Is there a way to prevent or minimize erections during sexual encounters? Maybe some way to limit the blood flow that causes an erection?
Quote from: Robertina on August 26, 2010, 03:58:20 PM
Is there a way to prevent or minimize erections during sexual encounters? Maybe some way to limit the blood flow that causes an erection?
Not that I know of. You can't limit blood flow, otherwise you just get a cock ring effect i.e. you end up staying erect.
Hormones help a lot. But I still get them occasionally. As far as I can tell, all that remains is to work on trust with your sexual partner. That will help you not be so bothered when it does happen.
I naturally don't have much T (supposed to take prescription T but don't any more), but when I get excited I still have to deal with downstairs. Its just kind of embarrassing. With my old boyfriend, I always managed to keep covered up, even during sex - was hoping their was a technique.
Quote from: Dee_pntx on August 26, 2010, 04:30:56 PM
After being on HRT awhile it becomes a non issue.
How long before that happens?
Quote from: tori319 on August 26, 2010, 11:23:43 PM
How long before that happens?
For some people it never happens, I've heard of some girls getting them worse. One of those "results may vary" things.
I think for most it tends to stop the involuntary ones. For me this was within a couple months. The only time I seem to get them is during sex, but even then it is sporadic and short lived (like I might get several in one session).
I just keep the knickers on and stay tucked. Which can be uncomfortable, and compounds the issue.
one thing I have found is that if I do decide to 'play' with it, out of curiousity for whether I can orgasim still (which I don't seem to be able to), for the few weeks after I tend to get more errections. Lack of use while on hormones seems to make them less frequent.
after about two years mine had died and it took a deliberate effort to get hardish and if I didn't give up and kept on and tried to climax it was a waste of time and quite painful and it made me cry for still having the d*** thing.
I once gave the advice to my then MTF girlfriend to put some local oral anaesthetica on her d*ck before sex, one of those you can get at the pharmacy without a prescription if your teeth hurt or you have an infection in your mouth. She was amazed as after about 10 minutes, she could not feel anything there for about an hour and as far as I remember, she also told me no erections whatsoever so sex was kind of relaxing for her that time (I just went down to her breasts and kept away from the risky parts until she came). Of course, don't use that stuff too often, read the instructions first, don't use too much of it and first try it somewhere else as some people are allergic to it. Oh, and if you put a condom on first, the numbing effect stays longer.
I read somewhere that tucking might help since it restricts blood flow, but I've never done that before and am not quite sure how to do that if one's partner is going to be sexually active on the other side (trying to keep this PG). I mean, taping and all that I think would be a big put off.
My experience (after 9 months on HRT) is erections no longer happen in the mornings but when I'm with someone I'm dating and we are touching (even just hugging) , it happens...so annoying! But I have experienced that as long as you keep it tucked, it won't get fully out of the bag if you know what I mean.
BUT if for some reason it does get untucked, theres no way its going back down again =(
Quote from: Robertina on August 27, 2010, 08:38:00 AM
I read somewhere that tucking might help since it restricts blood flow, but I've never done that before and am not quite sure how to do that if one's partner is going to be sexually active on the other side (trying to keep this PG). I mean, taping and all that I think would be a big put off.
Please don't try to avoid errections by restricting blood flow. It will be very uncomfortable, could lead to serious problems, including local necrosis and won't work anyway.
Errections are a hormonal response involving part of the brain.
The worst part about them is if you reach a climax. But since you are more interested in your partner than yourself you should be able to work through that.
I hate that what's supposed to be a desired and normal physical and emotional response given the right body turns out to be such an unpleasant experience, so the way to be turned off is to be turned on...
Quote from: spacial on August 30, 2010, 06:15:24 PM
Please don't try to avoid errections by restricting blood flow. It will be very uncomfortable, could lead to serious problems, including local necrosis and won't work anyway.
Errections are a hormonal response involving part of the brain.
The worst part about them is if you reach a climax. But since you are more interested in your partner than yourself you should be able to work through that.
I've reached climax with it tucked before and in some cases it was a very different orgasm. Is that really not healthy though? I suppose it doesn't happen very often and only 6 mo left before I no longer have to worry about it
Quote from: Jerica on August 31, 2010, 11:43:22 AM
I've reached climax with it tucked before and in some cases it was a very different orgasm. Is that really not healthy though? I suppose it doesn't happen very often and only 6 mo left before I no longer have to worry about it
Tucking in itself, might be OK.
But I was responding to the idea of restricting blood flow to reduce an errection.
Restricting blood flow is dangerous for anyone on any part of the body and could cause necrosis. Also blood clots, pain and a number of other complications.
I apologise if I gave the wrong impression. I don't know a lot about tucking since I can't do it myself. (I'm basically shaped somewhere between an orange and a grapefruit).
But I suggest that it's more about attitude. You are what you are. The bits are there. If your partner accepts you then perhaps you could try accepting yourself. Limitations and all. (In your case, for the next 6 months or so).