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Community Conversation => Transitioning => Topic started by: Christy Edwards on November 01, 2010, 11:12:44 PM

Title: a little sad right now
Post by: Christy Edwards on November 01, 2010, 11:12:44 PM
Hi to all...I have a wonderful wife who is very supportive with me. She has a ways to go but is trying.
Anyway, please give us your thoughts and prayers, for my wife's mother is terminally ill and hospice came in today and said it could be 2 days to a  week. My wife is having a tuff time.
Thank u all for listening...
Title: Re: a little sad right now
Post by: Janet_Girl on November 02, 2010, 09:54:02 AM
Many do not understand Hospice.  I do,  My aunt was in it. :'(  My Dad was in it.  :'(

I am praying for you and your wife.  I really hope your MIL is made comfortable.

Hugs
Title: Re: a little sad right now
Post by: erocse on November 02, 2010, 12:15:16 PM
 I am sorry to hear about your mother-in-law. Mrs Erocse and I will be thinking of you and wishing all the best.

   My Grand parents  passed away a couple years ago. We were all present. My grand father was sick but still, even though hospice told us it would be "any day now" He held on for a week and a half. . My grandmother just didn't want to live after that , she stopped eating and simply gave up . The same thing happened when they said it "would be any day now". She managed to struggle for about a week before she passed.

   It can be an emotional roller coaster. But in the end we could take comfort in that they are not in any more pain.

  Hugs and love, erocse
Title: Re: a little sad right now
Post by: erocse on November 02, 2010, 02:29:43 PM
  It is the rainy season now on the Oregon coast. Here during the rainy season it can rain weeks on end.

   The sun came up this morning and with it brought clouds and a foggy drizzle. I was resigned to stay indoors today. The fog lifted and the clouds are gone now. I don't think I have seen as blue skies as we have right now. My wife and I are headed out the door for a bike ride. I thought of you and your wife Christy.

   One should always be  prepared for the sunshine even in the midst of a seemingly bad season.

   Love  erocse
Title: Re: a little sad right now
Post by: K8 on November 02, 2010, 04:08:07 PM
My thoughts will be with you, Christy, and with your wife and her family.

My spouse was under hospice care for four months until she died.  They helped her.  And I don't know if I would have been able to manage without them.  I hope that they will help your mother-in-law manage her final time and help her family get through this part of life.

:icon_bunch:

- Kate
Title: Re: a little sad right now
Post by: Cindy on November 03, 2010, 02:04:14 AM
Dear Christy,

My thoughts are with your wife and yourself. Take care of each other in this tough time.

Love

Cindy
Title: Re: a little sad right now
Post by: annette on November 03, 2010, 04:59:41 AM
dear Christy

sorry to hear that.
It 's allways tough to loss somebody.
I'll hope you 'll find the strenght to support eachother in this tough times.

love and hugs
annette
Title: Re: a little sad right now
Post by: Sandy on November 03, 2010, 06:05:53 AM
Christy:

My thoughts and prayers go with you and your wife during this very hard time for her mother.  Having been through this with my parents I know the issues you are facing.

There really isn't anything to be done but make her as comfortable as possible.  And take this time to communicate your good thoughts with her.

-Sandy
Title: Re: a little sad right now
Post by: spacial on November 03, 2010, 06:27:30 AM
Thank you for sharing Christy. My thoughts are with you both.

When my  mother-in-law died, I was surprised at how much it affected me. Partly because of the way it affected my wife, but also, because she really was a great friend.
Title: Re: a little sad right now
Post by: Christy Edwards on November 03, 2010, 12:20:25 PM
Thanks so much for all the wonderful things said. She did pass away last night and my wife is having a tuff time...And yes, the sun will shine again...Thanks....Christy
Title: Re: a little sad right now
Post by: Sandy on November 03, 2010, 12:43:23 PM
May the peace that passeth all understanding descend upon you, your wife and her mother.

My condolences at this time to all.
Title: Re: a little sad right now
Post by: erocse on November 03, 2010, 12:54:50 PM
   Christy,  Mrs Erocse and I both, have you and your beautiful wife in our thoughts. We are saddened by your loss. It is comforting to know your wife has the support and compassion  of a person such as yourself.

    Love, Erocse
Title: Re: a little sad right now
Post by: jamied on November 03, 2010, 03:14:45 PM
Christy, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your wife.

Love

Jamie
Title: Re: a little sad right now
Post by: Christy Edwards on November 03, 2010, 04:44:13 PM
Thanks and love to all for how u have lifted us up with encouraging words. This makes me more grateful for this wonderful forum....Hugs to all, Christy
Title: Re: a little sad right now
Post by: Suzy on November 03, 2010, 04:48:34 PM
Christy, so sorry to hear what you are going through.  You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Kristi
Title: Re: a little sad right now
Post by: Mrs Erocse on November 04, 2010, 07:34:44 AM
We are very sorry for your family's loss. Our thoughts are with you as Erocse said. Big Hugs to you both.
Sincerely,
Mrs. Erocse