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Title: Ask Matt: Estrogen is Hurting My Relationships
Post by: Shana A on September 15, 2010, 09:21:21 AM

Ask Matt: Estrogen is Hurting My Relationships

September 14, 2010 by Matt Kailey

http://tranifesto.com/2010/09/14/ask-matt-estrogen-is-hurting-my-relationships/ (http://tranifesto.com/2010/09/14/ask-matt-estrogen-is-hurting-my-relationships/)

A reader transitioning from male to female writes: "I have been on HRT (hormone replacement therapy) for almost three months and going through changes I am not sure about. The current issues I am having are being really moody and emotional, which I believe are normal for HRT. I find because of this, friends and family have a difficult time interacting with me. I call it the 'bratty' phase. It is getting hurtful for me and for others. I am not sure how to deal with this. I keep wondering if I should just hide away until it passes. What should I do?"

Of course, I am enlisting help from readers, and particularly trans women readers. But having been on estrogen for the first 42 years of my life, I think I have some qualifications here.
Title: Re: Ask Matt: Estrogen is Hurting My Relationships
Post by: Izumi on September 15, 2010, 12:04:34 PM
Quote from: Zythyra on September 15, 2010, 09:21:21 AM
Ask Matt: Estrogen is Hurting My Relationships

September 14, 2010 by Matt Kailey

http://tranifesto.com/2010/09/14/ask-matt-estrogen-is-hurting-my-relationships/ (http://tranifesto.com/2010/09/14/ask-matt-estrogen-is-hurting-my-relationships/)

A reader transitioning from male to female writes: "I have been on HRT (hormone replacement therapy) for almost three months and going through changes I am not sure about. The current issues I am having are being really moody and emotional, which I believe are normal for HRT. I find because of this, friends and family have a difficult time interacting with me. I call it the 'bratty' phase. It is getting hurtful for me and for others. I am not sure how to deal with this. I keep wondering if I should just hide away until it passes. What should I do?"

Of course, I am enlisting help from readers, and particularly trans women readers. But having been on estrogen for the first 42 years of my life, I think I have some qualifications here.

yup thats estrogen for ya.  Cry for no reason, movies that weren't romantic and interesting now are.  Old news for me, but the mature part helps.  I mean the other day i was in a mood, everything set me off, and my fiance was in the middle of it.  Having been on the receiving end of that in my life, i paused told him, please just stay out of my way till bed time ok, he listened but was upset partially because i scolded him before and I was upset and he could do nothing about it, everything he did was wrong around me, heh.  When i got to bed i cried about stuff for no reason but eventually asked him for a hug and told him its ok, and i wasnt mad at him. 

I think if i was younger i wouldn't have given him the warning the storm front was moving in and its time to clear out, i am sure i wouldnt have explained things later calmly either.  Ended up a bonding moment, which is good.  heh, estrogen, what a ride.