For the most part I've come to terms with me being MTF (I know for sure I'm not cigender). I've been telling more and more people, and even updated my FB name to reflect it (using the abbreviated version of my chosen name that could go both ways, gender on there is "none"). However...
Tomorrow I tell my parents.
They didn't take too kindly to me saying I like guys.
I'm expecting a worse reaction for this sadly. Hopefully I can win them over, but who knows, they can be rational yet irrational at the same time.
Best of luck, KWSN! :)
Quote from: Amy85 on October 13, 2010, 02:17:53 PM
Best of luck, KWSN! :)
Thanks. I'm ready for this, all of it. But I'm still scared out of my mind.
Much love and best wishes out to you, KWSN! I really do hope you can win 'em over. :)
Results:
Dad: "I think seeing a therapist for this is the right idea."
Mom: -too shocked to comment-
My dad did stress though how hard it will be up ahead if the therapist agrees with me.
Quote from: KWSN on October 14, 2010, 09:42:58 PM
Results:
Dad: "I think seeing a therapist for this is the right idea."
Mom: -too shocked to comment-
My dad did stress though how hard it will be up ahead if the therapist agrees with me.
That seems exactly like my parents :o. My mum never brings it up, my dad is adamant about me seeing a therapist (though he's now realizing how much of a challenge that is). He didn't take me seriously at first so yep, he'll probably have a hard time if the therapist confirms GID.
Quote from: Meepit on October 14, 2010, 11:02:02 PM
That seems exactly like my parents :o. My mum never brings it up, my dad is adamant about me seeing a therapist (though he's now realizing how much of a challenge that is). He didn't take me seriously at first so yep, he'll probably have a hard time if the therapist confirms GID.
My dad said to keep an open mind about this when i go to see one. I have one planned, but i need to get an appointment first.
sorry for the double post, but my parents called me into a little discussion.
How to summarize what my mom just said to me: "I think you're going through a phase, thus we want you to put off therapy as long as you can."
How long have you been having trans-related feelings? Did you tell them? Maybe it might help dispel the "phase" theory/hope?
That's the sticky wicket. I've only known what transgender meant since i was 18 (I'm now 22). But there's always been a few things that i've realized that have always been there.
Have you known for those four years? Or even the majority of them? If so use that. Use the rest as well: whatever is evidence to the contrary.
If they still persist with the "phase" idea, well, that's a flippin' long phase...maybe you need therapy to "get over" or "deal" with it. Know what I mean? ;)
i haven't known all four years, but shortly after that i started questioning a little, until just recently i finally decided i pretty much was. My parents want me to focus on school... only this is getting in the way.
Hm, four years would have helped. But still, if it's getting in the way of focusing on school you could mention that. Something big enough for that, given you otherwise have no problems focusing on school, is worth seeing someone about, phase or not. Try telling them that, that you need some help figuring this out in order to put the focus you need to into school.
Lots of us MtFs can remind parents of our less than normal interest in being boys and lots of FtMs can remind parents of always being tomboys so what were you like as a child?
Quote from: lilacwoman on October 16, 2010, 03:25:25 AM
Lots of us MtFs can remind parents of our less than normal interest in being boys and lots of FtMs can remind parents of always being tomboys so what were you like as a child?
Forced into a male archtype. Even if i asked for "girly" things i probably wouldn't get them.