Ok just wanned to now. when u 1st changed ur name, did u fill wired and uncunfterbal in a way, i am thinking about AJ. its not much diff to my real name but im thinking of it like a nickname as my 1st name is amy and my 2nd name is joan. so its not that fare of. like a nickname. (but this fills wired.) no ones called me it yet, but im just scared. anyone else fill like that.. Altho i like it and i prob keep it a nickname for gd. as its still apart of me u now; Oh had my bloodtest today (1st in my life) 4real why do people bitch about em its nothin.. anywayz thats done to send to charin crss.. yeh.. i like AJ alot so i think thats a name that will still i just keep getting a filling in my guy everytime i think about everythink lol.. Its like woo.. this is happning, will i be cool with everythin' its a wired filling. gunna be a while till i get used to it.
At first when I asked people to call me Nathan I felt uncomfortable, mostly out of embarrassment. I was embarrassed to be trans but I had only come out a few weeks before. I'm not embarrassed now and it's like I never had any other name.
When I had my blood test for the GIC the guy had to keep stabbing me as he couldn't find a vein >:( Normally I don't mind them though.
Whens you next app at CX?
Yeah it's weird at first and even seems silly at times, like you and your friends (and family if they're on board) are playing around, or they're just humoring you, and it's all a game. Eventually it seems normal. :)
Enjoy!
Jay
Yeh that's how it seems wired and emarissing ect. I guess its nornal and I like the fact its aj my inicals ect might be easyer for the kids to altho mum keeped saying jamie cuz it ruymes with amy. Anyways next cx appiontment is 4th murch
I feel like about now I'm ready to be called Kev and male pronouns by the people I'm out to.
So I wrote it in my blog, which they do read, like "if you feel comfortable, call me Kev". I hestitated to write how bad I need them to finally accept me for who I am. They act like I nerver told them, they constantly forget it and stuff.
I don't know how it will be. I don't know if anyone will use the name.
Sounds like you had a good blood draw. Every once in a while, I'll get someone who isn't quite as skilled, and it will hurt a bit. But not enough to gripe about. I think some people just feel it more.
I changed my name long before I transitioned, and it was my nickname from back in high school. Didn't feel strange at all.
Of course, when people at work didn't take it seriously at first, that was a bit uncomfortable. They thought it was an elaborate joke. A year later, I had people telling me that they couldn't think of me as anything but New Name.
AJ sounds like a great nickname. I hope you like it.
I know when I first started talking to doctors, and coming out to my family I didn't ask them to use a different name right away. I guess I felt a little silly being called a name that was obviously a girls name, when I was still in "guy" mode (even if I came across as androgynous looking). I've been full-time for several months now and it feels really normal, and like Nathan said, it's like I never had any other name :).
when i first changed my name, i almost felt like my personalities were split. there was Sara and then there was Jesse.it seemed to emphasize my transition. i felt comfortable with my male name but it took me awhile to reconcile my past and present
I think I am lucky...my birth name is Robyn...and my partner has always called me Rob. So, I never officially told anyone...just started introducing myself as Rob & signing my emails and such that way.
Now, pretty much everyone calls me rob...although if someone calls me Robyn it's really not that big of a deal since it's a gender neutral name. I guess at 40 was a bit late to be trying to change my name.
I go by my chosen name most of the time now that I'm away at school. Really the only time I go by my birth name is at home, with family, and in some classes at school where I'm not out. It did seem a little weird at first, since I've been called my birth name all my life without any shortened version or nickname, but now it's become a habit to introduce myself as my male name. Some people have to do a second take - especially since I don't have a binder and just usually double up on sports bras when I'm out in public and I'm fairly large chested - but I haven't really had any bad responses. One of my roommates had a friend over one time, and being it's girls dorms we live in, he (the friend) had to do a double take something like "Whoa, what?" then I said "I'm [male name]" and then he said "Nice to meet you [male name], just making sure I heard that right". That is honestly the worst that has ever happened to me.
So good luck, AJ. hope it all goes well for you.
I am not sure if I'll ever ask people to start calling me something different- Sam is gender-neutral. I guess I'd just be asking "Think Samuel instead of Samantha" and that would really only be natural if I did manage to transition successfully.
i'm not out, but it feels more unnatural to me when people call me by my birth name than when they call me Matt. i've actually gotten a few people who don't know to call me Matt, one person does know and it just sucks when he calls me by my birth name
It feels weird at first, yes. Then it'll feel equally as odd either way. Then it'll feel normal.
And then, after a while, hearing your birth name will be outright bizarre :laugh:.
The people I got comfortable with first were the ones I hadn't met before. Hearing them refer to me as my name felt natural much faster than hearing old friends say it.
I legally changed it a year ago (late September '09 or there abouts... I'd have to check for the exact date). I don't even flinch in that "Oh, that's me" way to my birth name anymore. It just sounds like a name that belongs to someone else.
Quote from: Teknoir on September 15, 2010, 03:17:52 AMAnd then, after a while, hearing your birth name will be outright bizarre :laugh:.
True!
Work hired a girl for the summer with my old birth name. One day she was working, but I wasn't aware she was in the room, and one of my coworkers looked in my direction and called out her name. Very odd feeling for a second and then I realized she wasn't talking to me (she hadn't used that name in >1 yr for me).
Jay
AJ, can I suggest that you edit it out your family's names.
What u mean???
I think it's ok as long as their last name isn't there.
I have never had any success at getting my family to refer to me as my female given name rather than my unisex nickname for it (which I never chose and don't like, but I suppose my mom may have been a bit right about the "You'll thank me for it later!"), changing my ID would only be formalizing an already existing situation. People at work know me by my female name, though anyone that's run into my mother has likely also heard the nickname. Problem is, I don't *like* that name, so I'd be tossing something I do like in on top of that if I did change it to anything else...and my family will still call me whatever they feel like calling me until the day they die, surely. It's been over 10 years of trying to "be" a woman to everyone else (well, I gave it a good try, at least?) and still the only time they use anything other than that nickname is when my middle name is also attached and they're yelling at me.
Quote from: sneakersjay on September 15, 2010, 07:31:30 AM
Work hired a girl for the summer with my old birth name. One day she was working, but I wasn't aware she was in the room, and one of my coworkers looked in my direction and called out her name. Very odd feeling for a second and then I realized she wasn't talking to me (she hadn't used that name in >1 yr for me).
If someone yells it in a crowd, I will usually pick out my full name, sometimes one or two of the most common names that are confused with it that people call me by accident, some frequent nicknames for it that I don't use, the one my parents use (which is very rarely - as in I've never seen it for anyone else - used as a nickname for that particular name), and a few names that rhyme with that one. Also "Hey you!" and occasionally "Excuse me", but it seems as though very few people use the latter these days and just run you over instead. ;-) Makes for a lot of thinking you're hearing voices, let me tell you! And yet my birth name still feels a little weird to me, even though just about everyone that actually uses it has never heard any other name for me, almost as if they're tripping over it. Maybe they are. Maybe I always have been.
Re: blood - I have this one lab tech at one particular lab that I'll always ask for, my mother recommended her because she has problems with them finding veins in her and found that woman to be good at it, my problem is I'm just squeamish and can't watch it, or anyone else getting it taken, so it's a Really Good Idea if I lie down for it instead of sitting in the chairs they use for most people, and she won't make fun of me for it. If she's not in that day, I go back another day.
Quote from: JohnR on September 16, 2010, 05:54:59 AM
AJ, can I suggest that you edit it out your family's names.
what u mean edit out my family's names.
He means remove them from your post.
I found the new name thing weird for a short while. The main reason is because I asked people to call me Ryan and many of them seemed to really overdo it. "Hi Ryan, how you doing Ryan, nice weather today Ryan!" Seriously got annoying. People were also saying my name with a look of "aren't I doing well! :D" on their faces. I can't complain because everyone took it well and really tried to get used to the new name/pronouns.
I changed my name legally about 6 weeks ago and now pretty much everybody uses my new name (with occasional slip-ups when they forget). But prior to that I'd already been using it among friends for nearly 2 years, and I have friends who've never known my birth name, so it wasn't as jarring as I expected.
I like AJ. I have a friend who goes by that name, but you should also consider male names for which A and J can be initials, so you have something to put down when you change your name legally.
Blood tests I hate. I apparently have veins that move and hide whenever a needle is around, so it's common for the nurse to have to stick me more than once to find one.
Quote from: Lewis on September 16, 2010, 01:33:11 PM
I changed my name legally about 6 weeks ago and now pretty much everybody uses my new name (with occasional slip-ups when they forget). But prior to that I'd already been using it among friends for nearly 2 years, and I have friends who've never known my birth name, so it wasn't as jarring as I expected.
I like AJ. I have a friend who goes by that name, but you should also consider male names for which A and J can be initials, so you have something to put down when you change your name legally.
Blood tests I hate. I apparently have veins that move and hide whenever a needle is around, so it's common for the nurse to have to stick me more than once to find one.
well i was thinking of spelling it Ajay
Quote from: Hazard "AJ" on September 16, 2010, 12:31:40 PM
what u mean edit out my family's names.
Not everyone who reads these forums is friendly, giving away so much information makes you very easily traceable.