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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: Elijah3291 on October 10, 2010, 07:25:43 PM

Title: does it bug you when bio females look more manly then you?
Post by: Elijah3291 on October 10, 2010, 07:25:43 PM
Like, maybe butch lesbians, or just girls in general, when their face and body look more manly then you do, or when their chest is super super tiny.

it always makes me really jealous and annoyed, anyone else?
Title: Re: does it bug you when bio females look more manly then you?
Post by: Matt Chase on October 10, 2010, 07:29:20 PM
yep.
Title: Re: does it bug you when bio females look more manly then you?
Post by: thestory on October 10, 2010, 07:40:17 PM
And they are really feminine in their dress and actions usually? Yes I notice and get bummed all the time. My girlfriend has a naturally deeper voice than I do as well. If we could just trade for convenience heh.
Title: Re: does it bug you when bio females look more manly then you?
Post by: Robert F. on October 10, 2010, 07:47:33 PM
Quote from: Elijah on October 10, 2010, 07:25:43 PM
when their chest is super super tiny.

This. And also when they have super tiny chests, but they want a bigger chest. If only we could trade...
Title: Re: does it bug you when bio females look more manly then you?
Post by: xAndrewx on October 10, 2010, 07:52:36 PM
Man I thought I was alone in feeling this! One of my ex's had like a small A! So not fair.
Title: Re: does it bug you when bio females look more manly then you?
Post by: Konnor on October 10, 2010, 08:00:19 PM
Quote from: Robert F. on October 10, 2010, 07:47:33 PM
This. And also when they have super tiny chests, but they want a bigger chest. If only we could trade...

Yes!! My older sister is super fem, really good looking, but only has barely an A cup. I'm not huge, I think I'm like a B, but ugh! She would kill to trade!
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Post by: Shang on October 10, 2010, 08:02:22 PM
It does irritate me a little bit, though my whole family is cursed with big boobs (though I happen have the biggest ><; ).    There's this girl here who I envy (first I thought I just liked her) because she can pass as male and she's not FtM.
Title: Re: does it bug you when bio females look more manly then you?
Post by: Miniar on October 10, 2010, 08:17:42 PM
uhm... no...
I don't get "jealous"..
at least, I never have..
I'm not convinced I'm capable of the emotion..
Title: Re: does it bug you when bio females look more manly then you?
Post by: Raven on October 10, 2010, 09:28:51 PM
I went to school with an butch lesbian, she always passed very well as male.. I was pretty jealous of her. And she was an B cup and still passed! God I look forward to when I can get my Ds taken care of...
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Post by: Bagheera on October 10, 2010, 09:44:51 PM
Quote from: Robert F. on October 10, 2010, 07:47:33 PM
This. And also when they have super tiny chests, but they want a bigger chest. If only we could trade...

I agree. Envy isn't an emotion I'm well acquainted with, but whenever I do get jealous it's... because of this. :/
Title: Re: does it bug you when bio females look more manly then you?
Post by: Meepit on October 10, 2010, 10:00:45 PM
Quote from: Robert F. on October 10, 2010, 07:47:33 PM
This. And also when they have super tiny chests, but they want a bigger chest. If only we could trade...
Agreed with that 100% and the deeper voice thing too. But the chest thing makes me feel guilty I wanna get rid of mine :( cuz I feel like chicks would kill for what I've got (I'm so modest ::)), yet I reaaaally don't want it myself. I think that's whats been bugging me most lately....guilt as opposed to jealousy in this case :(.
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Post by: Tad on October 10, 2010, 10:33:37 PM
Only the flat chest.. and being skinnier.. There's really nothing else to be jealousof
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Post by: Nygeel on October 10, 2010, 10:35:05 PM
No since the majority of people that are assigned female at birth are more masculine than me either in appearance or actions.
Title: Re: does it bug you when bio females look more manly then you?
Post by: Meepit on October 10, 2010, 10:35:41 PM
OH wait I thought of another one that ticks me off....height.... :o being 5'6" is over average for a FEMALE, but I mean I've seen some girls 5'10" and over and that really gets me >:(.
Title: Re: does it bug you when bio females look more manly then you?
Post by: Nygeel on October 10, 2010, 10:37:43 PM
Quote from: Meepit on October 10, 2010, 10:35:41 PM
OH wait I thought of another one that ticks me off....height.... :o being 5'6" is over average for a FEMALE, but I mean I've seen some girls 5'10" and over and that really gets me >:(.
On the opposite end, I saw two gents that were about my height today (5 foot 2). It made me happy to know they do exist.
Title: Re: does it bug you when bio females look more manly then you?
Post by: Meepit on October 10, 2010, 10:44:15 PM
Quote from: Nygeel on October 10, 2010, 10:37:43 PM
On the opposite end, I saw two gents that were about my height today (5 foot 2). It made me happy to know they do exist.
Nice ;D I see a few guys around my height on campus as well, but they still look way bigger with their shoulder width and such. Ahh well off topic ::).
Title: Re: does it bug you when bio females look more manly then you?
Post by: Silver on October 10, 2010, 11:19:00 PM
Usually, no. But tall women irritate me occasionally since I am generally taller than most women.

Mostly I get envious around guys :laugh:
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Post by: Ezekiel on October 10, 2010, 11:30:58 PM
Nah, I'm cool with other girls being more manly than I am--I'm kinda a wimp to begin with. The androgynous look kinda suits me...what bugs the hell out of me is when cisguys look or act more feminine than I do, yet they get full privilege by being called a boy, being referred to with male pronouns, etc. I swear, the minute they find out you're trans (and hetero), the man-meter goes up seven notches for you.
Title: Re: does it bug you when bio females look more manly then you?
Post by: tangobravo on October 11, 2010, 07:43:38 AM
i get bummed when someone claims a butch girl is a hott boy.
and though i wish my chest was smaller (i'm the only one in my family that had a d cup pre-t) i hide it fairly well, and since being on t my bust has significantly shrunk.

it more bothers me when my friends with smaller chests constantly talk about how they wish they had my bust.
Title: Re: does it bug you when bio females look more manly then you?
Post by: insideontheoutside on October 11, 2010, 08:44:45 PM
Not jealous - maybe envious? On the chest front. God I hate having tits. I mean I love tits - but as long as they're on women (meaning, not me!). So when I see a women who basically doesn't even have to wear a bra cause she's so small I just think, uggh LUCKY.
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Post by: Jeatyn on October 11, 2010, 09:24:49 PM
My cousin is amazingly androgynous and flat chested and I just want to punch her at times :P we go out together and she often gets mistaken for a boy and she isn't even trying. There's me binding and packing and trying my best and it's me who gets she'd >.> rawr frustration
Title: Re: does it bug you when bio females look more manly then you?
Post by: some ftm guy on October 12, 2010, 02:02:16 AM
yes, it doesn't happen often since i pass as male atleast half the time being called sir, especially if I'm wearing my big hoodie. and always have, ya just have to wear male clothes and short hair but i know a couple gay women friends of mine i don't see often but they look, act and sound more masculine than me and I'm the only one actually identifying as male. i don't know how they're voices are deeper naturally.... that especially but oh well. I've seen flat chested women and i always think "ugghh soo not fair." or women around 6ft in height and same thought. :'(

on a positive note because someone else mentioned something like this too: i sometimes see other short guys at my job (around 5'0" to 5'5" maybe) and it makes me feel way better since I know I'm going to be a short guy even after transition so it's like yaaay i can be masculine AND short! they just have the stockier muscle look.  ;D