im not sure if this is in the right place or not my name is claudette i am jesse's sister. i have been left to take care of his final affairs i know this support group was a big part of his life so its only right that we inform you of his death. on sept 29 jesse commited suicide by alchol and prescription pain killers. i have watched him suffer with this his entire life i just wanted to let you know that all of you are my heros please remember that suicide isnt the answer please prey for him if its your thing i lost my angel the night the hospital called please think about the family you leave behind.
claudette
It would appear that Jesse is fine. Cindy James received a call from her and she is indeed alive and well. Evidently this was written by her ex wife, who somehow got into her account. But the message itself reminds all of us to seek help when we feel suicidal. Call someone, anyone.
Oh my god! no :'(
I'm so sorry to hear this Claudette. There is so much suicide in this community, I'm speechless, I really liked Jesse and had some great conversations with her. She was beautiful.
If there is anything I can do for you, please don't hesitate to ask.
My condolences to you and your family. What a waste.
I'm so sorry Claudette :( Jesse was a nice woman, although I didn't talk talk to her much she gave great advice, and truly seemed like a great person. I'm so sorry for your loss :(
I am so sorry to hear this Claudette. My condolences to you and your family. I remember Jesse posting here around the time I joined and hadn't seen her posts in awhile and wondered where she had gone. :(
There was just no indication that I know of, otherwise I would have fought for her. :(
thank you all for the thoughts please take care of yourselfs
Oh no. That is terrible news. My condolences to you and your family. It is a sad loss.
We had corresponded, and I think spoken once as we had both shared the experience of being sexually assaulted when younger. I tried to help Jesse see that it is possible to rise above such trauma even when it happens so young and I hoped that for a time we were making progress.
I must admit I had noticed that Jesse had not posted here for some while and I was afraid that one day I might log on to find news like this.
Very sad. RIP Jesse. I hope that where ever you are now you are at least at peace.
I can only say sorry for the loss, and may her memories be with long after the emotional pain is healed.
I didn't know her, but that's a shame.
Rest in Peace.
Tragic news. She was beautiful in so many ways and will be sadly missed.
My Dear Claudette
God this is horrible. I talked Jesse down a few times when she was drunk, she had my phone number and knew I was available for her 24/7. We had a similar history. She pulled out of contact a while ago saying she was coping etc.
I am so sorry.
Please accept my condolences.
As Nicky said if there is anything I can do just ask.
I haven't just lost a member of this community, I have lost a personal friend. I realise your loss is greater.
Dear Dear God
How sad.
My love to you and so much thanks for letting us know.
Cindy James
Claudette
I can only say I'm stunned and shocked... and I am so sorry for your (our) loss. :icon_bunch:
I corrsponded with Jessica many times in private over the last year, and I really thought after the difficult times last Christmas, that she was finally coping ..
We all go through times when we don't come here as regularly as we used to, and I havn't been around so much myself lately, but I was beginning to wonder if she was OK..
..I'm sorry ...I think this will take a while to sink in...
:icon_hug:
Chrissty
Oh no! This is sad news. I have two friends who attempted suicide but luckily they didn't succeed. They ended up coming out of their depression and are enjoying life again. Everyone please remember that depression can pass.
Claudette
Thank you for telling us. I was wondering where Jesse was.
I first bumped into Jesse on another forum, similar to this one. We had a discussion about guns. I don't like them so you can guess how that went.
Anyway, partly from her suggestion I came here.
Though I only communicated with her, here, a few times, She was kinda an anchor. I know her life was very difficult. Her job disappeared and she had problems with her own family.
I am so desperately sad to hear she has died. I will miss her and never forget her.
Claudette:
I am so sorry for your loss! Jesse was a welcome addition to us here and she will be missed.
I am at a loss for words to describe my feelings right now. I followed Jesse's posts was touched by many of them. One more light in our lives is extinguished and we are all the poorer for it.
I too have lost a brother through suicide, Claudette. If there is anything I can do to help or if you would like to chat, feel free to send me a message.
I pray for Jesse. I hope now that she has found solace.
-Sandy
Claudette, I really am sorry for your loss of your sister. I replied to Jesse's posts on a number of occassions and found her to be a wonderful person with a lot of helpful insights.
She will be missed. Sandra.
Oh :( That's just too awful.
She'd had such a hard life and I thought things might be getting better for her and I respected her for how she had coped. I'd replied to her a few times.
It's just not fair her story had to be so sad then had to end that way. I hope she finds peace wherever she is.
Claudette,
I did not know your sister beyond a few posts on Susans's, but I am still in tears. I am so sorry that she couldn't find her way through her troubles. I think many of us here have faced similar demons. The family you leave behind has to bear the pain and I am truly sorry you all have to face this. I hope she has found peace.
Claudette,
This is such terrible news. Although I did not know her well, she was one of the people who welcomed me here on the forum, and to know she is gone now, makes my heart very sad :'(
I wish you and your family all the strength to cope with this,
Love,
Marleen
I am stunned and completely saddened.
I ussed to look forward to seeing her post. She was a part of Susans for me.
You have my condolences on the loss of your family member. May she rest in peace.
**walks away crying**
:-\ I don't know what to say. I didn't know Jesse but I feel really bummed now...
I didn't know her, but it still saddens me to hear this. I hope she has found her peace. I am sorry for your loss and I hope you and your family may find comfort.
I am so sadden by this news. I was just wondering how she was doing the other day.
Claudette:
I want to express my utter sorry and to give you my sincerest condolences. Jesse was a valuable member of our little world here.
If you send me a copy of the obituary notice, we can post it in out forum notice.
Hugs to you and your family at this saddest time.
I just got off the phone with Cindy James, who just got off the phone with Jesse.
Apparently her ex-wife has gotten into her account. Jesse is alive and well.
My deepest condolences. Having lost a friend to suicide, I understand the sadness and pain you are currently enduring. Like you, I saw no outward indications that they were considering ending their life. I know that no matter how desperate things get for me, I cannot go down that route having seen the distress suffered by friends and relatives.
Very sorry for your loss
Quote from: Janet Lynn on October 19, 2010, 10:54:58 AM
I just got off the phone with Cindy James, who just got off the phone with Jesse.
Apparently her ex-wife has gotten into her account. Jesse is alive and well.
Thank goodness she is okay. I thought something was strange about the supposed date she killed herself yet there being two other postings from her account after that. What a mean and nasty person Jesse's ex-wife is. Absolutely horrific evil.
Right without wishing to steal her thunder Cindy has just phoned both me and Janet to let us know that she been in touch with Jessica.
Her account has apparently been hacked!
I will now post what I wanted to say the first time but didn't due to the propriety of a potential bereavement situation - namely:
If relatives are going to come on here professing regret at some apparently tragic event like this then THEY SHOULD DARN WELL GIVE MORE SUPPORT TO THE PERSON IN THE FIRST PLACE!
Sadly suicides do occur all too frequently in our community as you can see by the number of people who accepted this post at face value.
HACKING is a criminal act both in the US and the UK. It is never justified,
In this case the hacking was clearly done with malicious intent and I for one hope that the the full force of the law can be brought to bear on the perpetrators of this despicable and cowardly act.
Claudette, whoever you are, I hope you will read this. If you ever see me in the street you would be well advised to give me a very wide berth indeed or I will most assuredly give you the benefit of my opinions of your callous and deeply unchristian actions.
probaly a good idea to delete this thread before anyone else is taken in.
Quote from: cynthialee on October 19, 2010, 11:13:06 AM
probaly a good idea to delete this thread before anyone else is taken in.
I think we will probably leave it up for about 24 hours so that people who read it earlier have had time to see that it was a hoax.
I was deffinietly taken in, I had not had the pleasure of meeting her but I felt really bad when reading this. I am so hapy to know it was a fake post. I have had simular problems with my accounts being hacked by insecure significant others and nosy "friends" so I know what it is like and how it feels espeically when they pretend they are you and say horrible things to people..what a shame that some people may decend so low as to do something like this...
However yay she's alive! :angel:
To the Moderators, is there a way to append the original subject to reflect that it is a hoax? I have just come across this thread and was deeply saddened and now that I have read all of the posts I find that it is a horrific and troublesome hoax. I have gone from tears to anger in only a few minutes time.
To whomever Claudette is: What a cruel and evil thing to do to not only your ex, but to this entire community.
I am happy that Jessica is okay, but the pain caused to her and to all who have read this is saddening.
Deanna
Janet has now done just that!
Claudette or who ever you are:
You are a deceitful and spiteful person. And those are just your good qualities.
Your manipulative and hurtful statements were unwarranted and mean. I have no idea why you would want to hurt Jesse, nor play on our emotions with such a cruel hoax.
Do you have any idea how many of those afflicted with Gender Identity Disorder kill themselves because of people like you? I have lost my brother to suicide and I am still devastated by it. I myself have attempted suicide because of my angst of living in a body that I could not accept. I know the hurt and anguish suicide brings.
Yet your callus remarks caused us unneeded grief.
I hope whatever perverted enjoyment you got out of your childish prank is turned back on you someday, somehow.
Jenny was all too kind in saying that she would simply give a piece of her mind. For if I ever meet you on the street you'll find out how much upper body strength I still have!
-Sandra
And to Jesse:
I am sorry that you have been victimized in this manner. Truly know that we bear you no ill will or bad feelings. You have been here for others and have been someone that people in need can turn to. Thank you for all you have done.
I expect that you will take appropriate actions to take your account back. And if there is anything I can do to help, just let me know.
updated to put note to Jesse after my hands stopped shaking.
I tried changing the Subject line to make sure people would go back and read Janet's addition to the original post, but it only showed up on the first post. Not all the others like I hoped.
I got to spend the first part of my day in tears and in mourning. Now I have the rest of the day to fume and feel anger.
I can't believe that someone would think that treating us like that is a good idea. We are already emotional wrecks in many cases and some of us are never far from suicide. To post a fake suicide notice was about the lowest anyone could have gone.
Well whoever did this can take some satisfaction in the fact that my esteem for jesse is higher now than it ever was.
I have missed Jesse lately. I do read her posts. Her's in one of the avitar photos I've downloaded a few months ago. (OK Creepy, but I like to see my friends when I'm not online).
Now, I'm even happier. And next time Jesse comes in we can all have a really good laugh and chuckle with her.
Understand how some will feel angry. But lets face it, Jesse has to put up with this crap all the time.
Love ya Jesse.
I'm glad Jesse is alive and well. But to the ex wife, what you did was very wrong and uncalled for. It takes somebody pretty low down to do such an stupid, horrible and some words I can't say on here. You should be ashamed of yourself, there is nothing cute about hacking into someones account and saying that they killed themself or the like. And I believe what you did shows exactly what kind of person you are, and I am not going to say what it either. I am angry that you lied about this. I hope you have the ability to realize how many people you have hurt with your horrible lie, and I hope whatever your problem is you get over it.
Thank God she is actually ok. I didn't know her but I had seen her around susans and I was shocked. Cruel thing for the hacker to do though, but I'm glad it was fake.
Quote from: Janet Lynn on October 19, 2010, 10:54:58 AM
I just got off the phone with Cindy James, who just got off the phone with Jesse.
Apparently her ex-wife has gotten into her account. Jesse is alive and well.
Thanks for sorting that out Cindy and Janet. So that we don't have any more confusion I'm closing this thread.