I just had my doctors appointment today and my doctor said they don't do T there and she doesn't know of any place around here that does. She says she doesn't know anything about T.
I feel very frustrated and I don't know what to do now. My mom won't help me. She can't even talk about it. I can't live in this female body longer, it's killing me. I'm mistaken for a girl all the time... I hate it! I don't know what to do.
I am sorry to hear that. What part of the world do you live in?
Randi
I live in the USA... Upstate ny. I just don't know where I'm gunna go to get on T. My mom is in such denial. She won't help me. I won't even ask her b/c she doesn't want to talk about it. It's like she doesn't remember what I told her. It's a frustrating situation.
Suggest you get some decent accedemic documents and give them to her.
But she may just be trying to put you off. Can you ask to see a therapist?
I see a counselor. I'm hoping she can help me. What do you mean accedemic documents? Where do I get those? Are you talking about giving them to my doctor?
Yes.
There are many good accedemic texts which have been published on the net. You will need to look for peer reviewed texts, preferrable from a prominant university.
I've seen a few mentioned on here in the past. Sadly, so many of the accademics seem to have stoped posting in recent months. If I find any I'll post the links here.
You will need to print them out in full, and include the web address at the end. But I'm sure you knew that.
However, since you are seeing a councellor, then it may be better to concentrate on them. Though it won't hurt to send copies to your Dr anyway,
Sorry about my spelling. I can't spell to save myself. :laugh:
Just found these. The first is an excellent accademic site, The Journal of Clicical Endrcrinology and metabolism. It has a number of peer revied papers which can be saved as PDF then printed out.
http://jcem.endojournals.org/cgi/search?sortspec=relevance&journalcode=jcem&author1=&fulltext=transsexual&pubdate_year=&volume=&firstpage= (http://jcem.endojournals.org/cgi/search?sortspec=relevance&journalcode=jcem&author1=&fulltext=transsexual&pubdate_year=&volume=&firstpage=)
The second is a Magazine article from The Atlantic on the matter of a transgenderd child.
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2008/11/a-boy-apos-s-life/7059/ (http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2008/11/a-boy-apos-s-life/7059/)
Thank you for the website. I will check that out.
It seemed to me that my doctor wouldn't put me on T no matter what. She says they just don't do it there. She said she wouldn't know how to give it to me, like dosage wise. I'm just confused b/c they have it there, but why can't she put me on it? If she doesn't know how to give it to me, dosage wise can't someone else there at the hospital give it to me?
I might have to travel out to buffalo to get it. Someone gave me this site and I found this:
Dr. Paresh Dandona Diabetes-Endocrinology Center of Western New York
In short, a haven!
All three doctors are compassionate, professional, and competent. Dr. Dandona is internationally known in his field, and has had much experience with the TG community. The nurse, Patty, is a tremendous help with injections, and there is a nutritionist available to all who use the practice, not just diabetics. In short, a haven!
There's a number on the site to call. But what do I say? I get really nervous talking on the phone, especially when I don't know what to say.
maybe when the phone company puts phone lines into your area your doctor will be able to learn to use a phone to speak to people who do do T and get you some info?
There will be other transpeople in your town or county so she is just showing transphobia so you need to look into seeing other doctors or ask the counsellor to lok for some help for you.
I wish. My doctor could call but she doesn't know who to call.
Yeah, I called my counselor but she hasn't called me back yet. I have an appointment with her Nov. 15th so I think I'll have to wait until then to talk to her if she doesn't call me back.
In the meantime, should I call this Dr. Paresh Dandona even thought it's not in my area? It's like 3 and half hours away or should I wait and talk to my counselor and see if she can help me find a doctor that can put me on T? I'm just so anxious to get on T. There should be a doctor in my area, right? What kind of hospital doesn't have testosterone? Or do certain hospitals just not give it to patients?
I just surfed for 'New York State Transgender Organisations' and got pages of links so have a look through them to see if any are close or can help or advise.
Quote from: Dominick_81 on November 03, 2010, 11:20:57 PM
There's a number on the site to call. But what do I say? I get really nervous talking on the phone, especially when I don't know what to say.
I also have bad phone anxiety. What works for me is to write up a little script of what to say on the phone and read off it. With a doctor's office, there are only so many questions they care about on the phone anyway, so you can write a script for all of them. I also find it helps to close my eyes when I have to talk off-script.
Also, with regards to finding a doctor, how hard would it be for you to make it to NYC? There are a bunch of organizations in the city that provide T on a sliding scale and via informed consent.
Quote from: lilacwoman on November 04, 2010, 05:27:03 PM
I just surfed for 'New York State Transgender Organisations' and got pages of links so have a look through them to see if any are close or can help or advise.
I looked through some, but the closest is an hour away. I can't do this by myself so I'm not sure what to do if it's only support groups?
QuoteI also have bad phone anxiety. What works for me is to write up a little script of what to say on the phone and read off it. With a doctor's office, there are only so many questions they care about on the phone anyway, so you can write a script for all of them. I also find it helps to close my eyes when I have to talk off-script.
Also, with regards to finding a doctor, how hard would it be for you to make it to NYC? There are a bunch of organizations in the city that provide T on a sliding scale and via informed consent.
Yeah, I do that too sometimes, like jot down notes. But I still feel like I'm gunna ask a stupid question.
I'm not sure how hard it would be to get down to nyc. I wouldn't be able to go alone though. I would have to see if maybe my cousins could take the trip up to ny with me. And like me, the don't have a lot of money either so I don't know if they would be able to go, and I highly doubt my mother will go with me. So, I'm not sure.
Quote from: Dominick_81 on November 04, 2010, 07:28:46 PM
I looked through some, but the closest is an hour away. I can't do this by myself so I'm not sure what to do if it's only support groups?
With respect to all, this is one of the problems between Britain and the US.
Here, you're never more than about 50 miles from the sea.
There, 50 miles can be a trip to the nearest store. :laugh:
Quote from: Dominick_81 on November 04, 2010, 07:28:46 PM
I looked through some, but the closest is an hour away. I can't do this by myself so I'm not sure what to do if it's only support groups?
Support groups could be a good place to start. The people you meet there are likely to know of other local resources.
Quote from: Alexmakenoise on November 05, 2010, 09:16:37 AM
Support groups could be a good place to start. The people you meet there are likely to know of other local resources.
If there's a lot of people in the group I probably won't be able to do it... I'm extremely shy. I'm not much into group stuff b/c of my anxiety... it's too hard for me.