2010, 08:46:39 PM
I've only had one session so far. I felt very guarded talking to the therapist in the first session, but was honest. I suppose it takes time to build a relationship with the therapist.
I know my first session with my therapist, I was guarded (actually embarassed). He may have sensed this. My second session I told my therapist that I was embarassed but relieved in my first session, and spoke to him with a smile and with confidence in knowing what was in my heart, and he caught on. I think therapists are trained to notice body language, and that may be something he saw, and may have been an indicator that you have other issues you may be hiding. Plus, if you can't talk to your therapist comfortably, how are you going to go about your daily life as your target gender?
Quote from: Miniar on August 20, 2010, 09:20:57 PM
I think a lot of us are quick to get defensive if asked questions in regards to this "problem" we share.
Try not to read too much into what the therapist says.
This. Of course we're going to be worried about what the therapist thinks of is, no matter how devil-may-care we act. We're going to this stranger, and opening up to them about things we might never have told our closest friends, let alone people we just met. But you have to remember the purpose of therapy-- your therapist is a (relatively) objective outsider who can offer you insight, advice and support in a way that most people can't.
And competent therapists know that it will take time for you to warm up to them and trust them--and you need to give yourself that space. Or, you know, this might not be the right therapist for you. That's completely legitimate as well.